Guys can hold hands I grew up you know with cousins like sleeping on the same beds and
stuff it's really in the west that I find that things are very sexualized when go to
the club so the guy have to dance more sexually for the girl to kind of choose who they like
My name is Ian Alexander Tokazani Kanuka and I am from Malawi my name is Mina and I'm
from Sudan hi I'm Virushka and I'm from South Africa my name is James I'm from
Nigeria hi I'm Nadia and I'm from Rwanda. Would you say your country is sexually open? No
We are very conservative when it comes to sex even right now I feel weird seeing the word sex
that many times and out loud so yes we are open I think the guys perspective they are more open
than the girls so the girls will not talk about it but they do it more than the guys I guess
I'm joking I'm joking the girl wants the guy to display more kind of sexualities
for example and go to club so the guy have to dance more sexually or the girl to kind
of choose who they like the most maybe the wave kind of rolls twist his waist and stuff
like that so it's more focus on the guy to be more sexual than the girl we want to see that
With South Africa traditionally yes I think modern society has taken over and know we very
like sexually open. To be sexually open basically it's forbidden if you're not married and when you are it's
to just make a baby oh my God so in Malawi I'd say the more traditionally conservative but uh
like we don't really necessarily need to talk about it it's more like a private thing between
you and yours which is the most like considered sexually open I would say South Africa for sure
people like talk about condoms like the usage of condoms like very openly and the fact that say
same-sex marriage is legal you know like a lot of things that are Taboo in other countries are okay
in South Africa when they talk about like most sexually guys I would say like they focus more
on Nigerian guys but for the women I would say South African for sure geez what you think about
I would say it's Nigeria just because that's why I know more of but now that I'm hearing this maybe
I'm I'm good too but I'm gonna go with Nigeria because that's what I know when I went to South
Africa in University and I saw that okay they have condoms in the bathrooms that was like wow
I don't think Nigeria have condom in the washroom they don't yeah yeah yeah they don't believe in
it no no they believe in me no more like uh I just take like a sex for like Nigerian is very
different like say in the music thing like they'll be talking very sexually in it or you
have to get to some certain age to know that is very like a real dirty thing they were saying I
would say it's the same in my country sex is very implicit like it's implied meaning if you listen
to songs even songs from like way back like you will hear some songs and you will not know that
they're actually talking about yo the real deal sometimes they can explain how they're gonna
do you what they're gonna do is it like this so there's a song called do me do me I like the way
do me, so it's like bit of like a [ ____ ] situation. That used to be my jam though bro! Ya you know right - I was 12 singing -
what business did I have singing Do me as a 12 year old
if it's in general I think it's Nigeria in in general yeah
South Africa men and womena like in this situation I'm gonna put it out there that the part of that I'm
from the north is very unconservative the South not as much but I'm just speaking on what I know
because I'm from like the north which is the same culture as Egypt yes sexual okay everything they
may not only or every second you know okay so at that point so if the men are the one that chase
the woman because the women don't chase men so then Nigeria should be default no I I
do agree that even in South Africa it's mostly the men that chase the woman and maybe we're not
as sexually we are very honest as they like but it is in terms of like sex education about promoting
um safe sex about not the actual deed itself self but the education around it although when
it comes to the deed maybe Nigeria's got that one. when like a sex size education comes
in a way with like a kind of uh how you will raise your parents like religious level right
so if you are born Muslim I don't think your parents want to talk about you know a Christian
right so but like they're just so kind of they have different kind of structure right so if
you are going up like uh you have some big Bros that they are not part of your family they will
tell you a lot about sex education that so that you won't make mistakes so your parents will
not educate you on that because the taboo to be sitting you down talking about sex there's like
a street neighbor while those big Bros we already educate you all your cause and everything they've
already corrupt your mind before your parents even though you're already corrupt so that's
our own education so we don't display it like we are just in it we are very sexual human being you
can tell yeah I think because it's because of our history and because we are colonized by both the
Dutch and the British we had very much like I would say a first world education so we're
very much open about these things also we because we have all these diverse cultures and stuff it's
also spoken within the homes like the birds and the bees talk and generally like the community I
come from it's like almost a No-No before marriage and all of that stuff different cultures it's like
obviously different but um I think we are more modernized I went to the university in South
Africa so it's like already like all of all of the countries are there and if I was to rank from my
experience I don't know like malawian guys I don't know like in South Africa at the time I would say
the most open or sexually active I would say is like the botswana's were the most then you'd have
a competition between the Nigerians and the South Africans I know a lot of Nigerians a lot of homies
hence our debate Nigeria versus South Africa yeah this is happenign right now. I would stand like Nigerian men
and sexually always involved they were born to have sex I don't know like these people
have like 10 kids like sometimes they don't stop like okay but let's take let's stay guided let's
stay guided the question was about the country that is the most yes so if you said that it's
you know one faction of society but then there's a country where both members of societies I would
