The moment I had to walk away in this video! I will reveal the very moment I
knew I had to walk away from the wrong person and relationship. Welcome to The SCG Show! This
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Picture the scene... a few years back I was in a toxic relationship with the narcissist, we
argued all the time, I was drained, miserable and so upset. Towards the end I had a massive
work project I took on causing more stress agitation and misery on top of that relationship
It was late summer and a couple of friends and I went out for dinner without my partner at the time
We sat down and started talking about an array of subjects... internally I said to myself "Please don't
bring up my relationship" some of the guys knew I was going for a bad time and the others had no
idea. "So SCG2 asked one of the guys not in the know "How's it going with your partner?" That was it. I
had to answer... my posture became hunched, I curled forward with my head down and said "fine..." "You've
been together a while now right?" they continued, "Yes" I said. The other guys were puzzled by my reaction
physically and how quiet and awkward I became, yet this other guy kept asking "Do you think she's the
one? You're gonna marry her?" The question sent a shiver down my spine... the one... marriage... a family
However I responded sheepishly and said "yes I guess so." My friends didn't know how to react, one
of them said "you don't look happy is everything all right with you?" "I'm fine just leave it" I
insisted...that was the moment. Despite there being many circumstances, triggers, drama, situations that
was when I knew I had to walk away. Let me explain what happened after that pivotal conversation
that moment when I realized enough was enough and I had to walk away! Guys please share your
thoughts feel free to share your experiences and opinions in the comments section below!
In the past I lacked a lot of self-awareness, but I've worked very hard in improving that as time's
gone on. Interestingly though when I lacked it, I had an internal battle going on after that meal
and realization. I asked myself why I felt so off? What's wrong with me? Why'd I feel this way? What's
happening? Truthfully I was in a state of shock and disbelief... it was almost like I'd been on autopilot
up to that point, as if I didn't realize the true ramifications of being in a toxic relationship,
and not just for a few weeks or months but for years. Years persisting with the wrong person
I came home (I lived without her at the time) and locked myself in my room to be alone with my
thoughts. I've always had a vivid imagination from a young age and I took the time there and then to
try and picture seriously a future with this toxic person... us properly living together, what would be
the dynamic, us getting engaged, then planning our wedding, us having an actual wedding... officially
becoming husband and wife, us buying a forever home together... officially building a life together...
It never felt right, I mean why would it? We weren't a good match, she was toxic, I was unhappy,
we weren't getting along together either. Sometimes things have a domino effect, a simple meal going out
with friends and a simple and important question made me seriously think about my circumstances at
the time... sending me into a fearful state of panic anxiety and shock... realizing I had to do something
I couldn't accept things the way they were anymore, something had to change. Sometimes we have to
go into this state of shock to make the best and most important changes for the better in our lives!
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Let's be honest... it's hard to be excited about a future with a person who's wrong for you and toxic
And after picturing the future that lay ahead of me... I'll go into detail of the potential problems
and how it made me genuinely feel. My ex-partner lacked independence was spoiled, entitled, immature
despite being older than me! How on Earth would we live together? How would we manage bills, the
maintenance, cooking, shopping, cleaning and so on? It would have been a disaster! She also would have
certainly been a bridezilla and planning would have been a complete and utter disaster for a
wedding! Her demands would have been outrageous and over the top and she would have also overspent and
made things difficult on purpose and as for actually being married same thing! She would
have been more relaxed as she would have been my wife, she'd bark orders, get lazier and more
entitled and she would have forced me to accept her toxic ways and trap me from the world entirely
Her personal life was a complete disaster to begin with, how on Earth would she look after a home, how
would she maintain a home, how would she generally be able to raise children and a family, what sort
of morals and values would she instill into our children together? It would have been horrendous!
I'd heard from people at the time that with the right person you can just feel it inside you, you
just know there's something about them, you are more excited than you are fearful and worried, you
are confident at the challenges that lie ahead as a couple and team, and you work as a team and yes
you have your problems, it's not going to be Rosy all the time but you Soldier on and get through it
Truthfully I never felt that with my toxic ex, all I felt was extreme despair, depression of the
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around with BetterHelp! Of course as I already mentioned in the past... I was young dumb naive and
lacked self-awareness entirely. Despite the state of shock and despite the depression I felt and the
miserable feelings I genuinely tried to fight it AKA fight the negativity with a more optimistic
positive approach to the relationship. Therefore I asked myself and answered the following questions
Are you being too harsh? No I've given this relationship a serious go and tried very hard
to communicate concerns in every other angle. Are you being too negative? Toxic positivity
has been at play here, denying the fact that me and her are just not a good match at all
Have you exhausted all your options? Yes. Don't you love her? The love we have is unhealthy
Do you realize you will be single and alone? Yes but I haven't got a choice anymore. Do you know
that you might never find another person? I'm sure that is not true...however I'm still willing to take
that risk. How do you genuinely feel about her? I am miserable, fed up annoyed and disappointed
I sat arguing with myself for days... I genuinely tried to convince myself that I was being too harsh
and that I should stay in the relationship... but life had other ideas for me... circumstances pushed
us both to our limits... me more so... to argue far more...to fight more, to clash more, to disagree more
and to basically show that this relationship no matter what was never going to work by that stage
that moment, there was no more defending it no more, fighting for it no more, trying to convince myself that
everything was fine. I had no other choice, I was totally out of ideas... all I could do was walk away
The moment finally came a few weeks after that conversation with my friend at that dinner
The moment I actually did walk away! I'll be honest it was hard, really dramatic
very stressful, emotionally painful, but I had no choice the moment came and went and it was over
The relationship was finally done, I'd officially walked away with absolutely no desire to ever see
or speak to that person again... certainly never give a relationship with them another chance
Although I was emotionally drained and upset...truthfully I actually felt more
liberated and free walking away than in the several years combined dating them
Walking away for some people might just be very peaceful or straightforward for others
like me it might be a big stupid song and dance that's way over the top and childish... either way
it happens, the moment happens when it is officially finished and it goes... meaning
you finally move on and you are free to recapture your life on your terms once again
to hopefully build a more sustainable happier healthier life and future as well
You're in charge again! You can decide where you go... all you need to do is take that first step!