Mark: Hey, it's Mark here from making yours. And today, I am very excited to be
here in Miami with the number one French relationship coach expert in the entire world. Alex Cormont.
Sir, thank you so much for coming on the channel. It's an absolute pleasure. I've been watching
your work for a long time since well before I started. Um, your following is amazing.
Your subscribers love you, you're just the, the content you come out with is so crisp
and clean and it, most importantly, it really lives by the values that we live by on this
channel, which is empowerment through growth, self esteem and authenticity. And, and you're
spreading these amazing messages in Paris to hundreds and thousands of women in live
seminars and yeah, phenomenal work. Alex, I wanted to get you on here to pick your brain
on some of the key questions before we do. How did you get started? You've been doing
this 12 years now. Wealth of experience.
Alex: Yeah. So that was a funny story, you know, before to be a relationship expert,
I used to play basketball and since when, when I have, I'm tall
Mark: He's about 6'6"
Alex: Yeah. So when I was like 11 or 12 years old, someone helped me. It was my
mental coach. So he helped me to gain some self-confidence. And when I achieved my university,
when I went, when I went to college, I just started to look at people and they were missing
some self confidence. So I decided I would just start to blog write some articles about
my own experience. And guess what? Women came to me, they asked me, Alex, how can I gain
some self confidence with men? So I just decided that I would become a relationship expert.
So it started with a blog and now I have the number one YouTube channel in France about
how to be happy in love, how to be self confident, and how to just take the lead of your life
and not just be obsessed about a man.
Mark: I love that. So let's get confidence. Woman comes to you, she says, I want to be
more confident. One thing I love about Alex, by the way, he still does one-on-ones. Literally
this morning I'm in, he's doing one-on-ones and it keeps you so sharp as a coach. Even
after 12 years I can, you know, feel how sharp you are with your techniques and with how
quickly you get people results. Women come to you says, I want more confidence. What's
your, how do you help her do that? Say talking to men.
Alex: I think you know it's really important first to do some coaching on the field. That's
where you can get all the knowledge and you can find some specific advice that you can
give. I've seen a lot of women coming to me and telling me, Alex, I don't have self confidence.
And you know what? You have some self confidence. If you look into your life, it could be in
a professional life, it could be in your personal life. You will always look somewhere where
you are really confident. So you have something within you that we just need to make sure
we can add that, this to your love life. So me in my philosophy and really about doing
actions. So what will you do? What will you do to make your life better so you can, it's
start we know confidence start with the way you stand. If you stand upright, if you smile,
and if you can do some eye contact with people. The energy, we were talking on energy before,
the energy between two people will give you this confidence and you will start loving
your life. Most of the time self confidence is your own voice. You have your own voice
telling you that you're not enough. You're maybe, you're too fat, you're too small or
whatever it's saying. We can control this own voice by the way you stand and by the
way you interact with people. And if every single day you're doing something to have
your best, the best life possible, I can guarantee you, you will feel something different. You
will become the woman you want to be, and that's how you can grow self confidence.
Mark: It's so important, this action idea, because we do, we do a lot of work on our
clients' minds and helping our clients get their mindset right, but it also has to feed
back in because you stand up straight or you go risk a few talking to a few guys and maybe
you do have a rejection, but then you realize, Oh, it's actually fine and it feeds back in.
So you stand up a bit straighter, take more action, feeds back in and there's this in-out,
out-in loop that happens where that's the whole process of confidence isn't it? Those
two loops feeding back on each other.
Alex: Exactly. And it's like an athlete, you know, you will do some action and you will
get results and results, and results, and then your life will just changed. You will
not be too needy or codependent. You will change your vision of love and your vision
of you personally. So your values, will can become stronger.
Mark: I love that. I love that man. What is your, lots of clients come to me saying, I'm
totally obsessed with this guy. I can't stop thinking about him. Just this one guy who
I probably know isn't even that good for me, but I'm, I'm obsessed. I can't let it go.
What would you say to a woman to help her in that situation?
Alex: It's not an easy situation and I'm seeing this a lot. So you're putting these men on
the pedestal so you think this man is better than you and that's a real problem because
as you know, human, we are looking for what we don't have. And is that for men? It's really
this, we are looking for the woman that we cannot have. So if you're putting these men
on a pedestal, you're losing, you're really losing. So there is two options. Option number
one, you would consider that this man is your best friend. Why? Because we have your best.
When you're in a good energy, you are not thinking too much. Yeah, we are talking about
like you'll just relaxed and you're just confident. So you can be yourself and when you are yourself,
you're just so attractive. That's the reality. Option number two, something that I love.
You need to tell yourself, I will show to this man what he has lost. So we reverse the
situation. It's not him on a pedestal, it's you. And you will tell yourself he's not enough
for me. And if you repeat and repeat, your mind will unconsciously thinking that he has
to fight for you, which is really important.
Mark: Exactly. And that's what allows him to come to you. And naturally, if a guy stops
texting you, you'll actually lose interest. You'll actually be like, Oh well he's going
to lose me if he doesn't get his act together. And of course that makes a guy come back,
right?
