- If you will behave the way I'm going to share
with you, ladies, you will make it impossible
for him to waste your time.
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how to spot them and how to get them to naturally drop off,
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So my ladies, without further ado, let's start.
So he will only be able to waste your time
if you will allow it.
He will only be able to control you,
take you for granted, and use you if you will allow it,
so how do you not allow it?
Well, who is in charge of your life?
You are, and how do you stay in charge of your life?
By having self-control.
And when do we find it hard to have self-control with men?
It is when we are emotionally attached.
So if it's easier to have emotional control
when we are not emotionally too attached,
how do we stay a bit aloof emotionally not to involve,
see the truth in a person, and think clearly, logically?
Number one, do not fall for a fantasy.
Now, what is a catch?
What is a high value man?
A high value man is the one that fully provides,
protects, and has good virtues or good values,
so he is loyal, he does the right thing.
He cares about you, he cares about his family.
These things are also love needs for a woman in a man.
We as girls, we fall in love with men that provide,
protect, give us safety and security.
A lot of times I would even say we allow ourselves to fall
in love with these type of guys, because we can see
we will be looked after and loved by them.
So men obviously are very well aware of this,
and this is why they love bomb you
on the first couple of dates.
So a man sees a woman he's attracted to,
he's aware of your love needs or what you see as a catch,
and he presents himself by charming you, by sweeping you
off your feet, by telling you how he wants to take you
on holidays, and how wealthy he is, and how he's gonna pay
for this and this, and take you out here and there,
and how you are the only one,
because you're so beautiful and he's falling
in love with you right now as he's speaking to you,
or how come he missed his chance,
and didn't marry you five years ago?
You would be with five kids right now
if he would have met you five years ago.
So men put these fantasies, these promises
into women's head because they know
that this is what fulfills a woman's love need.
Lot of times what I find it with ladies,
men just do it on the first couple of dates,
and a woman already feels swept off her feet.
She thinks, "Oh wow, I met the prince on a white horse.
I want to marry him tomorrow."
Or "Greta, we met on a first couple of dates.
He was completely amazing.
I don't know why he's not calling me anymore.
How do I get him to pursue me, or how do I win him back?"
Ladies, number one, don't fall in love with a fantasy.
What you see in the first couple of dates
and the fantasy he is giving for you is for you to fall
in love with him so you would become available for him,
so you would start to put him as a priority,
so you would feel safe and secure to sleep with him,
which takes me to the step number two.
Ladies, here is the secret that has been used
not so long ago, I would say, by my older sister
or by our parents, et cetera.
Do not sleep with him at least the first three months.
Spend time with him.
Let him charm you, let him sweep you off your feet.
Let him show how much of a provider he is.
Let him show how much of a protector he is.
Let him show his amazing good virtues and values.
Let him in those first three months prove himself to you
that he is who he says he is.
You don't need to tell to a guy, "Oh, you know,
you need to prove yourself to me," et cetera.
A lot of men cannot stand it and we will be like,
"I don't have to prove anything,"
or you're putting him on a spot.
He feels confronted, they just drop back.
But what you can do, you can just say, "You know,
I like to take my time.
I like to get to know a person better
before I can get physically close,"
and if he's so interested in you,
if you are the one as he says you are, he will wait around,
and he will be taking you on these dates.
He will be pursuing you, he will be charming you.
He will be trying to win you.
Now ladies, please remember that you behaving like this,
you're showing self-value, you're showing self-respect,
and you are also being a challenge.
What do men love?
Men love a challenge.
Men love to go for their goals and dreams.
Men love to win things.
To be a challenge for a man, ladies,
check out my video right here.
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Number three, be in a relationship with him
or let him court you when he already has feelings for you.
So when you give it three months, ladies,
you don't do anything intimately with a guy,
you are actually giving him time to fall in love with you.
Men develop feelings for a woman when you guys spend time
together, when he has to fight for you, pursue you,
charm you, prove himself to you,
when he has to invest in you.
