The way you
respond to your horse, or the way you respond to your results
with your horse is your responsibility. And I say
responsibility, not a reactionability. And I'm going
to explain why this is and why use these two terms in a minute.
And but I'm also going to show you how. Hi, my name is Chris
Adderson, and I'm the founder of harmony for the horse. It's an
online riders education program. Why is it that we want to be
responsible, rather than reactionable? And that's not a
word. I know, I just made it up. But why do we want to be
responsible rather than reactionable? Because a 96% of
everything that we do is from the subconscious mind. And what
we do consciously is only 4% of our actions. So think about that
for a minute. What does that mean? It means that 96% of the
time that we are acting with our horses, it comes from our
subconscious mind. So in other words, we don't know exactly why
we do some of the things we do. But then afterwards, we justify
it, or we try to reason with it, we try to make sense of what we
did, with our conscious mind that came from our subconscious
mind. So how do we change our reactions from being
reactionable to responsible in the moment? That's the key part
in the moment? How do we do this in the moment, we become
responsible for our dressing our subconscious mind. That's how we
do it. So too often we're focused on the conscious mind,
we want to learn more we want more learning, we want more
courses, we want more online courses, we want more books to
read, we want more understanding. And that may be
true to a certain point. But a lot of times we do not lack for
information, what we're doing instead. And what we want to do
is we want to train our mind in the right way training,
reorganizing reprogramming the subconscious mind, success with
our horses depends on a few things. One of them is our
belief system. For example, we have a student in our program,
and she came to us is struggling and one of her symptoms. One of
her complaints was that she was continually getting hurt. At
first it was her elbow, then her back then her ankle, and it just
kept going on and on and on. And her horses are her passion. Her
horses are her life. But this was always holding her back just
when she thought she was going to start to make progress. She
would get another injury, something would happen. And she
had some pretty lofty goals, right? She had a new horse that
she wanted to work with a young horse and had high goals to
reach high levels of dressage with this new horse, as well as
an older horse that she'd had for a long time. And she wanted
to keep working with this
horse but but continually was interrupted with his injuries.
And it was stopping her fur from progressing. So she had a lot of
heaviness around this, she came in with a lot of heaviness and
sadness, and was kind of in this push pull syndrome, where it was
like, I really want this badly. I really want to do this. My
horse needs me I need to do it. I want to do it. But no, I'm
injured again. And I can't. So what we did is we worked with
her very deeply on her mindset are basically on her
subconscious. And it turned out that she had a very competitive
childhood. And it started when she was about six years old, she
was involved in a very competitive sport. And she was
constantly comparing herself to someone else. And it was
basically it was one other person that she was comparing
herself to, and this other person that she was comparing
herself to it didn't really make sense as an adult if we think
about it, but as a six year old child, that's all she could see
the other person was a lot older than her. The other person was a
lot more mature. The other person had a lot more capability
because of those two reasons, but she was constantly
comparing herself to this other person so much that it totally
consumed her life. Every time she was with this other person,
which was on a daily basis, because she was training on a
daily basis, every time she was with this other person, it was
eating away at her. And being a six year old girl, she didn't
know how to deal with this. So what happened was she formed
certain beliefs about herself from that experience. And that
was that she was lesser than everyone else. And this then
transferred into her writing. So once we pinpointed this, once we
found out that this was the source of her belief system, and
what was really holding her back, she then started to see
other areas in her life that she was being held back, things like
she wasn't listening to herself, she was disregarding her
intuition, or what she was being told or her gut responses. And
she was enrolling in clinics or doing a certain system that
wasn't nourishing her. But yet, she refused to see that
actually, she couldn't see that. And so she was just on
autopilot. And she was just learning in quotes, by wrote.
There was no curiosity, there was no fun in it, there was no
excitement, there was no creativity, no play. And when
she started to realize these things, and she told us about
this, this how she felt this is when we then could start to work
on the strategy and techniques, we work very deeply on the
mindset. And then we can start to work on how she's working
with her horse, the strategy, the technique, the two processes
together, technique and the mindset, and we made suggestions
to her. And our suggestions were that she work on liberty, she
went on to the modules in our program that involved liberty.
