- Can I ask you a few questions
about sex toys?
- Yeah. - I love them.
- Okay (laughs).
I take it from that response that
you own a couple yourself?
- Oh, amen sister, yes!
- It's a vibrator. - Uh-huh,
let's see if we can turn it on.
- No Jesus. (Interviewer laughing)
Make it stop.
- My name is Haylen,
I've been teaching Sex Ed for about 10 years,
and one of my areas of expertise,
and things that I'm most passionate about,
is helping people live more pleasurable lives.
So, if you've never tried sex toys before,
I'm gonna tell you exactly where to start.
This little guy right here
is called the Le Wand.
You might've seen a version of it
called the Hitachi Magic Wand.
It shows up a lot in porn,
and so when I have people come to shops where I work,
or ask me question about what sex toy they should try first,
the Hitachi Magic Wand is usually something they talk about.
The obvious place for this to go is directly on a clitoris,
but if you're super sensitive,
or just wanna warm up other parts of your body first,
this kind of vibration can also
feel great on nipples, on the perineum,
the space between the vagina and the anus.
For somebody with a penis,
this can actually feel really nice on the frenulum,
the little banjo string
right underneath the head of the penis.
This toy that we have here is not like the Magic Wand,
it's rechargeable, which means you don't have to have
it plugged into the wall to use it,
and it's also a smaller version of a Wand style toy.
If you wanted something like this,
but not necessarily this specific one,
you would just go to a sex shop,
and tell the person working there
that you're looking for a wand style toy
and they'll know that means something external only,
that has a really strong motor in it.
How much do you think this costs?
- Wow, for all the stuff it's doing,
I'm just pushing buttons and it's
changing up a lot.
- Yeah but it's not that, I mean like--
- No, feel it. - It's like a Xbox controller
does this, you get one of those?
- Well an Xbox controller is money.
- Yeah, that's right. - I'd say like
25 to 50 dollars? - That's so low,
most of these cost at least 150 dollars.
- What?! - They are technically modeled
after back massagers,
but at this point I think we all know
it's not a back massager.
It works much better as a
"personal massager,"
as they're euphemistically called.
I don't know if you guys can even hear this vibration,
it's pretty quiet on the first setting.
If somebody were outside of this room,
or in the apartment nextdoor
they wouldn't be able to hear it,
so good if you have nosy neighbors.
And even when I crank it up,
it's a little bit louder, but it's still
on this nice quiet hum.
I would put actually rate around a five,
maybe even a four.
(electronic humming)
The bigger ones obviously get stronger,
but for a first-timer who's just getting started,
this can be a really nice way
to just experiment with something that vibrates.
Basic, standard, classic, external vibrator.
I'm guessing you think that butt plugs
aren't for you, but they might be.
(hums)
I actually wanted to
maybe see if you were open to doing a little pop quiz?
- Yeah, sure.
- What is it, first of all?
- I think it's a butt plug.
- I think this is probably like
a beginner's plug. - Yeah.
- It looks a little like--
- It looks a little chill. - Probably like the average,
you could handle this,
- Yeah. - and it's not gonna
ruin your week.
- For your humble consideration, a butt plug.
(popping) (cash register opening)
This toy is not really much bigger than my finger,
and I have very small fingers,
so it's probably even smaller than your finger.
Noise-wise, this I would call a one,
because it has no motor whatsoever.
I know some of you are probably looking at me
like "this lady is crazy, back door is exit only",
but I beg you to potentially reconsider.
The cool thing about the Snug Plug in particular,
is that the way that its designed,
is meant to be super comfortable for someone
who's just starting out with anal play.
And this really small petite, teeny-tiny toy,
can give a lot of sensation anally,
and actually it can also increase sensation
from vaginal play because of
the wonders of anatomy.
Anatomically speaking,
the part of your clitoris, that you can see from the outside
is just the very very tip.
If you imagine it like being a penis,
if you could only see the actual head of the penis,
and the rest of the penis was hidden inside the body.
On a person with a clitoris,
the clitoris actually extends down
on either side of the vulva,
and for some people the clitoris actually
extends down to pretty close
to where the anal opening is, which is one of the reasons
why anal sex can be really really pleasurable,
even for somebody who doesn't have a prostate.
So, if you don't have a prostate,
and you're like "why would I ever want to
"put something inside my butt",
I have a couple of answers for you.
One, it can stimulate the nerve endings
that are, of the clitoris, that are near the anal opening.
Two, it can stimulate the very very sensitive nerves
of the anal opening and of the rectum.
And three, because having something
inserted anally during vaginal sex,
can increase the sensations of vaginal sex.
The wall between the anus and the vagina
is really really thin,
so having something inserted anally,
even something pretty small,
is gonna make the vagina feel
a little bit tighter, or more constricted.
Which isn't just for your partners benefit
but also for your benefit,
cuz it makes anything inside the vagina feel
a little bit bigger too,
and give more sensation.
If you were using a toy like this that vibrated,
the vibration would make
the whole pelvic floor vibrate,
which means your partner would be able to feel it,
and you would be able to feel it,
and get even more clitoral stimulation.
