00:00 I feel a bit
strange saying this, but apparently I have Riz.
00:04 Now, a month ago,
I didn't even know what this word meant. Here it is for you. Riz is an internet slang word
defined as style, charm, or attractiveness, the ability to attract a romantic or sexual partner.
It apparently originated as an abbreviation of the word charisma. The word was made popular by a
guy named Kai Sennett in 2021. Riz started with me and a few of my friends from back home. It
apparently caught fire and became a trend over on TikTok. And in 2023, the Oxford University
00:34 of the year. So then,
how do I know that I have it? Well, the story apparently is that my wife was talking with a
number of her friends and a few of their teenage daughters and the question came up which dad has
the most riz. Apparently, in a tight vote three to two, I was voted the dad with the most riz. My
friend, Matt – sorry, man – he came in number two. But, seriously, gents, as a guy in your late 20s,
in your 30s, in your 40s, in your 50s, how do you dress casual and still look good? What are the
modern rules to looking good when you dress down? Gentlemen, that's the subject of today's video.
01:04 Bye!
01:10 Now, this first rule is a simple one that
I don't think I've talked about before. In fact, I don't think I've talked about it because I thought
it was so obvious. Yet, I look around and so many men are not using this rule to their advantage.
And the best part about this rule, it works for the hard to fit body types. We're talking
the guys that are oval-shaped, pear-shaped, or for you really skinny gents. All right. Enough
suspense. What's the rule? Always add a third piece. All right. So, what do I mean by this? So,
obviously when you're getting dressed, you got your two main pieces. You have your shirt.
01:38 and you have your pants. By the way, if you
didn't know that, if you're going outside without pants, stop it, you're going to get arrested. That
third piece is adding a second upper body layer. For some of you guys, it could be a vest, maybe
it's going to be a sweater like a cardigan. But, for a lot of you guys, even in warmer weather,
a lightweight jacket or over shirt is going to be the perfect piece to be able to level
up your style. A well-fitted lightweight jacket on a skinny guy gives him a bit more substance.
02:03 On a heavy set, man,
it builds up the shoulders makes you look taller allows the eyes to go up and down and it slims
up the silhouette. On top of that, lightweight jackets give you options. You can always take
it off or if it gets cold or if your lady is cold, you can actually loan her the jacket.
02:17 Now, this takes me to the next rule of great
casual dressing and that is master your layering. And, yes, layering is not just for the fall and
winter. You can layer during the spring, you can even layer during the summer especially if you're
going to be out on the water. What you're looking to do here is to change your habits, give yourself
options. Layering correctly adds a sophisticated complexity to your overall appearance. The
next rule to looking great in casual clothing, understand that neutral colors are your friends.
When I'm talking neutral colors, I'm talking navy, all different shades of gray, black,
02:47 olive, and variations of blues.
Why neutral colors work? First up, they are easy to mix and match. Second, they've been around for
a long time. They've got a timeless sophisticated overall feel to them because they've got history.
The next rule, gents, upgrade your staples, your foundational items you want to see if you
can switch them out for something that's a little bit classy. Example, let's drop denim. Yes, I know
jeans are great, so we should go with a darker color. But for this video, I'm going to say.
03:13 there other
options you could explore? Check out this pair of pants right here. You're going to notice
immediately they're made with an Enduritec fabric. Basically, this is a cutting edge
material that's going to be soft, durable, and it's going to have a bit of stretch. So,
it's going to fit you no matter how you move. Now, gents, if you're curious where to get those pants,
you need to check out today's sponsor, Cuts. Not only do they have amazing t-shirts,
which I've talked about for years, but Cuts has a wide range of clothing that can level up your
casual wardrobe. So, gents, when you go over to the website, of course, they've got the classic
03:42 t-shirts, a variety of different cuts,
different looks. And I love how all the colors right here. These are classic t-shirts that are
going to work in any man's casual wardrobe. But, let's say you want to step up the casual
t-shirt. Look to a Henley. This is a classic menswear piece that has been around for almost
two hundred years. Now, those icon pants I talked about earlier aren't your thing. Check out cuts.
04:02 A.O.
joggers. These joggers are made from a comfortable lightweight material and I
love the tapered cut. If you're looking for something that's a bit more athletic,
it's going to be dressier than a pair of sweats, but still is going to work with
a t-shirt and bomber jacket. And speaking of outerwear, what am I wearing right here? Gents,
I'm wearing their new Buckingham bomber. The fabric right here has a herringbone twill,
so it's going to resist the wind. And what I really like about this is it's just a really soft.
