What are five signs that your ex is pretending to be happy without you? That we're going
to be talking about in this video, but first my name is Clay with Modernlove.life. We help
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So let's go ahead and get into this. We have five signs that your ex is pretending to be
happy without you. So the first one is that they have bounced back from this breakup very,
very quickly, suspiciously quickly, right? Breakups have an emotional imprint that they
leave on us. They have an effect on us. And if your ex is not going through that natural
grieving process during the loss of your relationship then it shows that they are not dealing with
their emotions in an authentic, genuine sort of way. In fact, they may be pretending to
hide those feelings. They may be stuffing them down and trying to pretend that they're
not there.
For better or worse we have this bizarre situation has a society where we think that if we just
do the things that somebody would do if they were over a breakup then we will miraculously
be over our breakup. But it doesn't work that way, obviously. You have this whole emotional
component that needs to be worked on and you're not just going to fix that by jumping into
a rebound relationship, or posting a lot of happy photos on social media, or anything
like that. So if your ex has moved on suspiciously fast that's definitely pointing toward the
direction of them just pretending to be happy.
The second sign that your ex is pretending to be happy is if they are doing self-medicating
types of behaviors. Yeah, breakups can be tough and they can have an emotional impact
on people. We've already talked about that. But sometimes people will try to cope with
this situation in an unhealthy sort of way by drinking a lot, by potentially taking drugs,
or doing other sorts of not so great activities, smoking, stuff like that. Potentially they
might even resort to things like emotional eating or going out partying all the time,
things that may not necessarily be bad, but it's just something that they're doing to
cope with the emotions that they're feeling as a way of masking those emotions, as a way
of getting away from those emotions, right?
And so, you want to look for these and if that's something that your ex is doing then
it's also pointing towards the fact that they're just pretending to be happy, pretending that
everything is in order, but you know really they're dealing with your emotions in maybe
a not so productive sort of way.
Next up, sign number three, is if your ex is aggressively badmouthing you. Now, it's
one thing to pretend that you've moved on and to go on and get into some terrible rebound
relationship, or something like that, but if your ex feels like they need to go out
of the way to stab you in the back and twist the knife, or something like that, by bringing
up all of your faults, by bringing up how terrible you were, or making it clear and
well known either to your face or to maybe mutual friends that you have, or maybe they're
unloading on you on social media or something like that, it just shows that they really
aren't that happy in their life without you.
I mean if they were really all that happy they'd just go on and live some happy life
and they wouldn't worry about, putting you down and making you feel terrible, and pointing
out to everyone that you know that you're an awful person, or anything like that. Instead,
it's really just showing that they are very poorly masking their emotions towards you
and very poorly dealing with those in a way that is not really very effective., right?
So before we go on with the rest of our list I want to let you know that we do have a whole
video series on signs that your ex wants you back or maybe he doesn't want you back. You
can go ahead and check that out up there in a video card. Go ahead and check that up if
that's something that's interesting to you.
Otherwise, let's go ahead and continue. The fourth sign that your ex is pretending to
be happy is if they block you online for no good reason. It's one thing if you do something
that causes them to want to block you, like maybe you send like countless desperate needy
text messages, or maybe you try to twist them in a sort of way where you're kind of like
manipulating their emotions in order to try to get back together, or something like that.
It's totally understandable. Or maybe if you've done something like awful to hurt them or
betrayed their trust in some sort of way like cheated on them or something, that's totally
understandable, but if they block you for good reason then it may not necessarily be
about you, but it could be more about them and what they are feeling, right?
They might just not want to be able to see your updates. They might not want to see you
on social media because potentially it can be too intense, too emotionally difficult,
for them to see your posts, to see your updates, and all of that. Definitely an indication
they're not over you, but also definitely an indication they're not happy with their
life without you either. Otherwise, they wouldn't feel the need to block you. Otherwise, you
wouldn't feel the need to wall you out of their life. So that's something to look out
for. That something to pay attention to.
And the fifth sign that we have for this video here is that they are in a rebound relationship,
but not just any kind of rebound relationship. I mean, a rebound relationship in and of itself
is probably definitely a sign that they're not totally happy, or totally over you, but
if they are in a rebound relationship with someone who is either very, very, very similar
to you, or if they're in a rebound relationship with somebody who is the exact polar opposite
of you in some capacity. So maybe they always complained about how you were, I don't know,
stingy with your money, or something like that, but then they ended up in a rebound
relationship with somebody who's kind of a spendthrift then that could definitely indicate
that there's like a rebound relationship thing going on, but it also definitely indicates
that they are just kind of pretending to be happy in their life without you, because yeah,
rebound relationships, they have their own collection of challenges.
We made a whole series on rebound relationships. You can check it out up there. But beyond
that, if they're in a rebound relationship with somebody who is either very similar or
very much a polar opposite to you then it shows that they're trying to have a relationship
that's a reaction to the relationship that they had with you. Either they're trying to
recreate that same kind of relationship with someone else for whatever reason, maybe related
to the reasons for the breakup in the first place, or they are trying to create a relationship
that is the polar opposite of that relationship as well. And this means that they're not happy
in their life without you because their new relationship is still based on the relationship
that they had with you. Kind of at the core of that new relationship, even though the
person is very, very, very different from you they are still having a relationship with
you because it's based on that relationship.
Now, I'm not talking about just like learning from the past and saying like, "Oh yeah, I
always dated jerks, so let me date somebody who's nice to me," or something like that,
but I'm talking about certain qualities that go beyond just like learning as you go, and
it's like, oh wow, that person seems eerily the exact polar opposite of me in a way that's
not striving for a healthier relationship, but it's just like, wow, that is unusual,
right? So you want to look out for these five signs. Once again, those are, one, bouncing
back suspiciously fast. Two, self-medicating through like drinking, going out, drugs, things
like that, chain smoking, emotional eating, whatever. Three, aggressively bad mouthing
you for no good reason. Four, blocking you online for no good reason. And f,ive having
a rebound relationship with somebody who is very, very similar to you or the exact polar
opposite of you.
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so since we put it out, maybe a little bit less. So you might want to check that out
if you're curious about that. And with that being said, you may also want to check out
this video series over here on signs that your ex wants you back or doesn't want you
back. Or you might want to check out this video over here. But once again, my name is
Clay. Thank you so much for watching this video and I'll talk to you next time. Please
take care.