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Tannya: WELCOME BACK TO
LIVING808.
GOING TO SPEND A FEW MINUTES
DRIVING INTO A TOPIC DOESN'T
OFTEN GET A LOT OF ATTENTION.
STRAIGHT TALK ABOUT GRIEF.
LET'S JUMP INTO IT.
GRIEF AND I UNDERSTAND
DIFFERENT TYPES OF GRIEF.
YES.
GRIEF IS A VERY NORMAL AN
ORGANIC EMOTIONAL RESPONSE TO
A LOSS.
NORMALLY ASSOCIATED WITH
SOMEONE WHO PASSED AWAY.
BUT IT CAN ALSO BE ASSOCIATED
WITH THE LOSS OF SOMETHING
LIKE MARRIAGE OR THE LOSS OF A
PATTERN OR BEHAVIOR THAT WOULD
HAVE BEEN NORMAL IN THE
PREVIOUS STAGES OF LIFE.
SO THERE ARE DIFFERENT TYPES
OF GRIEF.
FOUR OF THEM IN PARTICULAR.
THAT EXTENDS SO MUCH INTO THE
DAILY LIFE THAT IT IS IMPAIRS
DAILY LIFE AND LIVING.
PROLONGED GRIEF.
PROLONGED GRIEF IS THE SAME AS
ACROSS LODGER AMOUNT OF TIME.
THOSE -- LONGER AMOUNT OF
TIME.
THEY CAN TURN INTO MENTAL
DISORDER, DEPRESSION OR
COMPLICATED BEREAVEMENT.
AFFECT DAY-TO-DAY LIVING.
THIRD TYPE OF GRIEF IS
TRAUMATIC.
SOMEONE AS VERY STRONG
MORE HORRIFIC.
NOT SOMETHING THAT THEY
ANTICIPATED.
IT COULD BE A MAJOR ACCIDENT
OR SOMETHING IN WHICH A PERSON
PASSED AWAY AS I RESULT OF A
TRAGEDY.
SO THAT IS TRAUMATIC GRIEF.
THE LAST TYPE OF GRIEF IS APP
TIES PA TORY GRIEF.
ANTICIPATORY GRIEF.
ANTICIPATES SOMEONE HAS A
LONGTERM ILLNESS AND THEY KNOW
THAT A PERSON WILL BE PASSING
AWAY AND SO THEY ANTICIPATE
THAT TYPE OF GRIEF.
THAT DOESN'T MAKE IT ANY
EASIER BUT CERTAINLY
ANTICIPATED.
Tannya: SO MANY DIFFERENT
TYPES OF GRIEF.
WHAT ARE STATISTICS FOR
INDIVIDUALS DEALING WITH
GRIEF.
STATISTICS WITHIN THE
UNITED STATES SHOW IN GENERAL,
ABOUT 2.5 MILLION INDIVIDUALS
ACTUALLY PASS AWAY EACH YEAR.
FOR EVERY PERSON THAT PASSES
AWAY, THEY ACTUALLY LEAVE FIVE
PEOPLE BEHIND THAT ARE GOING
TO BE GRIEVING FOR THEM.
IN GENERAL, REGARDING
COMPLICATED GRIEF, ABOUT 10 TO
20% OF THE POPULATION WOULD
EXPERIENCE THAT.
APPROXIMATELY LASTS FOR THOSE
INDIVIDUALS ABOUT ONE TO TWO
MONTHS FOR THAT.
CHILDREN IN GENERAL, ALSO
EXPERIENCE GRIEVANCE WELL TOO.
WITHIN THE UNITED STATES,
ABOUT SHOPO ABOUT 1.5 MILLION
CHILDREN ACTUALLY LOSE ONE
PARENT BY THE AGE OF 18.
QUITE SAD.
FOR CHILDREN UNITED STATES,
ALSO, 2 MILLION PER YEAR,
USUALLY LOSE BOTH PARENTS BY
THE TIME THEY WERE 18 YEARS
OLD.
EMPLOYERS ALSO HAVE A LARGE
IMPACT AS WELL.
