I believe Ryan's great-grandma
was his biggest enabler over the years.
Granny would spoil Ryan with toys and money.
She would not hold Ryan accountable for anything.
He could do no wrong in her eyes.
Now, my mom is taking over.
My mom feels bad for him
so when he gets out of jail,
she'll go pick him up,
take him to friend's houses,
even my daughter, Sheila will enable her brother.
My mom and daughter will buy him food.
They've also put him in a hotel room at least 10 times
in the last three months.
Ryan is a master manipulator.
He comes off charming
so everybody believes what he says
and does what he wants.
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Heather says when she adopted Ryan and Sheila,
her family agreed with her
that they would raise the children as a team,
but she says something went wrong
because her granny, Jean and her mom, Christie,
and even her daughter, Sheila
have all turned Ryan into a spoiled brat.
Here's what Christie and Sheila have to say.
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My brother Ryan's personality has always been
it's my way or the highway.
If he doesn't get his way,
he throws a fit like a child.
I want my cigarettes.
No, you're not getting cigarettes.
You're not getting jack.
My (indistinct), Did you hear me?
The ones that.
Ryan.
The ones that I ordered with my own (beep) money.
My grandson loves drama,
and it goes along with Ryan and his entitlement behavior.
If he wants to do something,
he will find a way to engineer cooperation
to get it done his way.
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I've definitely enabled Ryan's lifestyle.
I do wish I didn't sometimes,
but I'm not gonna let him go without his necessities.
Sometimes I'm taking advantage of the money
that you give me.
I don't use it like I'm supposed to use it.
I talked to Christie and mom
and they're like, "Oh, we already got him food
and stuff like that."
And then I'm like, "Okay, well I feel
like he just scammed me honestly."
I took mercy on him with the hotel rooms.
I paid for his rooms so that he wouldn't miss court.
If he had missed court, we would have lost the bail money.
Ryan talks about getting his own place,
but honestly, none of us think that he'll be able
to keep his own place without being kicked out
with all the alcohol and the screaming, the yelling.
She's nasty, she's a foul behavior.
Get her out of here!
His temper has gotten to me when he drinks.
Why are you over here?
Why am I over here?
Why do you think, Ryan?
I don't know. I just told her
that you're not to be served here at 7/11.
I'm not getting any alcohol, I just had a.
Ryan, I'm looking right at you.
You're weaving.
Ryan's mouth can also get him in a lot of trouble.
He told me that he was getting food
and some guy just randomly punched him in the face.
I'm pretty sure Ryan said a racial slur to the guy,
but he honestly doesn't remember.
It breaks my heart
that he doesn't care more about himself.
I fear he's just gonna end up being a sewer rat or dead.
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All right, Sheila, Christie,
I'm glad you're here.
Thank you.
I'm not sure that this is gonna be easy for you all.
According to Heather, she and I've been talking
and she says she's done.
She says she's done enabling,
she's done picking up the pieces
and what's more,
and this is probably the most important thing,
she's done feeling bad about whatever happens with Ryan.
And, I'm curious where the two of you are in this regard,
because he's gonna come out here in a bit
and I'm gonna talk to him,
and I wanna know if you two
are assets or liabilities for me,
'cause my intention is to give him a damn wake up call.
Yeah.
So, where are y'all?
I feel bad for him and everything,
but at the same time,
I mean, maybe you can talk some sense into him
because I feel as a sister I've done everything,
like it breaks my heart, he's.
Well, let me try to talk some sense to you.
Yeah, definitely.
You said you feel bad for him.
I feel bad for him.
What is it you feel bad for him about?
He is a lazy suck mooch.
He manipulates, lies, cheats, steals,
takes from other people.
What about that triggers compassion in you?
No, I guess I totally understand that and everything,
I guess, I mean, just cause like he's got really bad anxiety
and also that my great grandma,
both of our grannies passed away and everything,
so it's just,
Cycle of life. I don't know, like I feel,
yeah, no and I understand that and everything,
I guess I just like feel bad that,
like he has to live this lifestyle.
He feels he has to
to be like that social butterfly and everything.
No, he doesn't.
Yeah.
He doesn't have to live this lifestyle.
He chooses to live this lifestyle
because you give him money.
You buy him food.
You make it possible for him to do it.
She's made it possible for him to do it.
You have all crippled him no less than
if you took a bat and hit him in the knees.