Gay men are men who like men
Hello, and welcome to Slice of Ace! Just a note, when
I say 'gay' in this video, I'm referring to both homoromantic and homosexual people :)
Stereotypes are annoying, but they exist. You can't deny that they exist.
Being gay, like so many other things, comes with its own set of stereotypes
and misconceptions, and these are things that I actively try to avoid. Let me
explain. When I meet someone, I don't mention that I'm gay. In fact, I avoid the
topic. If I'm referring to a boyfriend, I will call them my 'partner'. I will refer
to them as they/them instead of he/him. I'd like to say this is for safety, but
it's more that. I don't want to be judged by any stereotypes or preconceived
notions. I want the person to know me before they know that I'm gay. There are
certain characteristics which align with these stereotypes of course. Not all
feminine men are gay, and not all masculine men are straight, but for a lot
of people, if they see a feminine guy, they will automatically assume that he
is gay. Personally I don't think of myself as a very feminine person, just
by nature. I don't have anything against femininity or feminine qualities
but that's just not me. So, I assume when someone meets me, if I don't give off any
hints, they will assume I'm straight. And I do kind of enjoy that because it keeps
me separate from those stereotypes until I get to a point where I trust someone
enough that I can share that with them. There are other stereotypes about gay
people that I - particularly as an asexual person - I prefer the distance
myself from. In a word: sex. Gay men are often perceived to be promiscuous and
being an asexual person, it's uncomfortable for me when people, knowing that I'm gay,
will associate promiscuity with me. I don't like people
assuming that I sleep around or have loads of sexual partners or that I'm
sexually adventurous. And I imagine for a lot of our gay people, the same can be
said for them. Not every gay man will be super, hyper sexual and a lot of people
will be annoyed if they're perceived that way. And finally gay "interests", I
guess. This is things like all gay people liking drag or female pop singers... I
don't have any examples because that's something I really don't like. I like
punk and metal music; I'm really not a pop guy. I'm not saying that I'm a
special gay and not with all the stereotypes. I'm just saying that gay
people are all different, we're all individuals, and I don't like being tied to those
stereotypes when I meet someone. And yes, there are some stereotypes that I do fit
into just by coincidence. I like Disney films and I love singing. I will sing
every day normally to myself because I hate singing in front of people. (I'm singing Paramore whilst writing these captions :P )
Some of my gesticulations can be quite, I guess, flamboyant. I noticed
when I was doing video the other day, I did something on my hands and it looked
really "gay". Um, and I thought it was really funny... anyway. I guess the point of
this short video is that gay men are men who like men. Nothing more. Nothing less.
Everything else is assumptions, preconceptions, stereotypes, prejudice. And
that is all I had to say today. Sorry this was a shorter video; the last
couple of videos have been quite long, and next weeks is probably going to be
quite long as well, and I don't have a lot of free time because of Christmas.
For my gay viewers out there, I'm interested to hear your take on this. Do
you actively try to avoid gay stereotypes so people don't peg you as
gay? Are you worried about people's preconceived notions about being gay? I'm
really interested to hear so comment below if you are, and you have something
to say. If you enjoyed this video, then please leave a like. I post videos every
Saturday, so if you want to see more, then feel free to
subscribe. That is all I had to say today have a wonderful day, and I shall see you
next time!
I'm going to make the outro shorter by talking really fast! Okay, let's try this
I like violent things?
And that's a wrap! We did it in like 15 minutes!!!