Before if you are behaving in a self respectful manner,
you are not being too intimate with him,
you guys enjoy spending time together,
you guys have amazing conversations,
you can see that you click, there is chemistry,
you can see that you bond, it's very likely
that within three and maximum four months,
he will start to catch very strong feelings for you.
And only when he starts to catch these feelings
for you and offers the relationship or courtship,
this is when you can agree with it.
When you get into a relationship too quickly, for example,
he offers you a relationship after one month,
in the beginning, men are not that crazy about you yet.
They just see you as a goal.
They are attracted to you,
but a lot of them still keep their options opened,
and he is not in love with you
after the first month or after the first few weeks,
therefore, he can pull out very quickly.
And on top of that, if he, let's say, sees you as pretty,
he sees you as a catch, he offers you a relationship,
but he's not in love with you yet,
and he is a a bit of a playboy type,
there is a likability that he still has his options open.
He offered the relationship to you just
for the sake of spending the nights with you.
So if it's the case, the possibility that he may cheat
on you in the beginning is definitely there.
However, if you agree to a relationship
after about three months of dating,
now he has developed much stronger feelings for you.
Now he's bonded to you more.
Now he's appreciating you more.
Now he sees you as much more valuable,
as he had to work for you so much.
Now he's catching some feelings towards you,
so the possibility that he will cheat
on you becomes much, much smaller.
Number four, if he is only after one thing,
which is, could be to sleep with you, obviously,
you have nothing to worry about,
because by taking your time,
you actually allow him to naturally drop off.
So maybe he'll take you on a first couple of dates
and you're not giving it to him,
and then he goes like, "Oh, I can't be bothered.
This girl is too high maintenance, or she's too much work,
or she wants something too serious,
and I just want to have fun and enjoy the moment,"
and he will go for someone else,
and he'll naturally drop off, which is completely fine,
as you enjoyed a few dates with a guy and now he's out,
so you are not wasting your time anymore, therefore,
you can simply move on without a headache.
Number five, when you will take your time
and will not sleep with a guy too soon,
it will be much harder for him to play you,
because you are emotionally detached.
If anything, he will be falling for you first, why?
Because women usually get really attached to men
when we sleep with them, when there is a lot
of physical connection, or when we fall for a fantasy,
and men know that.
This is when they try to BS you very quickly,
and they try to touch you and get you into bed
very quickly, because we know we serve two key ways
to get a woman attached to them ASAP,
and then once you are attached,
it's very easy to control and play you and manipulate you,
because the majority of women start to overreact,
a lot of us let go of our emotions,
and these men, these players have a full charge of you,
they have full control over you.
So if you will stay logical
when he's presenting you a fantasy,
and you are not getting physically attached
because you are not doing things that are inappropriate,
he is the one that's falling for you,
because you are fulfilling his love needs
by being a challenge, being the one he cannot have,
by being his goal, therefore, it only makes sense
that he will be falling in love with you
while you are still staying emotionally detached.
And if he is a player, his games will not work,
because the game only works then you really care,
and you really care when you are emotionally attached.
Number six, the first three months when you are dating a guy
or when you are being just friends,
because it's your choice to call it dating or friendship,
it's totally up to you, keep your options open.
Do not put all the eggs into one basket,
and keep your options open, date other people too.
Nobody's telling you to sleep with them,
but let the best guy that proves himself to you
that he is a catch and he is who he says that he is win.
Don't waste your time just by focusing on one guy.
What's the point?
What if he is on just for one thing,
and when you're not giving it to him after a few weeks,
he drops off, and what if on top of that,
he's a liar, and he splits the bill 50/50,
and he has no intention of providing for you.
Don't be silly.
You're allowed to keep all your options opened,
especially when there is not much of intimacy involved,
which will also help you to stay emotionally detached.
Number seven, wait for him to offer the relationship first
or wait for him to offer to court you,
and by the way, courting is very different
from somebody offering a relationship.
And if after three months of you guys being just friends,
or after three, three and a half months, maximum four months
of you guys dating, he doesn't offer a relationship,
well, he's simply just not that into you.
I would highly recommend you to move on
and not to waste any more of your precious time.
So ladies, these were my seven ways on how to spot
a time wasters, how to let them naturally drop off.
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