04:26 comfortable lightweight
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Bomber on the outside is going to have a tight knit water resistant weave and it's incredibly
lightweight. This is a jacket you can throw in your bag when it gets cool. Just pull it out,
throw it on, look good, and feel good. And, of course, gents, I've got the best deal for you over
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04:55 So, the next rule
to looking good in casual clothing is to stay updated, not trendy. So, trends and fashion,
I understand why people want to follow this. This is actually built into us as human beings.
There was this great study about some chimps that one of them started wearing a feather.
Guess what? All the other chimps started wearing this feather for no reason. It's
just it became the fashion. This is something that's hardwired. We want to be like the crowd.
05:18 That being said,
if you've watched more than a few videos on this channel, you guys know we're about a man finding
his own style. So, when you understand what message you want to send to the world and let's
face it, for a lot of guys, they are going to be dressing casual day in day out. Yet,
you own a business, you're looking out there to grow your nonprofit, whatever it may be,
you're looking for a job, you want to still make sure that you are dressed
05:39 well,
even in your casual clothing. So, by keeping things updated, you're not wearing clothing that's
worn out that's falling apart that has holes in it has stains on it. You look at your staples,
you look at the pieces that you wear again and again. Has it been, you know,
a few years since you've upgraded those t-shirts, that jacket, those trousers,
those shoes? There's nothing wrong with keeping shoes for a decade if you take good care of them
and if they still look good. But, you got to give things an honest assessment so you know what?
06:06 I probably need to
upgrade this. It's been a while. Next up, let's talk about the rule of shoes. Your shoes are your
foundation of your outfit. Make sure that they are clean, make sure that they look good, they
work with what you're wearing. If that clothing sends the message you want to send the world,
then you want to make sure you've got a pair of shoes that work with the formality of that
outfit. That being said, instead of going with canvas sneakers, go with a leather. Not only
is it going to be more resistant to actually getting dirty, it just has more of a premium.
06:33 That being said, if you're a little
bit more dressed up, if you're sticking with jeans occasionally throwing in a sports jacket or just
wearing clothing, you know, that leather jacket, don't be afraid to bring in a pair of Chelsea's,
suede, something like this. It's going to have a little bit more style, it's going to give a – be
a little bit more of a statement. But, I love a pair of shoes like this. Again, your shoes
are the foundation upon which everything else is built, so you want to make sure you've got
a pair that send the message you want to send the world without you even opening your mouth.
06:58 The next rule to look
in stylish and casual clothing and I've alluded to it a couple times already is to understand and
leverage the power of texture. Now, texture can mean a variety of things. It can be smoothness,
it can be roughness, an item can have a bumpy texture. All of this, though,
refers to the top surface, what we see and how we react to it. In fact,
living organisms and their reaction to texture, this is well documented.
They had these monkeys and they gave them two options, baby monkeys. It was, hey, you can –
07:25 feed from
this fake monkey here that has no texture, but it did have milk. The other one just
simply was soft. They had put some cloth on it. Guess where all the baby monkeys went?
They jumped on the one with cloth because it felt like a mother. It was comforting,
it was warm even though it didn't have food. So, how does this apply to us? Because human beings
we are going to be drawn to nice textures whether it's suede whether it's a cashmere sweater. So,
if you want to be approachable, if you want to literally wear something that is softer.
07:53 Or perhaps you want the opposite, you want to be a
little bit more untouchable, you want to actually come off as an authority. In that case, that's why
silk ties, that's why worsted wool suits, they don't have much of a texture, actually have a
little bit of sheen to them. That type of look, that type of presentation actually is a little
bit more standoffish and of a leader. And gents, let me be clear, there isn't a right or wrong.
With me laying out these rules, I just want to give you options. I want to help you understand.
08:18 decode these nonverbal
communication cues that human beings use so that you can use it to your advantage. As you guys
know here at Real Men Real Style, I really don't care about clothing. What I care about is you,
this great person that wants to achieve amazing things in their life. And I don't want you to
shoot yourself in the foot, I want you to be able to leverage style as a tool
to get what you want out of life. The next rule is to invest in quality over quantity.
