Seven critical traits of a truly high value woman.
In other words, she's a keeper
if she's got these qualities.
Now, you don't want to become
the emotionally defeated fella
known for unconvincingly saying,
"happy wife, happy life."
All too often that good hearted fella
is fibbing to himself
meanwhile dying inside and longing to escape.
He took a gamble on a woman
who didn't have these essential traits
and he's paying the price.
Maybe you even know this guy.
Well, this is a video men need
and women can learn from.
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I help men decode modern women
so you can find, attract, and keep your keeper
or simply have better relationships with women.
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Welcome to just the tip.
In the grand casino of love
where the rewards are high
but the stakes are even higher
men know that finding a high value woman
is like hitting the jackpot.
However, gentlemen
not all that glitters is gold.
Without the essential traits
that set high value women apart
you might find yourself
playing the slots with nothing to show for it
but a bruised ego and a broken heart.
Well, guess what gents?
Women also value these traits in men.
Win-win.
Keep in mind, we all have moments
when we're overtired,
underfed fed up or simply not at our best.
Give her and yourself some grace.
Aside from having compatible
beliefs, values, and goals,
here are these seven critical traits
of a high value woman.
One, emotional stability and maturity.
A cornerstone of lasting relationships.
She's the calm in your storm
gracefully navigating relationship challenges
and life's ups and downs.
Examples
one, after a stressful day at work
she talks about her frustrations calmly
asking for comfort
or perspective rather than spiraling into a rant
or taking her anger out on you.
She might say I'm pretty sure my computer
conspired against me today.
I would really be forever grateful
if you could take a look at it.
Two, when plans fall through
she adapts without anger or blame.
Suggesting alternatives with a positive attitude.
I know, crazy.
She might say
well, so the universe vetoed our plans.
I vote for PJ party and takeout.
Yes or yes.
Three, during a typical disagreement
instead of escalating
or trying to win the argument,
she lets it go.
She might say
oh my gosh, are we really arguing about
how to load the dishwasher again?
Ooh, can't we just skip to makeup ***?
Are you in?
(Laugh)
This is a lot to ask nowadays, I know.
How's your score on
emotional stability and maturity? Comment.
This next trait of a high value woman
is commonly lacking in today's society
yet is the path to personal empowerment,
self-respect, and self-esteem.
Number two, personal accountability.
She takes responsibility for her actions,
learning from her missteps
and striving for self-improvement.
I know what you're thinking.
Unicorns are not real, Anna.
I know they are difficult to find, true
but I also actually know women
who display this trait.
Admittedly, not as overtly as we'd all like to see
but still they exist.
Example, she forgets an important date
but instead of making excuses
or gas lighting you,
she apologizes sincerely.
What? Bonus point.
If she proposes a way to make up for it
she might say my brain's calendar app
needs an update
I'm really sorry.
Two, after a minor misunderstanding
she reflects on her part in the confusion
and initiates a sincere conversation to clarify
and improve future communication.
She might say okay, you're right.
I jump to conclusions faster
than a fat kid on a smarty.
Can we hit the reset button?
Bonus point for political incorrectness in my book
you can decide on that.
Okay, three.
Recognizing a habit that annoys you.
She makes a conscious effort
to adjust her behavior
without being asked, crazy.
She might say so my singing in the shower
when you're sleeping isn't a chart topper
full permission to flush the toilet
if it happens again, all right.
Now, how did you score on this one?
Personal accountability, let me know.
Number three, loyalty and commitment.
The gold standard of relationship currencies.
Her dedication is unwavering
not just sexually,
making her a true team mate
through thick and thin.
Examples.
One, when facing opportunities
to flirt with others
she remains faithful
demonstrating her commitment to your relationship.
She might even say
even George Clooney couldn't sway me.
You set the bar way too high.
Bonus point if she combines this with a kiss
or a butt grab.
Okay, number two,
she defends you in your absence,
ensuring others respect you
even when you're not around to hear it.
How can you recognize thus trait
if she defends you when you're not there
well, she may defend others who are not present.
She might say trash talk my man,
prepare for a battle of wits unarmed as you are.
Number three,
during tough times instead of running away,
she doubles down on supporting the relationship,
showing she's in it for the long haul.
She might say we are stickier than super glue.
You're not getting rid of me that easy.
Now, how did you do on this one?
Comment.
Number four, kindness and compassion.
So underrated.
She embodies the saying
treat others like you want to be treated.
Examples,
one, she notices you're having a bad day
and surprises you by making your favorite meal
or getting your favorite takeout.
She might say deploying comfort food.
If this doesn't fix it
I've got a special dessert for you.
Wink, wink, nudge, nudge.
All right, two, you're at a coffee shop
and the barista's name tag says Shelly, in training
your lady love notices Shelly's nervousness
and provides a kind remark.
Maybe she says
we've all had our first day at work at some point
I'm not in a rush.
Hint, notice how she treats servers
and people of lesser social or economic status.
Three, when you're not feeling well
she takes the time to care for you
making sure you're comfortable
and have everything you need.
She might say
doctor, who you've got nurse Ashley
guaranteed to be 50% more effective with cuddles
and some other stuff when you feel better.