Alex: And it's really important because when it comes back to you or when you do some actions,
you will feel confident. You will feel that the situation is changing. If not, you will
always be needy always looking at him and your life and your happiness will rely on
him, which is way not what we want. Honestly, this is the worst situation possible.
Mark: What do you think is the number one mistake that women come to you with that they're
making that maybe they're not aware of? What's, uh, what's a real challenging one?
Alex: I think the main mistake is that woman are most of them when they asked me some advice,
they are in a pattern. That means they always do the same mistake. And the same mistake
is thinking that love is giving. What do I mean by that?
Mark: I like that, I like that.
Alex: When you, when we received the education from Hollywood, from Walt Disney or from our
society or even I had two best parents, my father and my mother was amazing. But the
way I receive love is like, I need to forget myself in order to make the other person happy.
That's the main mistake you're doing. I want you to control yourself and I want you to
be yourself because that's the only one way to inspire a man. And most of them women who
are coming to me, they are forgetting themselves thinking that they will receive back. It's
not a good idea. I don't know if you're seeing this a lot, but me?
Mark: I had something really powerful recently, which was Helena Hart was talking to me and
she said, this is why nurturing is a masculine trait. And I went, what? And she said, nurturing
is a form of giving. It's a form of going out there to the world. And a lot for a lot
of women, they're doing it in, in a masculine way. They're, they're trying to give to receive.
And the true feminine is about receiving love. It's about taking it back. And that's why
the reception of gifts from him and then your appreciation for it creates that cycle, that
dynamic.
Alex: It's so important. And you know what? Most of the woman they are telling me, Alex,
I don't know how to do it. Crazy. I don't know how to receive love, and it's so important.
So that's something that I'm helping women to change and to know, think, selfishly, that
means, Oh no, I want him to fight for me. I want him to make him realize that this is
special, Oh, I want him to surprise him, to surprise me. So yeah, you know, to elevate
your standards and then I can guarantee you your love life will change forever.
Mark: Can you believe this guy doesn't speak English or didn't speak English a year ago?
Yes, he's fluent. He's fluent! Alex, what about relationships? What's the number one
thing that that women need to look for, should be looking for, to get a great relationship
that, that they may be missing and end up in these relationships with narcissists or
with people who don't serve them, people they don't deserve.
Alex: So I guess a relationship needs to be balanced. It's really important. So if you
give too much, you would not receive because of relationship from years. A value of 100%
so if you give 70% you will receive just 30% but you know, the secret formula that I've
experienced in my life is love equals attraction and happiness. That means we are always looking
at, do you think he loves me? The question is what can you do to make him attracted by
you? If you can have the attraction and the happiness, you will, relationship will be
stronger. If not, you will be with a narcissist. Why? Because we focused on love. You will
not receive what you want and you will always think, Oh, maybe tomorrow we'd come back as
the beginning of the relationship. 10 years later you'll just forgot yourself. So I want
attraction. I want happiness and then you will have the best relationship in the world.
Mark: I love it and I add in in the now, because a lot of women, they get in a relationship
and they say, Oh, he was great like six months ago or 12 months ago, and I sort of say, well,
would you date him based on the last 20% of the time you've known him? Like would you,
if based on this last little period, would you date him? And they say, well, of course
not. I'm like, all right, why are we still here? That balance has to be ongoing. It's
not just he invest for three months and then pulls out. If he invest for three months and
then stops for two months, well he's going to lose you in two months. Right.
Alex: That's really important because I've seen women like thinking, Oh, but at the beginning
of the relationship, that means 10 years ago.
Mark: It's like, cool, I'm glad that the beginning was great, but it has no relevance to now.
Alex: No, he has to fight as you said, like in this beginning of the video, someone has
to treat you. It's really important to make sure that it will give you value. It will
show you love, he will support you, and at the opposite, it will also attract you and
at the same time you need to do the same. That's where relationship today works. It's
really important.
Mark: This guy's phenomenal. Hey, check out Alex's website. Literally, the number one
person in France overseas doing this. What's your website, Alex.
Alex: I have two website and one in French. It's alexandrecormont.com. I willsend you
the link because it's in French.
Mark: It will be above and below the video.
Alex: And I have a website in English, frenchrelationshipexpert.com.
Mark: Make sure you check out Alex's stuff. He's got some phenomenal products on his website
and he really is such a loving, genuine guy that he just, you can see in his heart, he's
a big tough guy that wants to really bring more love to the world and he does a frigging
fantastic job at it. We're actually going to be doing in the future. If you'd like to
see us work together on a big stage, a comment below because we're planning some pretty cool
stuff.
Alex: that we'd be amazing.
Mark: to connect people together. Alex, thank you so much for coming in, sir. It's been
an absolute pleasure. You're a legend. Huge respect for your work. Make sure you check
out his website. As I say, he's very, very good at what he does. Don't forget to leave
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Alex: Bye bye.
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