- What to do if you scared him off.
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what to do, if you feel like you scared him off,
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So if a guy you were dating suddenly disappears
or has started to show less attention,
and he seems less into you than before,
usually it means that you have scared him off in some way.
It is important at this point, not to obsess over this,
but to really be aware of your actions
that could have caused him to run off.
Though here are some examples of what can make a man
get turned off and want to be away from you.
Pleasing him, trying to impress him,
making him into your whole world,
being negative, grumpy, blaming everyone else
apart from yourself, pursuing him, chasing him,
having no boundaries, being insecure and needy,
sleeping with him way too soon.
If you have displayed any of these traits,
you have most likely scared him off.
So what do you do in this case?
Well, you're going to have to start from yourself.
You will have to work on yourself at this point.
If you are a very insecure and needy woman,
you can only fake being a secure women for so long.
After a while, it will come out during the relationship.
This is why it's important to acknowledge your weaknesses
and work on them,
especially if you've been dating and you have noticed
that you do not last more than two months.
Date guy and they break up with you.
This is no bad luck it is a pattern,
and there are valid reasons for it.
And I will go over three examples of those turnoffs.
Vet solutions.
Number one.
You slept with him way too soon.
If you have slept with all the guys you have dated too soon,
this is not a good sign.
Too soon means man, he has not invested in you enough.
A man needs to invest into you properly
before you should trust him and give him your body.
As it says in the Bible, guard your heart, don't wear it.
Honestly as it does not make sense.
This is a big chance for manipulators to play you
and use you.
Giving a man your body way too soon
is undervaluing yourself.
Investing properly, showing up on time
and being a man of his word.
It is in respecting your boundaries of not having sex
too soon, or the reason that you're not ready, for example.
It is letting him impress you and court you for months
and meaning it.
He needs to spend time with you
and show you interest in your life, in your goals,
your friends and your family, and the things that mean
the most to you.
Please do not sleep with him
because you have not had sex in over one year,
and you think that you want it.
Ladies, men and women are not the same.
We do not think the same,
we were not designed the same,
our brains are wired differently.
If you're going to go around in your dating life and say,
I should have the right to have sex because I need it.
If a man can do it, I can do it to about hundred.
This type of attitude I may say,
you're not gonna go very, very far.
Now in my opinion,
and he'll make love to you
than he has his heart attached to you only.
If he doesn't, to him is just sex.
You have to change your thinking.
Practice self-control and change the way you think
about yourself and your body.
You are a precious jewel.
Then you treat yourself as a precious jewel that you are,
he will also.
Number two.
You acted insecure.
Acting insecure in any relationship is a turnoff.
It displays a lack of confidence and also undervalues you.
Acting insecure is telling him that you notice,
that he has been looking at the other woman
or accusing him of seeing other woman behind your back.
Calling him first after he said he was the one to call you,
being too eager and nervous to just wait.
Being jealous is also a sign of insecurity.
Not trusting him is another sign.
And hun, if this is you,
you definitely need to work on this issue.
This is simply a lack of self love.
You need goals and passions to work on in your life
and take the focus off the guy and back onto your path.
If you're jealous of the other woman,
you need to practice not to compare yourself to others.
Invest in self love.
And ladies for this I actually made
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Take it one step at a time and I promise you,
that your entire life will be different when you start
to love your own self,
instead of relying on a man to feed the love
you are lacking.
Number three.
You are a people pleaser
You think it impresses him.
You may think that being a people pleaser and agreeing
with everything he says or suggests
and going with the flow all the time impresses him.
Nothing can be further from the truth.
Doing this gives you almost zero personality.
Men know when doing this,
you're trying to impress him,
or you are scared of voicing
your own opinion in fear of losing him.
And ladies, it's a big turnoff.
It is nice that you do not want to argue
or be negative woman,
but there are ways of having your own mind
in a positive way.
Being a people pleaser is often a reflection of yourself
and lack of self-esteem,
who comes across as being desperate and can get turned off
and leave or stay and take a full advantage of this.
If this is you, learn how to work on yourself,
setting healthy boundaries.
Learn that men are the ones who need to impress you more,
more than you need to impress them.
Why?
Because we are about pursuers.
We were designed to do that for a woman.
Men live for beds.
Let him step it up
and show you as it is a part
of their DNA.
Ladies, if you would like to know how to get a man
to pursue you, please watch my video right here.
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