"I lose my erection when putting on a condo, what can I do?" Welcome back to my channel
where I answer your questions and we talk about everything to do with having an amazing and
wonderful sex life. And today's viewer question is about losing an erection when putting on a
condom. So we all know that condoms are amazing. They protect you and your partner from sexually
transmitted diseases and they also protect you from unwanted pregnancies. However, some men can
experience a bit of a challenge with staying hard during the process of putting the condom on and
also later on during the intercourse with the said condom. And when it comes to keeping your
erection with a condom, there are really two main things to look at. And one of them is your
physical state, like physically what's happening to you and particularly to your lovely wand. And
second of all, your mental slash emotional state. When we're talking about the physical state:
so are you actually being stimulated during the process of putting the condom on or is there
that pause. And so you had an erection and then you started looking for a condom or started to
like trying to open the packet etc. And hence, there is no physical stimulation happening you
know to your penis, which then can cause a loss of erection. You might also be using the wrong
condom size which can be a problem. You might be using a condom that is too thick and hence
it is reducing the sensations during penetration. Maybe also you are on a certain medication that is
actually making it harder for you to remain hard, particularly in a potentially tricky situation of
dealing with a condom. And then there are also the mental slash emotional blocks,
like you know are you experiencing any kind of anxiety about putting the condom on or about
having the condom on, or maybe about the condom breaking during intercourse and then potentially
you know the pregnancy happening. Or are you maybe emotionally struggling with that physical
barrier being placed between your penis and your partner's vagina. For some men that alone,
that barrier can be a source of discomfort (mental or emotional) and hence that can lead to a loss of
erection. So what can you do to reduce any issues and to make sure that everything goes smoothly
and the way you want it to go in bed with your partner? First of all, make sure that you have
the right condom size. That might require a bit of shopping around and trying different condoms
on yourself, doing a bit of you know trial and error in order to find just the right match for
your penis. Secondly, choose condoms that are fairly thin. Because while thicker condoms can
be actually very helpful to gentlemen who suffer from premature ejaculation or who want to be able
to last longer and hence they don't want too much stimulation, thinner condoms are really amazing
for men who might struggle with losing an erection while putting the condom on or while penetrating
the partner with the condom. I've also heard from different gentlemen that it can be very helpful
to put a bit of lube inside the condom before you put it on. So while we all know to use a lubricant
on the outside of the condom, it is also a very good idea to put some lube on the inside because
that will provide you with a bit more movement and action, and stimulation happening inside of
the condom so that you are feeling more when you are penetrating her. Another important tip is to
have them ready, have them handy, you know ideally within reach, you know so you don't have to get
up, so you don't have to waste time looking for them or getting up to go and get them. If you
have to do that, that in itself will be very anticlimactic not just to your wand but also
to your partner. So while that does require a bit of thought and a bit of preparation, it is
an important one. Make sure that your condoms are nearby and ready to go. If you specifically
struggle with losing your erection during the process of putting the condom on (as opposed to
later on during penetrating her with the condom on) make sure to keep the stimulation going
while you're reaching for the condom, opening the packet, getting the condom ready, etc. So that can
be happening either with your own hand if you can manage to do everything with the other hand. Or
preferably you can ask your partner to stimulate you with her mouth or with her hands while you're
staying busy with the condom. Once you have the condom out and ready to apply onto your sausage,
make sure to hold your fingers around the base of your shaft in order to keep the blood in the
penis. So that while you are unrolling the condom and putting it on, or while your partner is doing
it you're not risking losing an erection in that very moment. You can also make putting a condom on
a part of your foreplay. This way you're actually going to make it more fun and more exciting
as opposed to this kind of completely separate thing that needs to happen. So here you're sexy,
you're sexual, you're having fun together and then suddenly you have to stop this and get
into a completely different mode of thinking, more rational thinking, more organizational activity,
etc. So you don't want that. You want the activity of putting the condom on to be actually a part of
the foreplay. And so including the condom in your play, having it handy and you know even
asking your partner to you know put the condom on while being sexy and sensual while doing that,
this can be very very helpful for you. If however you're struggling to keep your erection while
penetrating your partner with a condom, you can always remove the condom at some point - obviously
not when you're inside of her. But you know, pull out, remove the condom and then give yourself some
stimulation or ask your partner to give you some stimulation with her hand or her mouth if she's
willing. And then apply a new condom before going inside of her and before penetrating her again.
So that requires you obviously to have more than one condom handy and ready. If your discomfort
with condoms or you know your anxiety with condoms is actually about pregnancies and about condom
breaking, or you know with other kind of accidents happening, then use other forms of protection as
well. Don't just rely on condoms, make sure that there is another form of protection in use as
well. And there are many different options so make sure to find what really works for you. If you
are on medication that makes getting or staying hard tricky, particularly with a condom or while
putting condom on, talk to your doctor, you know explore other options. See if there is another way
to keep you healthy, well and happy with other kind of medication that doesn't impact on your
erections. And finally, if your struggle or discomfort or anxiety is more of that mental
slash emotional nature where you don't feel comfortable with that kind of physical barrier
being between your genitals and your partner's genitals, then have some intimate moment together,
discuss things, talk about this, tell her how you're feeling, ask for reassurance. You know,
some men have told me that it almost feels like a rejection that you know she's not wanting you
to go inside of her without protection. And even though rationally you know that
this is the right thing to do, your body can still struggle energetically and hence that
erection can go away because you feel rejected and not fully accepted by her body. So talk about it,
communicate, you know allow her to fully embrace you with her love and with her compassion so that
you don't feel that rejection from her body anymore. And if you'd like to learn how to
have better, stronger, more reliable erections every time - make to watch this video next!
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