Okay, so the next trait is kind of sneaky
because couples often don't realize
how important it is
until they're completely invested
in the relationship.
Can you guess what it is?
Five. Intellectual compatibility
sparks fly not only from sexual attraction,
chemistry and connection
but from engaging discussions
and ideally some shared curiosities.
Intellectual compatibility isn't about IQ.
There are many forms of intelligence
like math, language,
music, interpersonal, kinesthetic, and others.
However, if one of you can't converse
about things beyond the superficial,
like the weather or what you ate for lunch
and the other prefers complex discussions
about science or physics
or other areas of intelligence
that you're not interested in,
well, you might not align.
Examples, one, during a long drive
you engage in a stimulating debate
about a podcast you both watched
disagreeing while actually
respecting each other's viewpoints.
Crazy.
She might say if we keep this up
we'll need a referee or maybe just another coffee
or this might be one we'll just have to agree
to disagree on, agree.
Number two or two, she introduces you to a new hobby
that challenges you both mentally.
She might say
ready to suck at something new together?
It will be our bonding disaster.
Three, maybe neither of you
enjoy solving complex puzzles
or brain games or being challenged intellectually.
Maybe she'll say something like,
our brain power combined
could power a small battery.
I'm actually okay with that.
Don't feel bad if you're not interested
in "intellectual pursuits."
If that's not what you are or who you are
or who you want to be
the right woman will love the real you.
Question, what are you a smarty pants at?
Now's the time to brag a little in the comments.
Okay, so the next trait is where
a lot of people get tripped up by their triggers.
Six, respect.
It's the foundation upon which
all other traits stand.
She values you, your individuality,
your space, and your dreams.
Respect ensures the inevitable conflicts
of all relationships are handled
effectively and lovingly.
Examples, she actively listens when you speak,
sets aside distractions,
and gives you her full attention.
Valuing your words.
That might sound like I'm all ears
unless you start talking math.
Then I'm all confusion.
Two, recognizing your need for personal space.
She supports your hobbies
and friendships outside the relationship.
How mature.
She might say go have fun with the boys.
I'll be binging my secret shame reality TV shows.
Three, she consults you on decisions
that affect both of you,
acknowledging the importance
of your opinions and feelings.
She might say
how about you choose the restaurant
and I will max out
my daily word allotment on route.
My only request is
let's go somewhere new, deal?
Okay, so how do you score
on the trait of respecting others?
Be honest.
Okay, seven, appreciation.
She recognizes and values your contributions
and qualities big and small,
and expresses that appreciation.
Examples,
one, she thanks you for the everyday things,
recognizing your efforts to contribute
to the relationship.
She might say something like,
you know, for someone who
didn't come with instructions
you're pretty amazing at this boyfriend thing.
Two, on your anniversary,
she writes a note highlighting all the ways
you've positively impacted her life
over the past year.
She might say you're my favorite way
to filter away the hours in an offhand way.
Three, she celebrates your personal achievements
showing genuine pride in your successes.
She might say I always knew you could do it.
Just remember, if you get too famous
I have embarrassing photos of you.
Your turn.
How did you score on expressing appreciation
to her or to others?
All right, so since you stuck with me this far
I'll give you a bonus trait
that makes life so much better.
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Okay, bonus sense of humor.
The ability to laugh at ourselves
and together is a lifeline.
She might not be a jokester
but if she laughs at your jokes
that adds real joy and lightness
when challenges show up.
Example,
one, she sends you funny memes
that perfectly capture
inside jokes between the two of you.
She might say something like,
if laughter burn calories
we'd both be invisible by now.
In a tense situation she cracks
a cheesy joke that lightens the mood
and puts things in perspective.
Might be something like
this is as awkward as a giraffe in a phone booth.
Should we do a do over?
Three, you both create playful, silly traditions
that keep your relationship fine and lighthearted.
She might say
let's start a new tradition.
Nudy Tuesdays.
Ah, too much? Okay, fine.
Taco Tuesdays?
If there are any ladies watching
note how a light heart
and sense of humor
can turn even the most frustrating
or mundane moments
into memories you'll both cherish.
Bonus point,
if you can turn the ordinary into an innuendo
just for him.
Well, fellas, how do you do on this one?
How's your sense of haha?
Prove it by sharing a silly joke in the comments.
Try to keep it clean.
Ladies and gents,
these traits are a royal flush for a relationship
where both of you feel valued,
understood, supported,
and setting you up for a love
that's not only long lasting
but deeply satisfying.
Who doesn't want that?
When it comes to love
if you want to win against the house
find a lady who ticks these boxes
and inspires you
to bring your best self to the table as well.
Ladies can up their mate value even more
by developing the traits described
in my video on
the 25 signs that she's not just a catch,
she's a championship keeper.
Gentlemen, you'll want to take notes on that one.
It's not about happy wife, happy life
it's about happy spouse, happy house.
Even if you're not married
both partners need to contribute
to the other's happiness, team mate.
It's really not that complicated.
Simply be kind.
Set your ego aside and be kind.
Thanks for being here,
sending you so much love and inspiration.
That's my inspiration going out to you.
I've had coffee today.
Lots of love, God bless.