How do I get my husband to pay more attention to me? My name is Paul Friedman.
I am the founder of The Marriage Foundation and I think that I can help
you with this without reducing you as a person as someone who has to show off or
break things that he has and do other bizarre things. You got married
in order to be happy and the whole idea of marriage is to have ever-expanding
happiness based on ever expanding love but because we live in such a material
world, the spiritual part of us, because we're we're both we're spirit in nature
we live spiritual in a material life. We're souls, we have a body, we
have a mind but we're souls. We're essentially souls and that love that
spiritual side that's what it's all about.
And when you first got together with your husband, you were the light of his
life. You were like a safety island in a sea of danger and what made you so was
that you were letting him know that you are going to love him unconditionally.
Your wedding vows said so that's the message and that's the message he gave
you too but it breaks down because of our material side. We get so involved in the
day-to-day stuff that we forget to use our will, use our volition to promote the
happiness of love. And so, if you really want to be happy in marriage and who
doesn't that's why we got married, then you want to get those embers glowing
again. It's not about him paying attention to
you -- that's not what you're lacking. You're lacking that sense of love that
sense of fulfillment that comes from the natural love of marriage, honestly.
Here's what you do. You don't focus on getting his attention
that's the wrong way. It won't work anyway. Think about it if it were
reversed and he just wanted to get your attention and started doing things to
get your attention. You would pretty soon get annoyed but what if he started doing
things that made you feel all warm inside that
touched your heart. Well, it's no different. You want to start
doing things that touches his heart that expresses to him your undying commitment
love and loyalty to him. It will attract him. In fact, avoid doing things
because it'll come across as insincere. It'll be an annoyance. Instead, go inward
and ask yourself, am I expressing love to him? Am I complimenting him or am I
criticizing him? Am I complaining to him? You have binary choices all the time. You
could be mean and unnecessary in his life or you could become glowing love
and that is the best way to attract him. He will come to you like a thirsty man
goes to water because he married you for love. He wants to feel that love from you
more than you can imagine but you've turned it off.
So that's how you do it. I know this is short and sweet but I have a
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bless your family. Thank you! God bless!