- In this video, I will share with you five ways
how to set healthy boundaries in a relationship with a guy.
And let me tell you a little secret,
don't just apply it with a guy,
apply it with everyone in life.
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how to set healthy boundaries with a man,
and I will share with you real life examples,
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So without further ado let's start.
Having healthy boundaries is a very important aspect
in any kind of relationship,
whether it's with your mom, dad, friends, or a boyfriend.
By setting in boundaries
you are showing people how to respect and value you.
You're sharing with people where are your limits?
What is acceptable to you and what is not?
And if you will not set in boundaries with people,
you will very likely feel undervalued
and taken advantage of.
'Cause not only that others are incapable
of reading your mind
and may not know how you want to be treated,
but also can intentionally manipulate you
and take advantage of you.
There as your boundaries will protect you from that.
In the beginning of dating or relationship,
a guy you are dating will probably test you consciously
or unconsciously to see what are your standards
in the relationship.
And usually the boundary test start
in a very lighthearted way first.
And if the boundaries are not set,
the disrespect starts to increase.
First, how to set a boundary in texting for example.
One of the best boundary examples to follow
is to ignore when negativity, reward the positivity.
So for example,
you've been talking to a guy for awhile,
you like him, he likes you,
but suddenly he texts you something disrespectful.
What do you do?
You ignore it.
Do not give any attention to it.
Dot engaged in it.
Do not touch it.
If you think he will not understand the boundary,
Well,(sighs)
he will.
'Cause as long as he's over 10 years old,
he will know when he's being rude and disrespectful.
If however, he keeps texting and pushing
why are you ignoring my text?
Just say that you found it disrespectful,
and then drop the conversation.
If he fixes himself, you can continue.
If however, he continues being rude and argues over it,
stop engaging into it.
Number two,
but how do you fix the boundary
if you accidentally
allowed it yourself?
Well, let's say you're talking on a phone
and out of the blue
he starts using the curse language a lot.
Maybe he will even ask in the beginning
is it okay with you if I curse?
And since he asked you,
you might feel a need to be nice and say, yeah, sure,
no worries.
But after the conversation, for some reason,
you start to feel yucky.
And even disrespected in a way like
if a conversation wasn't that pleasant,
although technically he even asked you for permission
to curse himself
and you gave it to him.
So, what do you do now?
Say, please do not talk to me this way.
I know I have said it's okay but after the conversation,
I didn't feel good.
So if you could watch your language,
I would really I appreciate it.
That's it.
Now he might listen and respected it
or he might try to break it
and see what happens if he doesn't obey your rules.
So if he decides to break it straight after the disrespect,
tell him that you have to go,
as you have other things to do.
Say have a good day,
bye, bye.
In other words,
the message that you're putting out there is
I'm not gonna stay on the phone with you
if you're treating me with disrespect.
Number three.
You are away for a weekend together,
and he goes crazy on you.
A lot of times it happens
when a man feels totally in charge.
For example, he paid for a whole trip
and he feels you're fully dependent on him.
What do you do?
Well, it's quite simple if you're financially independent
and he's crossing your boundaries,
you pack your stuff and you leave.
You don't need to break it down for him
because he knows he's being disrespectful
and he knows he's crossing the line.
And this is how you communicate your boundary,
that your actions
by leaving.
There is no need to there putting up with the abuse.
This is not good enough.
Show him that you respect yourself by in this case,
walking away.
But what do you do if you cannot walk away?
This is the reason why I had an interview with Heather
about why being financially independent is a must
for a woman,
as it's very hard to set in boundaries with a man
if you're not.
If he is in charge of you 100% financially,
how are you going to leave?
Steal some money on his and runaway?
I actually know a person who has done it.
Not a good idea, do not recommend it.
Instead watch my video with Heather
on how to be financially independent
so he wouldn't cheat on you or disrespect you.
And you can find that video
just by following the link right here.
Number four,
what to do if he doesn't appreciate you.
And this is usually happens when women over-give.
If you have been over-giving and being too nice to him,
as in cooking, cleaning, mothering him, it is very likely,
that he started to feel too comfortable
and started to take you for granted.
Now, if he appreciates the giving
and he himself gives a lot in other areas,
then you don't need to do anything, it's all fine,
as you're just complementing each other
as a man and woman should be.
Maybe he's building a house
and you're doing the cooking
all good, nothing wrong with that.
But if you're not complimenting each other
and he is just being non appreciative
and disrespectful towards your giving,
the first thing you do is you stop giving.
Start quitting on how much you give.
The key is do not try and impress him by giving better
and improving your cooking skills when he complains.
This way you're just rewarding negativity
like the more you complain, the better I cook.
No, instead when he complains remove what you were giving.
For example, Oh, you didn't like it?
No worries more for me.
Just don't do that thing for him anymore
until he starts to appreciate what he is getting.
Ladies I have a very good video.
It's called what to do when he takes you for granted,
which you can find us by following the link right here.
And number five.
Do not become too strict.
Ladies it's all about being humble and having self respect.
It's not about becoming a monster.
For example, if he is late,
the first time ever is already coming to see you
and cause you genuinely apologizing,
that he is late because an emergency happened,
but you say, Oh, if you're late,
I don't want good to see you anyway,
and you cancel the date,
that is not cool.
It's you overstepping it.
And in this case, yes, you may not hear from him again.
And yes, I would blame myself for it
as I have over done it.
On the other hand if on every single date
he is late for over 30 minutes
walking out on him on the third date,
if let's say after 15 minutes, he is still not there,
it would be one of the possible options to take,
or alternatively you can mirror his behavior.
Ladies these my five tips on how to set the boundaries
in the relationship or with friends, people, even family.
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