Let's dive in to some questions. Hey Tripp, I just started listening to your podcast. I
noticed that a lot of your approach related podcasts are about approaching in bars,
classes or online. However, I'm not a big fan of most of those options.
Most girls I encounter at bars are not exactly my cup of tea beer. And most of the classes I
take are much older women. There is a board game brewing company nearby and typically the more
nerdy types, which I like, go there. It also gives me an opportunity to learn their humor.
However, this is obviously where people go for group activities. I've tried sitting down when
it is just a couple of girls playing an easy game and asking if I can join. But I don't know what to
do from there. Should I be looking for games that they can teach me? Is there a preferred
group size I should look for? Is there a type of conversation I should engage in? Or is this just
not the right place for this probably? Any thoughts would be helpful. Thanks, Andrew.
Andrew, I love this question. What a unique question. So specific to your situation but
I know that there's a lot of other guys out there that are having this issue too. Basically,
what you're asking... the question here is how do I meet women outside of the typical cold approach,
or online dating? At these events, we can say that they're hobby events, networking events, passion
events, whatever it may be. How do you meet women in these places? There's a lot of different ways
that you can go about this. I'm going to give you one today. Is this the way to do it? No,
but it's a very good way. And here's what I would recommend to you. If you're going to this place
where you enjoy board games and all this stuff and this is a place to meet women, you
want to socialize with everybody. You want to meet everybody, you want to mingle, you want to be fun,
and social. And what I would do is collect numbers from the guys that you like and the girls that you
like so you can say to them that once in a while you do happy hours. Now I know this sounds funny
that you said at the beginning, you don't want to meet girls at bars, but this is a different story.
This is not meeting the women at bars. You create an event – and by the way, it doesn't have to be
happy hours. It can be a dinner. It could be every single week or every other week you do some fun
dinner at a restaurant that you really enjoy or a type of cuisine. Maybe it's Taco Tuesday
and get people's numbers to invite them out to this event that you created. That
way now you're taking people out of this scene into, hey, we're the group of people that like
this game, or whatever it is that the hobby is and now you're socializing. Now I know that
might sound funny. Like, wait a minute, isn't that what you do at those events?
It is, but let's be honest. Those events are more geared towards the brewing company,
the board games, the hobby, the event. So what you're doing is you're taking this filter
and you're going to these events and you're putting through the filter all
the people that you like and all the people that you are interested in or attracted to.
You get their numbers, you invite them out, and that's where you flirt with them. That's where you
make the move. It's not going to be weird where you're like grabbing one girl's number and not
the other and it's like wait, what's going on and it's awkward. Just be the social guy who throws
social events geared around socializing, and take these numbers, create the events,
invite people out. Is everyone going to come? No. But that's okay. If they're not going to come,
they probably weren't interested in you anyways. If you think that they were going to be interested
in you at this event, but in theory, let's say they're not and then they're going to come to that
little event that you put on, obviously, that's not going to happen. All I'm saying
is you're gonna attract the right people to come to that and that's how I would do it.