- All right. - So this is your neighborhood?
This is it.
The tree was different.
And one of my best friends lived right there across the street.
How long did you live here?
We lived here for about five years.
My dad got separated with Maria.
So, like, we moved into an apartment complex
my freshman year.
So, yeah, so nine to, like, around 14.
Yeah.
You know, I want her to understand who I am.
I want her to understand how I think and perceive life
because she's my wife.
And for her not to understand me,
that would be a disservice to our future together.
What is, like, one of your best memories with you
and your dad here?
Oh, best memories.
Or one memory that you can recall?
My dad, he let me, like, you know, meet other kids.
He wasn't, like, super strict.
So it was good times here.
- Good times. - Yeah.
This is where, like, a lot of my memories
are, basically, playing outside.
My best friend, Jeff, at the time,
he was like, I bet you can't throw
this rock over that house.
And I was like, I bet you I can.
And I got a rock, and I threw it right into the window
and broke the window.
[gasps] You broke the window?
- Yeah, and then I ran home. - Yeah.
You never got in trouble?
Nah, they didn't catch me, so.
Oh, hey, what's up? - Hey.
- Hey, Dad. - What's up?
- How are you? - Good, how are you doing?
I was just telling her how I, like, picked up a rock
and just threw it straight into the window.
Crash.
There's a lot of little sneaky things that--
[laughing]
--I didn't know about that I'm hearing later on.
Uh-huh.
[music playing]
I've had some confrontations with some people over him.
- Really? - Really.
- Tell me about it. - Because I used--
What happened?
--I was playing outside.
I was always like--
you know, kids fight.
You know what I'm saying?
And then, you know, they go tell.
You know, I always told him, never start a fight.
And he was pretty good at doing that.
I got hands.
So, you know, Joe, or Dad--
Either one's fine with me.
--Nate always talks so highly of you, and I
know you were a single dad.
And I know that had to have been hard.
So, I mean, how did you do it?
How were you able to get through this?
Well, people used to--
I'm getting teared up.
Oh, no.
People used to say, man, I commend
you for what you're doing.
And I'm like, hey, those are my kids.
I wouldn't want it any other way.
Can I use your shirt?
So it was easy for me.
It was easy.
Like I said, I wouldn't have it any other way.
I appreciate you, Dad.
Yeah.
I love you.
I don't know why I'm crying now?
Yeah, why are you crying?
[laughs] Because he got choked up.
Oh, sorry, babe.
That's the first time I seen you cry, ever.
My dad, he grew up a certain way.
You know, he's from the South--
you know, six, seven siblings or something like that?
Then he went straight to the military, like, 18 or whatever.
So, you know, he's basically like--
he was born that way, you know?
He was raised a certain way.
So emotions isn't really, like, a normal thing for him.
He doesn't show his emotions.
But--
This is not the first time that I've teared up,
but I usually hide it.
You just didn't want to show it?
Exactly, because, from what I was taught,
you got to be tough.
And crying was not part of being tough.
Is that what you kind of passed on to him?
That's what I tried to pass on to him.
I think I did a good job.
Talking to his dad, you know, he's confirming the reason
why he is the way that he is.
He was at brunch with my mom and my friend,
and I think they asked, like, what
are the great characteristics that you
want to take from your dad?
He started tearing up a little bit.
Like, the sacrifices and--
Wow.
I never expected that from him, either.
You know, I think Nate is doing a great job,
and I really appreciate the fact that he is able to articulate
his feelings, he's able to process those emotions,
and he doesn't have to hide it.
And that's OK.
I'm glad that I'm able to connect
with him in a deeper way.
And I think that that's gonna be very useful for our future.
[music playing]
(SINGING) Hard work with the last miles.
I was trying hard to hold it.
I could not hold it.
OK.
That's OK.