- Heya Playa.
Your confidence is not determined by your attractiveness.
This is something that irks me so much
so I wanna talk to you guys about it.
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I recently did a poll over on the community
tab of my YouTube channel asking you guys
what are your biggest struggles when it comes
to confidence and about 44% of you said
it was due to attractiveness.
44%, that's almost half of you guys.
So why do we put so much emphasis on attractiveness?
And why does that determine our confidence levels?
Now look, I get it, attractive people
have an easier time navigating the world.
People sort of give them attention,
give them things, praise them, let them get away with stuff.
But that doesn't mean just because you're attractive
that you're actually gonna be confident in who you are.
There are so many attractive people
that are insecure or doubt themselves
or just don't believe in their own ability
to change the world.
Meanwhile, there are tons of people out there
not even thinking about their attractiveness
level and just focusing on doing the things
that they wanna do.
They're being successful at it
because they're not creating an artificial
barrier for themselves.
I wanna say it as clearly as I can, looks are important.
But if you base the sum of your character
on your looks, you will lose.
Some people are just dealt a good hand.
Their genetics are working overtime
to make them look amazing.
But that doesn't mean the person themselves recognizes that.
Sometimes there's a disconnect between
how we look and how others perceive us
and how we perceive ourselves.
And that's where confidence comes in
because it's not something that you're naturally born with.
There are people who naturally develop it
over time, but the majority of us have to work
on building our confidence.
We need to have experiences and interactions
with others to see where our confidence
meter lies and how we can work on improving that
because being attractive can only take you so far.
What really stands the test of time
and is sustainable is having a good personality.
If you're the kind of person that's caring
about others, that's loving, understanding,
listens to them, and you're compassionate,
that's something that's gonna stick with people.
As you get older, as your looks start
to fade away, those good moral characters
are actually gonna be implanted in people's minds
and that's what they're gonna remember about you.
I know it may be difficult to look at the world
like that now because you're young
and looks really matter but if you think about
the long-term play, if you think about
who is the person I want to be going forward
in the future, you'll see that looks
aren't really something that's at the top
of that equation.
And that's why if looks aren't on your side,
you need to find something that is long-term
and sustainable.
And that means diving deeper into your core being,
finding your strong points, what makes you
a unique and awesome person, and putting that
front and center for the world to see.
Maybe you're someone that's really funny.
Your strong skill might be taking real-life
situations and turning them into humorous stories.
Or maybe you're someone that's talented at music
or you know a lot about comic books or video games.
You can be an expert in those things and impart
and share your knowledge with other people.
And that can make you someone that they
wanna clamor to and has nothing to do
with your attractiveness.
Yes, we're attracted to attractive people.
We wanna look at them.
We wanna be in their physical presence
just to absorb their aura.
But that doesn't mean that they themselves
are confident people and that they're even
putting their attractiveness as their highest
point of confidence.
I think for every single person, we need to look
deeper inside to see who we are, what makes
us unique and special, and put that out there
for the world to see because if you don't,
if you put your attractiveness first
and you're constantly determining whether
or not you're gonna be confident in the situation
based on how attractive someone perceives
you to be, you're always gonna fail.
And I don't want you to fail. I want you to succeed.
So I want you to stop putting attractiveness
ahead of everything else.
That's just a little rant I wanted to go on.
I'm happy that you guys are open and honest
in the poll and I hope you guys will continue
to share your thoughts and ideas there.
What I want you to do now is to check out
the video over there on the side to learn
more about how to build your confidence.
I wanna share my secret trick on how I build
my confidence with you.
So go check that out and I'll catch you guys tomorrow.
As always, love and peace.