Tripp Kramer from www.trippadvice.com. On today's video we're gonna be talking
about why you've never had a girlfriend or maybe for you if you've had a
girlfriend but it lasted for like two seconds and then she was gone.
Here's the first thing. This is so common in today's culture okay. It's that guys are
waiting for a serendipitous moment. Since the creation of online dating and
app swiping, I guess this has changed a little bit because now we can just
pick and choose who we want but still we just wait around for
something to happen, for the girl to show up maybe in your classroom, for the girl
to show up at a party because you went to a party with some friends, for you to
be introduced to somebody. These serendipitous moments for that perfect
girl to come by. What happens is you have a very small sample size to work
with and so therefore you are not getting introduced or put in front of
many women. With all these small choices, how are you gonna get a
girlfriend? We've changed this up a little bit
with online dating but here's what I find kind of funny. It seems almost
weird in society to let's just say take 30 minutes out of your day, go out and
start to just approach women. It's just like you're just taking some time to go
out and meet women. Maybe it's during the day or maybe you're going out
at night to specifically work on meeting girls. Yes, people go to bars and stuff
like that to meet girls but really they're going with their friends to
party and it's not dedicated to the idea of going out and meeting girls and so
it's funny because I find that being on apps and being on online dating sites is
almost the exact same thing. You're taking time out of your day to sit there
and say okay who would I want to date. Same thing as going out. My point here is
if you're not going out, you're not making time to meet women in the real
world, I highly suggest that you do that so you can put yourself in front of more
women to have more options to potentially get your next girlfriend.
Next is you're probably putting a lot of pressure on yourself. A lot of pressure.
This happens to a lot of guys too who don't lose their virginity until their
late 20's or older. They kind of put this whole idea of getting a girlfriend
or having sex with someone for the first time in a category of high value and so when
you have something that you believe is high value, what ends up happening is you
get more and more nervous and anxious to make that thing happen. That's what you're
doing right now. You've never had a girlfriend and you're like "I gotta get a
girlfriend. I gotta get a girlfriend. This has to happen. Tt has to happen now.
All my friends have girlfriends. Why haven't I had a girlfriend?" You put too much
pressure on it and you're gonna start making mistakes.
I want you to take a step back for a second. If you want a
girlfriend, you should ask yourself why. Because that
could help relieve some of the pressure. Maybe you want a girlfriend for some
reasons beyond just people are doing it. It's like maybe you want it for
validation, maybe you're trying to get it to feel better about yourself. Why do you
want a girlfriend? Ask yourself that. Really and answer honestly and if it's
coming from a healthy place of "hey I got my life together. Things are really good
and I want to share my life with somebody else."
I'd say that's a really good answer. But if you're doing it because everyone has
one and it's time for you to get one and oh my god what are you gonna do? This is
gonna put more anxiety, more pressure on you and not be a good reason.
Here's another one; hoping that a girl will like you for you. This
is similar to the first one in this idea of a serendipitous moment.
Like well I just want to meet the girl and have it happen naturally
and she should just like me for me. I'm not saying there's anything wrong
with you but I'm also not saying that there isn't anything wrong with you.
Maybe you're not understanding how attraction works. Maybe you're just so
loose about the whole concept of I'm just gonna do whatever I want
and hope for the best. Maybe that's not working. Maybe you have to understand
a little bit of the game of attraction and the game of flirting and the game of
you stepping into more of your masculine self so her feminine side can be
attracted to your masculine side. I'm thinking that maybe you're too loose on
the concept so girls are not taking you seriously.
And it's fine, it's fine. Yes, women should like you for you but really take a hard
look at yourself and ask yourself "am I someone worthy of even
having a girlfriend? Is my lifestyle and the person who I am really
good enough to be in a relationship for somebody?" Again not just any girl. Someone
who's obviously quality but are you? Are you doing the right things in your life?
Do you have a full well-rounded life or are you lazy living at home with your
parents doing nothing and just sitting there completely pathetic? I have 10
really hard-hitting lessons that I have learned in my past 3 relationships and I
want you to learn from my mistakes and learn the proper ways to get into a
relationship and have a good relationship. I want you to go to the
description. There's a link there to a blog post teaching you my 10 lessons and
they are very very crucial for you if you're gonna start to get into the
process of getting a girlfriend. Check that out and I'll see you on the next video.
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