Assalamu Alaikum My Brothers And Sisters,
This Is A Month Of Developing Our Relationships, Improving
Our Relationships, The Prophet Salallahu Alaihe Wasalam Reminds
Us Who Is The Best From Amongst Us.
He Says Khairukum Khairukum Li Ahlihi
It Means The Best From Amongst You Is The One Who Is Best
To His Wife, Primarily
That'S The Meaning But By Extension, It Includes Your Spouse,
Which Means Either Way It Also Includes The Broader Families.
Now, Why Is So Much Importance Given To The Wife? You Bring
In Someone'S Daughter, An Innocent Person, Someone Who'S Come
Into The House.
She Is The Daughter Of A Family Who Loves Her.
She Is A Sister Of Those Who Loved Her As Well.
She'S Been Brought Up In A Unique Way.
Now, You'Ve Brought Her With The Name Of Allah Into Your
Care, The Best From Amongst You Are Those Who Can Appreciate
Her For Who She Is And When You Have To Correct Her Or When
You Have To Say Something You Say It In The Most Most Loving
And Kind Way.
It'S Important For You To Note That They May Be A Little
Bit Of Politics Between Your Mother& Your Sister On One Hand,
And Your Wife On The Other, You Need To Know
It'S Not A Competition.
You Must Stand Up For Your Spouse, Never Use Religious Blackmail
To Oppress Your Own Wife And To Let Her Know Or To Tell Her,
You Know Heaven Lies At The Feet Of My Mother. That Is Statement
Is Used As Religious Blackmail, And I'Ve Been Saying This
Quite A Few Times When It Has Nothing To Do With That. Here
It Is To Do With Fulfilling The Rights Of Your Spouse Whom
The Prophet (Saw) Says, The Best From Amongst You Is
He Who Is Best To His Wife.
So I'M Calling On You To Build Your Relationship, Be Kind
Be Good In The Way You Speak To Each Other.
Don'T Be Very Demanding.
If You Don'T Like Something You Need To Know How To Talk,
How To Correct A Person.
You Need To Be Very Very Soft In Your Approach With Your Own Spouse.
Remember,
Why Did You Get Married If You Were All About Your Friends,
Even After Marriage.
Why Did You Get Married,
If You Didn'T Want To Spend Any Time With This Person Whom
You Got Married To So? May Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'Ala Really
Make Us From Those Who Understand, Your Wife Is Waiting For
You. You Don'T Just Spend Time On The Phone All Night, Every
Night While Your Wife Is Waiting For You To Speak With Her
And At The Same Time If There Is Something That You Need
To Say, Like I Said, I'M A Father Of So Many Daughters.
Mashallah And You Know What? We Expect From Those Who Marry
Our Children To Respect Them.
We Respected Them When They Were With Us.
We Treated Them Very Well.
They May Like Or Dislike Slightly Differently From You.
But That Doesn'T Mean You Have The License To Disrespect
Them And Disregard Who They Are, Honor Them And Allah Will
Give You Honor.
Remember The Love That You Have For Your Wife Is Very Different
From The Love That You Have For Your Mother.
The Two Are Do Not Overlap.
But Respect Both, Don'T Let One Oppress
The Other But Remember That If Your Wife Or Your Mother
Or Your Sister Is Taking You Away From The Other Completely
Than They Need Help, You Need To Make Sure That You'Ve Done
The Right Thing.
This Is A Short Message.
I Hope You Have Benefited. May Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'Ala Bless
Our Mothers, To Treat Our Wives Respectfully. May Allah Bless
Our Sisters To Treat Our Wives Respectfully And Not To Demean
Them, Belittle Them And Make Their Hearts Pain, Make Them Cry
For No Reason, This Is A Month Of Reflection.
The Reason Why I'Ve Picked On The Wife In Particular Is Because
The Hadith Says "Khairukum Khairukum Li Ahlihi" The Best
From Amongst You Is He Who Is Best To His Wife?
May Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'Ala Grant Us That Betterment