The one that I'm holding here
is the Snug Plug 1,
but this toy comes in a bunch of different sizes,
so if you're the opposite of the person
I was talking to before,
who saw this and was like
"You want me to put that in my butt?
"it's so small."
Don't worry b-Vibe also has something for you too.
Go forth, and have an amazing time.
- I actually have some sex toys in my pockets.
(laughing)
- This one like has it all, you know?
- You can do a lot with it,
and it's like, it seems pretty like straightforward simple.
- Let's talk about
maybe a more classic sex toy shape,
the Rabbits.
(cash register opening)
I put this on my one to ten scale for noise,
I would say this is closer to like
a seven or maybe even an eight.
This hinge that does the come-hither motion,
seems to be the loudest part of the toy.
These Rabbits here are not the same thing as
the Rabbit that you might've heard of on
"Sex and the City"
(gasp)
- Look!
Oh, it's so cute!
Oh, I thought it would be all scary and weird
but it isn't! It's pink!
- Funnily enough, the original Rabbit
that was referenced on that TV show
is actually made of materials that are not safe
to put inside of your body.
Sex toys are a really poorly regulated industry,
and so it's important to know those things
before go in and buy.
These Rabbits that I have right here
are made of medical grade silicone,
they're safe to put inside somebody's body,
and they also have some features that
the original old-school Rabbit did not have.
If you're going to get one of these toys
or any other Rabbit style toy,
I would say expect to pay about 100 bucks.
You might be able to find Rabbit style toys that
are cheaper than this,
but like I mentioned before,
there's a lot of toys on the market
that are made with materials that actually
aren't very good for your body.
You very quickly start to run into
compromising on quality as well.
This is the California Dreaming
San Francisco Bunny.
Talk about why it's called a Rabbit first of all.
So the original Rabbit,
if you've seen pictures of it,
you know that it has internal arm like this,
and then it's got this little,
like, bunny ear situation.
If this was somebodies vagina,
this part of the toy goes inside the vagina,
and then this part of the toy is resting on the clitoris.
On the classic Bunny, when you have the little bunny ears,
the idea is that those bunny ears
are surrounding the clitoris,
and giving indirect stimulation.
The San Francisco Bunny,
you can see has a more kind of fine-tipped point,
so that when it's sitting on the clitoris,
it's either giving more direct pin-point stimulation,
or depending on how somebody's body is shaped,
their clitoris might actually be making contact
with this big surface area right here.
So, first of all, it vibrates,
(vibration)
of course it vibrates.
What else does it do?
(clicking)
(chuckles)
What is this come-hither motion?
(intense vibration)
If any of you at home have ever Googled
like, "where is my g-spot?
"how do I learn how to squirt?
"what does g-spot stimulation feel like?"
This toy is meant to answer that question.
Everybody's body is gonna be really different,
and so some people's g-spots
are super responsive, super sensitive,
and some people's are less so.
I would think of it kinda like clitorises.
Clitorises, are on most people's bodies,
if they were born with the parts to have a clitoris.
But, even if you have a clitoris,
that doesn't mean that somebody else's clitoris
is going to give a good sense
of what your clitoris likes.
Some people can probably feel their g-spot
every time it's being stimulated,
for other people, you might have to
already be pretty aroused
for there to be enough fluid in that area,
to make it sensitive,
but if you want to find out, a toy like this
that's really specifically designed to target the g-spot,
might help you figure out
if that's even something that you enjoy.
You can crank it up a little bit more.
(loud vibrating) There we go.
There's quite a lot going on here.
If you want a toy that does something similar,
but maybe isn't quite as noisy,
this is the Femme Fun Booster Rabbit.
This one looks a little bit more
realistic, shall we say?
This San Francisco Bunny
is more curved than the purple toy.
This toy actually does a swirling motion,
almost like nudging the g-spot on each cycle.
And it looks so strange
to just look at it outside of the body.
(swirling)
This button here at the top is called
the turbo button,
and the turbo button is a special feature
that comes on Femme Fun toys,
and when I push that button,
the toy immediately goes to it's strongest setting.
When it's really, like, crunch time,
(extreme swirling)
you just press it into overdrive (laughs).
For the volume on this one,
I would put it somewhere around
a five, maybe a 5 1/2.
It's definitely quieter
than the San Francisco Bunny,
but, if you're in super super quiet circumstances,
in a library,
you shouldn't be using this in a library.
But if you're in super quiet circumstances
someone around you might be able to hear
that there's some kind of noise coming
from this motor.
(intense vibration) The turbo, turbo mode is loud.
What do you think of this as a first-time toy
for you or for somebody else?
- I think it, I mean, it can do it.
I think there's a lot of,
you could do a lot with this.
- I think there are butt plugs out there
that would ruin my week - That would ruin your week.
- Lets checks out thats. (laughing)
- [Cameraperson] Would you like to try one?
- A butt plug? - Now?!
I'd do it for Cosmo. - Oh, that's sweet.
(laughing) - I'd do anything for Cosmo.
- Are you broke?
Girl me too (laughs).
Good news, you don't need a lot of money
to invest in your pleasure.
Next week I'm gonna be talking about
all the best and cheapest sex toys,
so don't forget to tune in!
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