in today's video, I want to go over three things that he's likely to do if he loves
you. Hi i'm Crystal Irom and i'm one of the top love dating and manifestation coaches for smart
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anything. In today's video I want to go over three things that he's likely to do if he loves you.
The first is that he shows up for you really consistently. Now this is going beyond just
sending you cute memes and sending good morning texts and good morning beautiful
it's beyond that, okay? It's really over time how is he showing up for you. If he is making an
effort to check in on you every day, to speak to you on the phone, to see you really consistently,
then he's really starting to care for you. Now the thing that you have to keep in mind
is that this requires a certain amount of time. It doesn't require a long time, but it does require
more than a week or two. It is not that hard to show up for someone over two weeks.
It's a very different thing if you're doing that over four, five, six, nine months,
right? That's someone that you actually want to be a part of your life. Someone that you
actually want to spend time with. So, if you have been seeing someone for four or five months
and every single day you hear from this person, there is a good chance that he
really cares for you, that he loves you. This also means that he is showing up for you even
when things aren't amazing or even when he's going through a hard time or even when it's not as easy.
Again, it's really easy to show up when things are super easy. It's easy to show up at the beginning.
That's why when someone says like "oh i've been dating someone for two weeks and every single day
he sends me a good morning beautiful text" i'm kind of like, okay well let's see how it goes.
That doesn't take that much, okay? It's very easy at the beginning, and side note if it's not easy
at the beginning if he's not showing up for you even at the beginning that's a bad sign because
it's the easiest at the beginning. If it's not amazing to start, it's not going to get better.
But it also doesn't mean that if it's amazing to start it's going to stay the same. You have to
look for that consistency over time and you want to look for it even when things aren't ideal.
So even if he's going through something if he's still taking the effort to be like "i'm
going through something but i'm still thinking of you, i can't wait to see you" that's a different
thing. The other way that this shows up is that he does what he says he's going to do and he does it
consistently and over time if he tells you that he is going to call you on Tuesday then he calls
you on Tuesday, if he tells you that he's going to see you over the weekend then you see him over the
weekend, right? Sometimes people like to say like "oh words don't matter it's just about actions",
or people put an over emphasis on someone's actions without paying attention to their words
or vice versa. What you really want to look for is alignment between their words and their actions.
What he says he means and he does, right? You want to make sure that there's an actual match because
they both matter. If he's treating you like a girlfriend, but he's telling you he doesn't want
a relationship there's a misalignment there. Same as if he is telling you that he cares for
you but then he doesn't show up for you. So you want to find that alignment between actions and
words. The other way that you can think about the showing up is that he's showing up for you
he's showing that he cares for you, even when there isn't that much in it for him.
Like when there's not going to be an immediate payoff, when there's not an immediate benefit.
So what i mean by this is if you're spending time with him, if you're
getting to be together in person and you're hooking up, or you're cuddling and your physical
then there's something in it for him. And not in a bad way, I don't mean this in a negative
way. But I mean there is some benefit for him, as well. If he's trying to do things to show
you that he cares about you even when he doesn't get that sort of immediate payoff that's a really
good sign. So one of the things that really stood out for me when I was getting to know my husband,
he was living abroad and I was living in New York. One day we were talking on the phone. I
really wasn't feeling well and he says "you know you really don't seem like yourself today" and I
started crying and I was just like "oh, I really don't feel good. I don't feel that at home here,
i'm just like feeling really sad" and he was just like "oh, i'm really sad to hear that i'm sorry
you don't feel good". And an hour later I get a knock at my door and it was a soup delivery.
He had called the restaurant in my neighborhood and ordered me soup and had it delivered to me.
It was like such a small gesture, but there was no immediate payoff for him,
right? But he was thinking what can i do to show her that i care? I'm not there,
I can't physically take care of her, but what could I do that might make her feel better?
So that to me was a clear indication that he was really thinking about me in a more serious way and
that made me think about him more seriously. The second thing that he's likely to do if he loves
you is he's going to be planning a future with you and in a really specific way. If he's thinking
about things that you can do together going forward, even if it's three, six, nine months out,
a year out it's likely because he loves you. If he's able to say "i'm gonna get tickets for
something that's happening next summer" and you're in February it's because he's really
seeing more of a future with you he can look out and see that you're still a part of his life.
Men don't do that if they're not really seriously considering you. They'd be much more likely to
say "let's just see how things go" and sort of keep the plans for the next two weeks or so. So,
if he's looking ahead and he's putting dates and times to plans with you in the future it's a good
chance that he really cares for you that he loves you. The third thing that a man is likely to do if
he loves you is he is going to use his resources to make you happy and to make your life better.
So men are judicious with their resources they're very careful about them. They don't want to use
their time, their energy, or their money if they don't really have to. They're going to do sort of
the minimum that's required unless they're really feeling galvanized by someone. If they really feel
compelled, men are often happy to spend whatever resources they have. Whether it's time, energy,
or money or some combination of those three on someone that they really care about. So, if he's
thinking of ways to make you happy, thinking of ways to make your life better, if he's
generously giving whatever resources he has to you, it's because he really cares for you.
The way that you can think about it is that it's going to be unique to each man, so a guy who
doesn't make a ton of money is going to look very different than a man who's a multi-millionaire,
right? Like they have different resources available, but that doesn't make one more
valuable than the other. If a guy doesn't make a ton of money, but he's willing to spend some
money and he's putting a lot of thought and energy into planning something for you, that's going to
be really meaningful then maybe a guy who has a ton of money spending the same amount that didn't
take a lot of time or energy, right? It's going to require less of him he is giving less of the
resources he has than the guy who doesn't have as much. So, that's sort of what you want to be aware
of is like how much is this man willing to give me? How much of his time how much of his energy?
If he is giving you the minimum possible he's trying to see you maybe once a week or every
other week, and he's trying to keep everything as low-key as possible so he doesn't have to expend
any of his resources it's because he doesn't really see things moving forward with you. He
doesn't have that level of care as he would for someone that he's willing to give so much to.
Men know that if they really fall in love with a woman, they will give her pretty much
everything. And they don't want to fall into a trap where they're giving and giving and giving
to someone who isn't really going to be a part of their life going forward. They want to be
judicious with their resources and so if someone is being very generous with what he has with you,
it's because he's really looking at you as someone that he could love or is falling in love with.
The majority of men at their core are very giving. They want to give they want to provide,
so if you're finding that you're with someone and he doesn't seem to want to give you anything
it's probably a sign that he doesn't love you, right? So, that's something you would really
want to be aware of and someone who's giving to you very generously always thinking of ways
that he can make your life better and easier using his resources for your betterment. It's
because he cares for you so those are some things that you look out for to determine if
he really loves you or not if he's doing those things. It's a good sign that he does.
I have a free workshop available for you, it's called the magnetism formula,
and it goes through my whole process for manifesting love. If you're looking for that
happy healthy loving committed relationship, I want you to check it out it is so good very
very valuable so i'll be sure to link it below. But you can also just visit magnetismformula.com
so that is all that i have for you today, I will see you in the next video.
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