GRIEF COSTS ABOUT $75 BILLION
PER YEAR TO THE EMPLOYERS.
Tannya: THINKING ABOUT IT
LIKE THAT.
WHAT MANGE MAKES GRIEF ADAPTIVE OR
NORMAL TYPE OF GRIEF.
RHESA WILL BE TALKING ABOUT
THE DIFFERENT STAGES OF
GRIEF*.
ADAPT ISSUE, IVE CAN GO BACK TO THE
NORMAL ROUTINES OF THE DAY.
NOT AFFECTED IN THE DAY-TO-DAY
FUNCTIONING.
SOMETHING LIKE MALADAPTIVE
GRIEF, PERSON EXPERIENCED
GRIEF, INTERNALIZE LIKE
COMPLICATED OR PROLONGED
GRIEF.
THAT MEANS FOR THAT PERSON IS
THAT HAVING A HARD TIME WITH
THEIR DAILY FOPPINGING.
DIFFICULTY EAT FUNCTIONING.
DIFFICULTY EATING.
GOING TO WORK.
TO THE POINT THEY DON'T WANT
TO LIVE ANY MORE.
Tannya: YOU CAN BREAK IT
DOWN INTO THE DIFFERENT
STAGES?
SURE.
AMERICAN PSYCHIATRISTS
ELIZABETH ROSS COINED THE
CYCLE GRIEF.
ACTUALLY MORE THE WAY THAT
PEOPLE COPE WITH GRIEF.
AND REALLY, THEIR RESPONSE TO
GRIEVING IN GENERAL.
NOT SO MUCH THAT IT'S LEAN
IHARA, BUT STAGES OF THAT.
PEOPLE CAN HOP BACK AND FORTH
BETWEEN THE STAGES.
INCLUDE FIRST STAGE IS DENIAL.
FIRST REACTION TO RECEIVING
THE NEWS OF SOMETHING PASSED
AWAY.
THEN THERE IS ANGER.
VERY NORMAL REACTION TO THE
LOSS OF SOMEONE AND TRYING TO
GET BEYOND FRUSTRATION AND
IRRITABILITY.
NEXT STAGE IS BARGAINING,
TRIES TO MAKE SENSE OF THINGS.
FEEL IF THEY WOULD LIKE TO
TRADE PLACES WITH THE PERSON
WHO PASSED AWAY.
REALLY JUST TRYING TO MAKE
SENSE OF THINGS.
THEN WE HAVE DEPRESSION.
THAT IS OBVIOUSLY THE SADNESS
PIECE OF IT.
REALLY JUST INTERNALIZING WHAT
HAPPENED.
AND THEN THE LAST STAGE IS
ACCEPTANCE.
ACCEPTANCE IS GETTING AROUND
THE FACT THAT YOU LOST SOMEONE
AND THAT YOU ARE GOING TO DEAL
WITH GRIEF AND HAVE TO MOB ON
IN YOUR LIFE -- HAVE TO MOVE
ON IN YOUR LIFE.
THOSE ARE THE STAGES.
NOT NECESSARILY LIP IHARA.
-- NOT
I CAN JUMP BACK AND FORTH.
IDEA OF HOW PEOPLE COPE WITH
GRIEF.
Tannya: THERE'S HELP OUT
THERE.
PROFESSIONAL LIKE YOURSELF.
HOW CAN PEOPLE GET IN TOUCH IF
THEY'RE HAVING SOME OF THESE
ISSUES?
SOME OF THEM ARE INCLUDE
INFORMAL RESOURCES LIKE
TALKING TO A FRIEND OR FAMILY
MEMBER.
REACHING OUT TO SPIRITUAL
ADVISORS, PASTORS, PRIESTS,
THEN THERAPISTS LIKE US, AND
OUR CENTER OFFERS GRIEF
COUNSELOR, COULD CALL US AT
808-375-7712.
OR JUMP ON LINE,
WWWHOOCOLLC.COM.
Tannya: ALWAYS A PLEASURE
SITTING DOWN AN GETTING EXPERT
ADVICE ABOUT A LOT OF