say yeah yeah so we're traveling to South Africa recently there was a bill that was uh blocked
by the parliaments That was supposed to be about like teaching having more sex ed and reproductive
health education in I think high schools but it was blocked it was blocked because people
are like why should kids be talking about sex you know why should kids have access to condoms but
then in most African countries it's not just in Rwanda but in most African countries we actually
have a big number of underage girls that become like teen mothers you know and that's well
one because of rape because they're older men that take advantage of younger women but also because
there's lack of sexual education someone will come and tell you oh yeah you only get pregnant when
you know you're the one on the bottom if you get on the top then you know and kids can easily be
misled so I feel like the reason we have evolved for sure there's like a little bit more than it
used to be before but I think in my country we still have a long way to go so it's hard to like
speak about sex education in a specific way when you talk about Nigeria but in general I would
believe like uh there's a way like your parents will have but they scare you towards sex more than
the way they will educate you so they will say if you touch a boy then we're pregnant so then
you run away from the boy you don't avoid to touch you so going up those kind of idea happens so I
don't about this new generation now they are more like advanced like a bit westernized
they understand what it is but I don't think they promote more condom in Nigeria in reality because
when you want to sexually involved with a person you believe like that person is safe because if
Nigeria may want to be with you you don't want to know of your body counts so if the small body
count is gonna move away we still have traditional ways of parents talking about their kids about sex
yeah like say teach well teaching them to wait until marriage but also aunties to their nieces
teaching them like some sexual practices that they can do as they prepare for Womanhood what about
that's a tough one with South Africa very open about it very proud about it we're one of the
first countries in 2006 to recognize same-sex marriages and we're just very open about it it's
not a taboo subject whatsoever in South Africa based on what I know based on my understanding
when I used to live in Nigeria there was nothing like that we don't understand like a LBTQ
because there are some people that guys sleep on the same bed together in Canada it may be a
different perspective so guys shower together they can be like a guys showering together but
so when I was living in agendas I don't have idea of edge typical so there's nothing like that like
they don't talk it out but when I went there like 2021 I believe I've seen guys in Lagos kissing
each other and they were together so at that point so there's a gap of like an openness that's my
best knowledge I'd say in Malawi in my country I think you can actually be arrested for being
homosexual like I remember there was some couple who actually got arrested not too long ago like
maybe 10 years ago class I'm talking about but I haven't been home in a long time but I feel like
even just talking to anyone in any Community about like lgbtq Plus or whatever it's kind of like
the mass of the country hasn't understood yet that you know it's okay or like that you know
gay people have rights so it's still in the development but I love that it's not illegal
so no one can come arrest you because you know so in Sudan it actually is illegal and you could be
sent to jail or be killed in jail as well it's not existent there I'm even in Canada like if
you were also like part of like the community like parents have shunned their kids that did
come out it's still very frowned upon uh we're agreed to dancing in Nigeria if a girl come out
to the parent okay I'm lesbian so first of all they would might think that she's possessed or
something like that so the understanding there will be like what's wrong with you like you know
what what are you talking about so there's no concept in that kind of culture that tell
people like a woman with like a woman like I grew up being innocent about this because I when I was
in Nigerian like uh yeah I don't know guys like guys but when I come to Canada the first time I
went to like I went to Club I went to Church Street so I didn't know it was like a
LGBTQ so I was dancing with this guy like you know sending different message and uh he's
liking me I like it no because in Nigeria I know guys and guys dance together the functionality
of Nigerian guys you can beat like lgbtq guys Two Guys Five Guys will sleep on the same bed
with their bosses so but to them they are still straight up maybe there's a thing in there that
they haven't figured out but they always like our guys always move together a lot and girls most
separate this actually affection where I come from is mostly shown like in same-sex like friendships
like platonic relationships you know guys can hold hands um I I grew up you know with cousins
like sleeping on the same beds and stuff so it's really in the west that I find that things are
very sexualized especially showing like physical affection it's a very sexualized thing I think
it's wrong we should allow people to like love on each other without really having to read into it
guys and guys they used to dance together like in Nigeria so he's a thing like part of it is like a
girl would like look and see like okay wow this guy can dance or this ball but if you do it over
here I think there will be like a different kind of interpretation yeah yeah when you can so you
can you know yeah but it's just so fun like everything that is right in here in Africa is
always wrong and yeah Western world and everything that is right in Western Well I think it's wrong
in Africa like you know in the animal kingdom like a peacock he shows he shows his you know over the
mirror they show the brightness like for me like growing up if I just got into the middle of a
circle and just start you know winding you know I mean like gyrating I mean and all the girls love
it like it's like really that was like the one stage I can shine like if I don't do anything else
yes I can get some girls just because I know how to move my body I think you need to show