now when I first met Jessica oh my God was I in love but guess what I waited five months before
telling her that I mean we met on January 1st and I waited until May 22nd and yes she
reminds me of this every year when we get to May 22nd so why did I wait now the sad weird
truth is that in my last relationship before Jessica I actually told her that I loved her
very quickly and I realized the moment that I said it that I actually didn't like her at all
really so I ended up breaking up with her a week after telling her that I loved her
which caused the worst breakup imaginable so I brought forward this fear to Jessica which is
why I waited five months does that make sense I don't know let's get into the psychology of
my brain but the moral of the story is that a man could be falling in love with you but
he just hasn't said it yet so here are four signs that you can look for that he actually is [Music]
hey there my name is Adam lodolce founder of lovestrategies.com where I help successful single
women get out there and attract love with a proven strategy and let's just jump into these four
psychological signs that a man is falling in love with you number four is that he stops checking you
out and he starts actually gazing into your eyes the Journal of psychological science actually did
a study on this and what they did is had men take a look at photos of women that they were sexually
interested in and then some photos of women that they love and what they found is that when men
only had a sexual desire for that woman surprise surprise men just looked at their body and they're
kind of like checking them out and they could see it with their eyes but when a man was actually
in love with the woman in the photo he would actually gaze into her eyes and I know this is
not groundbreaking science because obviously that happens but I definitely noticed myself even when
I was falling in love it does look internally as a man go from this moment of like you're kind
of checking her out and trying to get to know her sexually and that's kind of how men date is their
first drawn to a woman on a sexual level but then it shifts where you look at her it's just kind of
like and you just start to feel something much much different and it's much less about checking
out her body or anything like that and much more about just wanting to kind of gaze into her soul
and that sounds really cheesy but it's true and I think a lot of you women if you're being honest
with yourself can really sense if whether or not a man is kind of checking you out or just
like only trying to get to know you on a sensual or sexual level versus actually getting to know
you on an emotional level and even just the way he looks at you can tell you a lot about a guy I
want you to leave a comment below if you've ever noticed a difference between a guy checking you
out versus a guy gazing into your eyes leave that comment right there below now the next sign that
he's falling in love with you is that you just are always laughing together especially at the dumbest
jokes that really aren't that funny there's some really interesting research that was published in
The evolutionary psychology journal and basically found that laughing at one another's jokes was a
sign of dating interest in in that person and what they actually found as you Dove deeper into the
data is that yes it's important for you to both be laughing at each other's jokes but a man in
particular is really triggered emotionally when a woman is laughing at his jokes okay that is really
where the connection goes and I get that okay as a guy who tries to be funny but really isn't very
funny you guys see since when I'm going out with someone and we just feel a connection like she's
laughing at my dumb jokes suddenly now I feel a closer and closer connection with that person
and it's kind of ridiculous but it is kind of in line with my own personal life experience
and that is that men seem to care less about you being funny than they do about you laughing at
their jokes so they want to be with a woman who thinks that they're funny they don't necessarily
need to be a woman who is funny herself us guys just need so much validation now it's not to say
that if you're funny as a woman like that is a huge perk and that is amazing and create that
amazing connection with guys but if you don't find you're that kind of a funny person that's okay
just laugh at the guy's jokes and he's probably gonna love you the second psychological sign that
he is falling in love with you is that he's just stopped caring about other women so according to
research published in the Journal of comparative neurology what they essentially did was had men
go into an MRI so they wanted to see their brain when they were actually falling in love and what
they found is that when a man was falling in love a certain part of his brain lit up that did not
light up when it was only sexual drive and what they found is essentially their brain was actually
programmed to focus solely on one person when they were falling in love so if you're finding that a
guy is asking you if you're seeing other people or he wants you to be his girlfriend he's really
trying to define the relationship he's trying to push things forward then it's possible and likely
he's actually falling in love there's definitely a primal bonding mechanism that happens in the early
this stage of dating where you you are bonding with one another and you start to get really
focused on one another and if you're finding that he doesn't want to be with anyone else he only
wants to spend time with you this is of course a very good sign now this is of course a good thing
if you like the guy and you want to see where it goes but I do recommend if you are leaning
into what we call the little love steps then when you get to what we call Little Love step
number five I actually want you to slow things down a lot of research shows that men actually
fall in love faster than women do and I want you to be the one who's pacing things appropriately
I want you to move forward in the connection and an authentically slow pace so that you don't go
overboard so many relationships just blow up three to six months down the line because they just go
all in with one another and they don't move at an appropriate pace and if you want to learn all the
little love steps exactly how this strategy works I'll leave a link in the description
where you can watch that free training or you can head on over to lovestrategies.com or we have an
entire training that walks you through this entire process step by step and the final psychological
sign that a man is just falling in love with you is that he will try new things with you sometimes
change is good and a lot of studies show that when you're just starting to fall in love with
a person your kind of sense of self-identity it changes and you become suddenly much more
open to new experiences new things it becomes just a little less stubborn okay have you ever
noticed that maybe when you're starting to fall in love with a person you kind of start opening
your life to them and you want to see what their life is all about and that is a new experience
into itself and ultimately that willingness to change for another person is a sign that
you're falling in love now I'm not advocating that you change who you are for a man okay that's not
the idea but when you do find yourself in a new relationship everyone's going to change a little
bit it's kind of like two people Collide into one another and you kind of find your groove with that
person and ultimately you want to hold on to your own identity you want to hold on to your own so
social life your own friend group your own personality but when you are in a relationship
as time goes on you definitely kind of mesh into one another in some ways in a healthy way and I
think that's very healthy in a relationship and when you're in love now before we wrap up this
video I do want to talk about one quick sign that a man is not falling in love with you and that is
that he is all audio and no video here's what that means basically he's the type of guy who
says baby I love you so much I want to spend time with you you're so beautiful you're the
most amazing woman audio audio but he's actually not showing you the video which is the actions
he's not actually showing up he's not trying to take you out he's the type of guy who say I
almost spend so much time with you but then you don't hear from him for two weeks he's the type
of guy that says oh my God I I don't just want you sexually I want to get to know you on a more
emotional level but he's always trying to bring you back to his bedroom okay that is the type of
guy who is all audio and no video what we want is someone who's both audio and video the video
part is the most important I want them to show up I want those actions okay because
that means so much more than words so if you're finding yourself falling for a guy who's just
yap yap yap yap yap he's saying all the right words but he's not actually showing up take
a step back lean into the little love steps don't allow yourself to over invest too soon
because you know what I want to see if that guy actually shows up for you and I want to know if
he's actually falling in love with you hope you enjoyed this I'll talk to you next week bye-bye