Words are a beautiful thing
There's no denying that verbal language can be one of the best parts about having a relationship
And it's difficult to deny that without verbal language having a relationship is pretty difficult
But today we're going to talk about something else
and we all know that words have the capacity to
Allow us to express how we truly are how we truly feel what we truly want what we truly need
They also have the capacity to completely hide those things
Words can be one of the single biggest barriers to authenticity and this is our subject for today
Their words and true thoughts words and true intentions words and emotions
Words and personal energy words and actions are completely out of sync
If we make our decisions in relationships based off of what someone says we can get ourselves into a whole lot of trouble
I'll give you some examples
Let's say a man pursues a woman and tells her that he will do anything that it takes to be with her and make her
Happy because he loves her so much but he's consistently emotionally unavailable and focuses his energy on his work
Or let's say a friend pledges her never-ending support but deep down
She's jealous and that emotional energy is just waiting for a time to usurp you
Let's say her father promises to stop drinking and apologizes profusely and it hasn't been the first time but deep down
He has a no intention of doing that. He's just telling you that so you'll forgive him today
Let's say a mother says I've always loved you and it's so hard for me when you don't see that and she spends her time
Scolding her child shaming him and looking at her child
like he's the reason for everything that went bad in her life a
person is critical of someone but is constantly trying to find ways to help them and make the other person like them a
Politician gives speech about his support of minorities, but deep down
He hates minorities isn't as actively signing bills to take away their rights and targets them you get the point
I'm gonna give you a little trick today for figuring out people and two for figuring out the reality in a situation
what I want you to do is to close your eyes and I want you to
Think back over the memories you have with a person
It doesn't matter who this person is could be anyone could be friend could be partner could be
Acquaintance could be business calling anything. I
Want you to think back over your memories of your interactions with them with one exception
You're gonna put them on mute
Put them on mute in a way where you can't even understand what it is that they're saying
It's gonna be like watching them in third person perspectives like a fly on the wall that is watching a silent movie of them
notice their body language
See if you can tell what kinds of emotions they're feeling what is truly underneath the surface of this person
Objectively, can you tell the truth about this person?
Try to observe them as if you have never watched them before
It is common for people to speak out of alignment with their personal trees
But it is not common for them to feel or act in a different way than their personal truth
Do you see any discrepancies?
play this out for at least ten minutes and
See what you have never seen before or what you may be afraid to admit too
Often we want to believe something about somebody so incredibly badly
That we hang on to the idea or the words that they sell us
Instead of the reality of a person now. This isn't a genuine relationship
It means you're in a relationship with illusion instead of in a relationship with reality
This simple practice of putting people on mute
Will help you to see the reality that's underneath the illusions that you so easily get caught up in
So try this out. Have a good week