And then we worked on how she used her bodies, once we had
released the energy behind these feelings that were an emotions
that were trapped, and in physically within her body, we
then worked on how her body moved. And this is when she
started to really get results, because then her horse started
to reciprocate that to her. She had the freedom now she had the
permission that she needed from herself. Once we got the
subconscious, and the subconscious on board with each
other, to now make progress. And we changed her movement from
dysfunctional movement to functional movement, the
injuries stopped happening. And she realized she was not a
lesser rider than any other rider. So as she started to make
progress, of course, things start coming right, other things
started to surface. And this is where the mindset and the belief
system are so powerfully and intrinsically linked together,
as she worked with her horse, and we worked on the strategy,
how to work with her horse, how to do it physically, with
exercises with different movements, then that strategic
part of our program, linked back again to the mindset part.
So along the way, we helped her to keep releasing the blocks
that were coming out. Most rider education is not taught this
way. It's either do 101 exercises or mindset related to
fear, but it's always on the very surface. And there's not
the connection between these modalities. We use several deep
modalities in our program. And this is from years of
experience, years of helping hundreds of students, then the
technique that we teach you for you and your horse is
specifically for you and your horse, we work genuinely deeper
with you. And this becomes more powerful. And this is what leads
to the effortlessness of it, the ability to repeat it and the
ability to have it reliable. So you don't have to keep going
back and redoing stuff with your horse over and over again. So
success on our horses also depends on our ability to speak
our truth with our horse. So that means not being jaded by
feelings of rejection, or that we're not good enough, or any
other fears that we may have that we're dealing with, and we
all have them. We've all need to work through these things. And
our horses will show us exactly what we need to work with. But
when you work deeply and accept yourself in this way, just like
the rider I was telling you about earlier, you no longer
feel rejection so you're not lesser than and this is where
the authenticity comes in. And this is where your horse can
fully reciprocate with you. And that's when your results
skyrocket. I've seen it time and time again with our students. So
you become empowered, you move out of that stuck state, you
move into the empowered state. And you then are able to be
present. Because you are in your truth you are present with your
horse, and you emote, emotions from your truth, and you move
from your truth. So all these things are connected, then you
will have confidence, your confidence builds, as you get
more and more successes, authenticity is there and you
have self acceptance, most of us are braced. In life, we're
worried, we're worried that we're going to get hurt, maybe
we are worried about doing something wrong and wrecking our
horse or hurting our horse, we're worried about being
rejected, this worry is what will hold us back. And that's
why we don't put our deepest gifts out there. Because we feel
we're too vulnerable. When we feel too vulnerable, and we feel
unsafe, then we're not our authentic true selves. And so
then we can't be as successful as we want to be with our
horses, we can't build the bond that we want, we can't get the
relationship, because there's always that fogginess, or always
always that cloud that's hanging over top of us. So we want to
help you to feel safe number one, so then your work with your
horse comes out of that until you feel safe and in your truth,
then the work with your horse cannot come out of that. It's
not giving you some kind of worksheet or some kind of random
exercise that you're to do and hope it works or a cookie cutter
method or a course that it speaks to a lot of people. What
we do is it's fundamentally for you and your horse. So then
you're giving your horse what he or she needs. And what does that
result in it results in success. And with certain success comes
the repeatability. You find out what works, you can do it over
and over and over again. It's reliable, because you've worked
out you've worked through these processes, and then you can
repeat the success. So if you'd like support with any of these
things that I've talked about with the success, finding your
authenticity, finding your truth so that you can have true
success with your horse. With these means that I've expressed
here and this process, then go to the link that somewhere
around this video. And we can chat. It's just a 15 minute
chat. It's a free assessment which will help you to see where
you're at where you want to go, and how you can get there. All
right, thanks so much for being here. And we'll see you next
time. Bye for now.