Is your ex just responding to you to be nice and polite, or do they actually care about
being in contact with you, connecting with you and knowing what's going on in your life?
That is exactly what we're going to be talking about in this video, please watch through to
the end, because we're going to be discussing how to know which is going on here, but also what you
can do in each situation as well. And with that being said, let's go ahead and get started.
Hey, there it's clay with modern love.life. And today we are, of course talking about how to
know if your ex is just responding to you to be nice, just responding to you to, to be polite,
or if they actually care about what is going on with you. So the first thing that we want to
talk about here is that if they're just being nice, if they're just being polite with you,
if they're just, uh, trying to let you down easy or something along those lines,
they're probably going to not give you a lot of emotional depth in your responses,
um, in, in their responses rather, um, that is to say they are probably trying to wrap up this whole
period of time that they had with you and just move on to whatever's next for them.
And to create distance between the two of you, they might respond to you to be polite.
They might, you know, ask you how things are going. They might, you know, ask you about,
you know, your job or your family or something like that. But they're probably not gonna go
much deeper than that. So if you want to find out if they're just being polite, um, or if
they really do genuinely care about you, what you want to do is you want to try and deepen
the emotional connection to see if they open up more. Now, if they actually care about you,
if they actually want to stay in contact with you for a genuine reason, then they're going to follow
you to that emotional place. And they're going to reveal to you emotional things that go beyond just
surface level connection. And if they do this, then they actually do genuinely care about you and
are trying to really just connect with you. Okay. Um, and if they do not, then they're really
just being polite, just trying to let you down easy, just trying to not be adversarial
and aggressive in ending the relationship. You know, some people just either aren't that way,
or maybe the circumstances of your breakup, didn't call for them to end things that way. And so they,
they, they really just are trying to be polite at that case, but it's really about
how emotionally deep can they go with you. So you're gonna have to actually put yourself
out there a little bit, um, and actually take things to that emotional level. Remember what
we talk about is you are probably going to have to lead by example where you want them to go.
You're going to have to be willing to go there first. Okay. Um, so although it would be great
and it's not outside the realm of possibility that they could open up emotionally to you first,
you are going to have to be willing to go to that emotional level first yourself too, because
that is going to inspire them to want to follow you to that emotional place.
Okay. So be willing to take things beyond surface level communication about weather, about work,
about, um, you know, things that happened in the news or video games or sports or TV
shows or whatever, you know. Sure. It's fine. Most conversations start there,
but you're gonna want to start moving it down to the emotional level pretty quickly to see
if they follow you there. If they do follow you there, then that's a huge indicator that they
actually genuinely do care about you and actually genuinely do wanna be in contact with you
in case you are wondering the best way that you can actually lead them to that emotional place.
That emotional level of connection is through a process called rapport building. Okay. Uh, we
cover this in our new course called relationship repair, probably the most, um, noteworthy thing
that we talk about inside of relationship repair is what we call the same team conversation.
That's important too. And you may wanna have this conversation with your partner, but there's also a
section in there on rapport building. This is a concise explanation on how to actually build an
emotional connection. Okay. How, how to actually shift things down to that emotional level and to
create that strong emotional connection. If you wanna learn more about that, please go ahead
and check out modern love.life/r R uh, R is in relationship R is in repair. You can find a link
for it down below in the description box as well too. But anyway, if you do this and your partner
goes with you on this journey, then they're probably interested in connecting with you on
an emotional level and probably have genuine, um, um, intentions when they're connecting with you
and staying in contact with you. Otherwise they might very well just trying to be polite. Anyway.
I hope this helps you out hope this, um, answers this for you. If you like this video, please make
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