you probably never realize but there are different types of attraction
maybe you once walked away from a relationship and thought in comparison to the other person
that i dated i feel a different type of love for them you may assume you either like someone or you
don't when in actual fact you can have different variations of love and emotional connection it
probably makes sense when you think back to a relationship where you weren't sexually attracted
to someone but you were very drawn to them and you couldn't make the relationship work you couldn't
understand what your brain was telling you and did you know that for a relationship to actually last
long term you need to have a variation of different types of attraction and well
it's obvious because looks alone don't actually solidify your relationship yes it's an attraction
type but looking amazing doesn't guarantee love so without further ado get ready for the 10
different types of attraction my name is anna and well you are incredible so enjoy the video
sexual attraction this is the first type of attraction you probably thought of it's the
desire to be intimate with someone physically and this is sparked by how someone looks or even the
way that they hold themselves with their energy or even their body type shape etc this attraction
fades quickly though so you could consider this the initial eye locking attraction it brings
people together and then makes way for another form of attraction when this one does wear off
and sadly you can feel this sexual attraction when you are in an emotional connection with someone
else also known as cheating on your partner to be needed and to need attraction think of this one as
a protective form of attraction what a pet a child or adult would feel towards someone who they need
support from this attraction makes someone feel safe with you and the strong person who helps care
for the other person wants to protect the other it's kind of like a mush of protective attraction
this type of attraction is what you'd expect to feel for your friends and your family and
obviously when you have a partner as well you do have that protective element but this type of
attraction is very unsuggestive and not sexual in any way however romantic and sexual attraction can
build from this foundation social attraction have you ever been hanging out with someone that you
really love being around and perhaps you show your fair share of flirting and they flip back with you
but when you leave them and go your separate ways you actually rarely think about them when you get
home if so this is social attraction you both can vibe on a communicative level except there is no
desire to physically connect with them sexually this type of connection can fool us into thinking
that we really like someone when in fact we don't we just really enjoy the social connection that
we have with them alter us attraction a bit of two types of attractions smushed together
it's like a romantic attraction but not fully and it has platonic vibes too so overall it's
a strong deep emotional connection that's in the middle of a friendship and a romantic relationship
for example you could show each other physical affection such as a kiss on the cheek
you both could cuddle on the sofa you hold hands you sit on each other's lap it's a
serious level of commitment and companionship but it doesn't quite fit the mould of a traditional
romantic relationship it's a desire to have an emotional closeness with someone uninteraction
this is feeling an intense attraction to one person and specifically only one person for
a long time or even for your whole life you are attracted to someone regardless of their gender
orientation their changing appearance etc etc intellectual attraction did you know that you can
actually be attracted to someone's intelligence well if you didn't you know now it's a unique
attraction style but it's important as some people cannot withstand a relationship unless they are
with someone who is considered intelligent on their own level this type of attraction doesn't
mean that someone is more likely to fancy you if you have a very high class iq score it just means
that someone values to hear theories they like to have different points of view and they like
to consider that you are someone who is able to pragmatically think about the world in different
scenarios and also viewpoints aesthetic attraction now you would assume that this was close to the
first type of the sexual attraction that we talked about in the start of the video but in
fact it's very different because with this form of attraction you think that someone looks attractive
yet you don't feel the need to sexually embrace them it could be compared to the feelings that
we have for a good looking celebrity like ryan reynolds we don't want to make out with them but
we acknowledge that they are very very attractive emotional attraction i'm sure by now you know
what this type of attraction looks and feels like even if you haven't experienced this for yourself
it's a relationship where you feel safe to share all of you your dark secrets your dreams your
goals your gooey inner core you want to open up emotionally and be honest because well you trust
this person you can have an emotional attraction to your friends and family because of the urge of
connection and the trust that you feel around them so obviously this varies in degrees of attraction
in comparison to your partner and obviously a family member but an emotional attraction is
important i can't stress this enough for your mental health so if you don't have an emotional
connection with a partner make sure that you have one with a friend or even a close family member
and this is just as good physical attraction we have all felt this type of attraction even at
least very one single time every one of us has a desire of physical closeness we want to be touched
in a non-sexual way through kisses or hugs this could be with your parents or even your friends
as children we depend on our parents or those who look after us to comfort us through physical touch
and then as we grow up we depend on that physical touch from our friends instead romantic attraction
you may be thinking this is the usual standard form of connection in a relationship the sexual
desire and closeness and you know what you are right it's an attraction of romance which doesn't
usually involve a sexual attraction an asexual looks out for this type of attraction because
it's a step up from a relationship there is an emotional connection but it has the sexual
elements too and to make things even more so confusing you can feel different types of
attraction at one specific time for either the same person or for a multitude of other people
you can have a close relationship that counts as an emotional connection with your best friend
but you can have a romantic connection with your partner now don't worry there really is no rule
that your romantic partner needs to fulfill all of these different types of attraction
however the more types of attraction that you feel with your romantic partner
the higher the chance that your relationship will actually last long term so let us know down
in the comments have you ever had a situation where you've left a relationship and thought
this is very different to my previous relationship or maybe you've gone on a date with someone you've
had a really great time you feel a great connection and you think this is an amazing
person but something's not right it could be that you guys only had a social connection
so let us know down in the comments and give us your stories that you can share with everyone else
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