Ryland Adams and Shane Dawson just had
to kick out Rylands little sister Morgan
and this is something that we can all
learn from when we talk about boundaries
and it's also about growing up everybody
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youtube about Rylan kicking Morgan out
and like Shane Dawson I don't know Shane
Dawson is really good at click this
YouTube game I talked about so when I
saw Rylan's title violence hi dawn Mike
did you really do it you know I'm like
okay maybe I'll watch this maybe this is
going to have a good topic like maybe
about setting boundaries and things like
that and he actually was very good so
like part of this is growing up okay and
before I get started by the way this
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have you know I don't know maybe a
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she has so much wisdom and knowledge
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about the work that dr. faith Harper
does like she should be a best-seller
like everybody needs to read her books
like she she speaks to me personally and
my personality and I think that's why I
love it so much and I know a lot of you
enjoy my personality maybe so if you
like my personality then you'll
definitely like hers because she is way
better and more knowledgeable than I am
and after I do some stuff with her books
and reviews she's gonna come over and do
an interview and we're gonna talk about
stuff anyways this book is about how you
grow up okay maybe I'll send Morgan a
copy I don't know anyways so to start
this video just kind of a little review
of it like I was so annoyed at the
beginning of the video because Ryland is
filming him telling Morgan that she's
got to leave right and like at first I'm
like really you gotta film this but as
somebody who takes examples like this
and tries to teach other people about
mental health I'm glad they did right
anyways the reason why I was annoyed was
cuz like Shane and Shane was goofing off
the whole time and then like you hear
Andrew with his you know like while I
was trying to have a serious
conversation everybody's like joking
around and Morgan's kind of joking and I
was texting my girlfriend I'm like if
that was me I would be so annoyed I
would lose it I would lose it
because this is
already an awkward conversation you have
to have with somebody like that's his
sister that's someone he invited into
his home and like now you gotta say yo
you got to leave like that's an awkward
conversation and everybody around like
goofing off like that would drive me
nuts but anyways like that was just a
small part of the video then it gets
more serious and stuff Rylan and Shane
actually talked about it
so basically they wanted to help Morgan
get on her feet and have her move out to
Los Angeles and stop but here's the
first tip okay if you're gonna have
somebody move in with you create a time
frame okay like say okay you can move in
for this amount of time for example one
of my best friends in the world
Mickey some stuff happened with her
roommate and her apartment she need a
place to stay I'm like yeah sure you can
move in with me I have an extra bedroom
I was like but this is for you no I
think I said like three months I said
three months then you gotta find your
own place like I am somebody who just
doesn't like roommates you know and even
though Nikki is one of my best friends
in the world I just don't like roommates
so I put a 3-month guideline on well as
she stayed with me she was the best
roommate I ever had I loved her but when
we wanted to talk and hang out we could
like it was a very good good roommate
situation so she ended up staying longer
but like if you are having a friend or
family member move in with you like you
should set this up in advance so that
way the conversation isn't as awkward
later because like Morgan took it very
cool right and she makes money she has
an income but I imagine you a lot of
people like you let somebody come in and
if it's somebody like Morgan they're not
gonna get off their butt and go do
something right so it's important to
kind of set that guideline because if
there's somebody like me who has anxiety
like you don't want to wait and wait and
wait and then next thing you know
they're there for a year because you're
too afraid to have this conversation but
one of the reasons that while I wanted
to do this was because he knows that
Morgan won't do it on her own
so while in I don't pull this enabling
okay like Roman knows this about her so
he has to kind of shove her along but
you know in this brother-sister
relationship he's actually very very
kind and compassionate and loving it
seems like a good good big brother
but yeah Morgan kind of knows that about
herself she's self-aware I think
so during this process like Shane
actually he's a very smart guy and
there's so many of you out there who are
watching this and you you're younger
than me haha and like a huge thing and
one of the reasons I'm going to review
this book there's a lot of things about
growing up and being an adult that like
people don't teach us like they don't
teach this stuff in school you know what
I mean like Morgan jokingly sounds like
I don't even know what Alise is you know
