It’s Friday morning, about 9:30am.
Just took a shower, got ready for the day and was thinking about making a video.
One of the things that came to my mind was some of the bigger questions that guys asked
me.
I know that there are millions of guys out there who still don't understand the idea
of attraction.
What makes a woman attracted to a man?
What is it?
Is it looks?
Stuff in his pockets such as phone?
Money in his bank?
What constitutes a woman, seeing and interacting with a guy saying, this is someone that I
can see myself with.
This is someone that I desire, that I want to see again and again.
What is it?
The spark that's happening between a man and a woman is something that comes from thousands
of years ago.
What brought a man and a woman together?
What made a woman attracted to a man?
Before I get into that, what does that mean?
Think about the word “attract”.
What does it mean when you attract something?
It means you pull something closer to you.
When a woman is attracted to a man, she feels drawn to him.
She feels pulled to him for a reason.
Thousands of years ago, what drew a woman to a man?
What made a woman attracted to that guy?
It was because he was displaying inner qualities.
Inner qualities is basically a fancy term for your personality and how you act who you
are as a person.
On some level, there's a lot of science behind the idea of physical attraction and symmetry.
Somebody who has a more symmetrical face is inherently more attractive.
What is the most attracted to a woman is not the outer stuff, it's the inner stuff.
Why is that?
Everything was about survival and replication.
That's what we were here to do, to survive, to live as long as we could, and then to have
children and produce offspring.
We've looked for each other as a mate to find out if we can survive and replicate with this
person.
That didn't have to do with how tall the person was.
It didn't have to do with the money in the bank account.
That had to do with how a man could protect and provide for the family.
Could a man be dominant enough to make decisions?
Could he help the family survive?
Could he be courageous enough and fight through all the things that were happening back when
it was thousands of years ago?
What did he need to do to survive?
When the woman saw that, that is what ‘attracted‘ her to him.
Let me tell you a quick story about Jack and Jane.
Jack sees Jane at a party, she is beautiful.
Jack goes over, says hello to her, and they start talking.
All of a sudden you can see in the distance that they start hitting it off.
She's laughing, he's laughing.
They're doing a little bit touching and flirting, but you're not sure what exactly is going
on.
You're not exactly sure what is pulling the two together.
You make your own little assumptions.
You say, Jack's smooth with the girls or he got a good job.
Or Jack and his sister growing up together, so he always knew how to talk to the ladies.
They might say, Jack’s a good looking guy, works out three to four times a week, eat
healthy, he’s buff, and got a chiseled jaw.
Maybe that's how this is Jack hitting it off.
We make all the assumptions in our head because we don't understand what attraction is and
what it isn't.
We come up with whatever we can to make logical sense of the situation for Jane really liking
Jack.
Most guys don't know, and this is something that I didn't know for a long time either
is that the reason why Jane was so attracted to Jack wasn't any of the things that I listed
that we assumed.
The reason why Jane is so infatuated with Jack because he has displayed his personality
in such a way that makes Jane believe that he can be the type of protector and provider
for Jane.
What a lot of guys missing are some of the small things that are much harder to tell,
that are going on in an interaction with Jack and Jane.
When Jack went over there to go talk to Jane, he went over there with full courage.
He was able to talk to her like she's any other girl or any other guy in the room.
He was able to give her eye contact.
As they both were having a conversation, he was able to talk about the things that he
wanted to talk about, and not pound her with a bunch of different questions.
The way that he was talking to her was in a way that made him and her feel comfortable
because he was comfortable.
All these things I'm describing are the beginning of what attracts a man to a woman, the intangibles,
the way that you display your personality, and the way that you are doing confidence
when you're with a girl.
You might be thinking, Tripp, is that it?
I go over and talk to a girl and she's attracted to me?
Let me ask you this, when is the last time you went over to a girl and started talking
to her and you did it in full courage mode?
Were you able to talk to her like she was any of your other friends?
Were you able to display your personality in such a way that wasn't showing her that
you were afraid of her, that you had your act and life together?
These are some of the ingredients by the way of a charisma.
Guy who has charisma knows how to go over and comfortably talk to a woman and do it
in such a way that shows her that she's just like anybody else.