08:46 Now, this is
pretty tough when you're just getting started because it's like how do you define quality,
Antonio? One of the best tips I can give you is go into the best menswear store in your
area and actually touch nice fabrics. When you buy clothing that you may wonder, okay,
I can buy a t-shirt for $10, I can buy one for $100, what is going to be the difference?
Oftentimes it's going to be the length of the cotton strands, it's going to be the design.
09:11 the cut,
you're going to find a lot of those higher-end shirts are actually made to fit less body types
versus those cheap t-shirts that, yes, cost five bucks are made from a really cheap cotton
that is going to be rough is going to change its shape and is made to fit a hundred different men,
so therefore it doesn't fit anyone properly. Now, that being said, I do need to point out you can
spend a lot of money on crap clothing. But rarely, gents, will you find high quality clothing at a
super low price unless it's on sale. What I want you to understand though is to be able to spot.
09:40 the right
clothing for you for your needs especially if day in day out you are going out there,
you're talking to people, you're engaging with people or did you even know and this
is a whole science of enclosed cognition where the clothing you wear can actually
have an effect on how you see yourself. So, don't be afraid guys to actually get what you want just.
09:59 wear the heck out
of it because when you get what you want, you're going to wear it more times, you're going to feel
better every time you wear it. And that's what I love to see that you are buying quality for you,
you're buying the right items that you will wear because the most expensive item you will ever buy
is the one that you actually never wear. Now, with casual clothing, I do want to talk about
logos and I get it why people go towards brands. Brands equal trust for a lot of people. You've
gone into this brand and consistently they've got your size, their clothing seems to stand up.
10:28 to wash,
it always looks good, you get compliments, you like their color palettes. Now,
these change sadly over time and a lot of guys, you know, get disillusioned with a brand after a
while when they change things up too much. But avoid big logos, it's kind of what I'm getting
towards. And the reason being is big logos, unless that company is paying you, why are you out there
showing off the logo? I get it maybe it's a status thing for some people, but for those in the know,
the best status is actually wearing clothing again that fits your body type that looks good.
10:58 on you finding those colors and
that right there is going to be timeless. If you look at classic pictures of men out there that had
style a hundred years ago, do we see big logos? No. What do we see? A man is wearing clothing
that fits his body and looks good. Yes, even casual clothing like that fit his body. And so,
don't be afraid and I've talked this in a number of videos, I'm not going to, but know the name of
your tailor. Yes, even your casual clothing. So many guys don't know this, your jeans.
11:23 your trousers that are not dress pants,
even t-shirts. I wouldn't recommend it. I'd rather but you buy a t-shirt that fits you properly. But,
yes, you can take a t-shirt to a tailor and get it adjusted or you can learn to make the
adjustment yourself and you can slim up sleeves and just make things look better
especially if you've got a hard to fit body type. Now, this next rule is a bit advanced,
but I want you to be thinking about it and that is to balance proportions. So, I was
talking about joggers. I like joggers. They've really grown on me initially when they came out.
11:51 It wasn't – it
just wasn't my style, but as I've moved towards more casual clothing myself,
I found that joggers actually work really well. But, the key with joggers is going to be the
proportions because they're usually tapered more around the leg. You want to make sure
that if you're going to pair them with a jacket, it's a jacket that is a bit more tapered. If you
wear it with a jacket that's way too baggy, all of a sudden you're going to just have a
look that is disproportioned. Another area to think about proportions are the proportions of
your own body. Maybe you've got really long legs. Maybe you have an especially long.
12:21 Obviously,
different types of people, but understand the clothing you wear
can actually exaggerate that look and make you look just odd. So, if you've got longer legs,
maybe look to wear a belt that's going to more closely match the shirt, then match your trousers
because if you have a belt that matches the trousers, it's going to lengthen the leg line.
12:37 Obviously, the opposite advice if you've
got a long torso. In that case, you're going to want to lengthen your leg line, so make sure your
belt is a similar color or similar shade to that of your trousers. All right, gents, so what about
watches? What about casual accessories? Well, guys, I got you covered in this video right here
where I break out casual accessories to enhance a man's look. If you want to get it, it's a great
video. Check it out. I'm really proud of this video. Made a while back. It is a solid video,
so, yeah. If you want to up your casual style and you're concerned about accessories, you can check
13:06 Check this video out, boom, right here.