and maybe she's serious I don't know but
like there's so many things that were
not taught you know what I mean
so anyway Shane's idea was like you guys
should document this process because one
of the concerns that Rylan has is that
Morgan's gonna isolate she's gonna be
depressed she's not gonna do anything
and stuff like that and Shane's like you
should go out and like do stuff with her
and you know help her meet new people
and stuff like and like that's
phenomenal and I would love to see that
document it because I know for a fact it
can help people I know there's a lot of
people who are socially awkward and
don't like to meet new people and stuff
but it's stuff that you've got to do to
improve your mental health or keep a
good level of mental health you know
what I mean
and like Morgan's in a better situation
than Rylan was when Riley moved out
there because he didn't know anybody if
he had to force himself by the way take
some tips and pointers from Rylan like
he knew certain things about himself he
was very self aware so he forced himself
into uncomfortable situations like you
said he took like an acting class and
some other things to force himself to
meet people I know it's uncomfortable I
know it's awkward like we're not five
anymore it's we're going up to somebody
may like can you be my friend but like
that's not how it is maybe I need to
make videos about how you make adult
friends but yeah it's very socially
awkward so it's good that Morgan has
Rylan there and they can go do stuff
together I'm working and start meeting
some other people um Morgan like a lot
of other people you know in the world
you know she definitely has
self-confidence issues and you know
Shane Eva points out that he loves her
he thinks that she's funny and things
like that
and you know one of the ways that you
combat that is by getting proof and when
Morgan's supposed to go out there and
meet people who actually like her and
enjoy her company that's going to help
now the whole living situation basically
what's gonna happen if Shane rented out
an office with Garrett months and months
and months ago they were gonna do all
this new content and they pretty much
did nothing with it I think he might
still film conspiracy theory videos
there when he does in a while but
basically that that office is vacant so
Morgan's going to move there she's going
to pay Shane rent so now how does this
affect you what can you do in your life
so my suggestion here is because
especially when it's friends and family
like yeah you want to make it cheap for
them but you also want to make sure that
you're not enabling them because part of
this whole thing of making Morgan move
out is to help her grow up so she's
going to have to be responsible and
there needs to be here's the
recommendation I have they should have a
contract in place so when I got sober
six years ago I was in a sober living
house and then I moved in with my mom my
mom had me sign a contract of things
that I would do in order to live there
right so that way I couldn't really
argue if I screwed up and my mom's like
yo you're gonna be on the streets you
know what I mean so like I would just
you know hope because they're trying to
help
Morgan grow up and become an adult like
they have some strict guidelines like
Morgan needs to pay on this day of the
month don't be short you know what I
mean like a real landlord would be if
not she's still going to be getting
coddled and not fully grow up that's one
of the reasons why you see adults who
are basically grown children because
they've had people kind of helping them
far too long and I made a video the
other day about like the Shayna enable
people and things like that but like I
don't know we'll see with this situation
and maybe we won't know all of the
details but like I said I think it'll be
really interesting and cool if they
document her just trying to grow up like
that is awesome that's what YouTube is
for to document this type of stuff cuz I
know it helps people like even though I
make these videos to try to teach you
how to pull things from the
entertainment you're watching I know a
lot of people already do that naturally
so I'll be keeping an eye on it I might
do some follow-up spotlight the boundary
thing is really really important like if
any of your parents out there like at
some point you're gonna have to take
your kid out you know what I mean you're
gonna have to have awkward
Asians like having awkward conversations
is part of being an adult and I'm sorry
to say that but the best thing you could
do for your mental health is to learn
how to be comfortable with being
uncomfortable like that's huge you've
got to have these conversations you know
what I mean anyways let me know down in
the comments below why how do you act
during awkward conversations or what's
an experience you had with an awkward
conversation about setting a boundary
maybe with a friend or a family member
or something like that maybe you had to
kick a roommate out whatever it is let's
all share our experiences down below I
definitely I have a million of them
myself alright anyways that's all I got
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set up some boundaries and have
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