Hey, what's going on man? Tripp Kramer here from Tripp Advice.com. I know that a lot of guys are
going out there, they're trying to meet women on the apps and in person. And for some guys,
it's just not working out. If you're watching this video and you're having some of these issues,
that's what I want to talk about today so you can get to the point where you are getting
real results in your dating life and you're not struggling. One thing I got to talk about here is
a lot of guys, they give up too soon. They think that they're doing enough,
but they're actually not. I feel like guys have this wrong mindset going into it. They
think they're doing something. They think they're putting in the work. But they're actually doing
less than the bare minimum. For example, let's say you're a guy who's saying, "I'm not attracting
women. This isn't working for me." And you're... I don't know, swiping for 5 minutes a day.
That's probably the bare minimum that I could think of. You're swiping 5 minutes per day putting
absolutely no real work or effort into your pictures into your bio
and you're just swiping for 5 minutes a day and you're going "well, it's not working for me."
That's probably the bare minimum. But then there's people out there who are saying,
"I'm putting in 30 minutes a day. I have changed my pictures, I think my pictures look good." Maybe
you're going out and you're talking to a few women and still nothing is happening. That's slightly
above the bare minimum. But I would ask, are you really putting in the actual best practices that
need to be done? Whenever you're doing anything in life and you're trying to get results, you gotta
ask yourself, "Am I doing the best practices? Or is it something that I'm making up in my head?"
So maybe you think it's the best practices because there's something that feels intuitive to you. Or
you feel that this just feels... well, I guess that is intuition. It just feels right or maybe
you took a tip from a friend. But do you know you're doing the actual best practices? Are you
watching videos like these or reading blog posts or listening to podcasts and getting the best
practices? Really think about that. Let's talk about your online dating profile. For example,
people think... and I get this all the time, by the way. I work with coaching clients and this
probably happens about 8 times out of 10. They send me their photos and they go "Yeah, I think my
photos are pretty good." Maybe even sometimes they think their photos are great and they send them
to me and they're actually terrible. When I say terrible I mean, they're selfies and when you do
a selfie, your face looks a little bit distorted and it doesn't have the most attractive view.
Maybe the pictures are of him with a bunch of people and he thinks that that's
good because he's socializing. And socializing is good, right? Girls want to see that, yeah?
Or maybe he's got a picture of him doing something cool but you can't really see what he looks like.
My point is, you got to really break down everything you're doing and ask yourself,
"Am I doing best practices?" So I'm asking you, as a person who's trying to get better at this,
or again, anything in your life, that you are breaking things down and you're being conscious,
being aware of everything you're doing and saying "Am I doing this right?" This is going to get you
to the point where you are getting results. Back to the example of online dating. Are these photos
the best that they can be? Well, what are the best photos? Are you searching in Google? Are you
watching videos like this that are telling you the actual kinds of videos? Are you're looking
at statistics and data from some of the online dating sites that have done their own research
and have shown you, for example, that selfies typically do not do well? Are you looking
at your bio and is it something that is the best practice in terms of writing things about
yourself? Or maybe it's blank altogether? Or maybe it's kind of one funny line that hasn't
obviously been hitting because you're not getting a lot of results? Are you testing new things?
That brings me next to the point of testing. Are you testing? Or are you just going okay,
I'm just doing what I'm doing. Beyond best practices, of course, there's no guarantee in life
so even best practices don't get you to the point where you're getting the best results so you also
have to test. If you're doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result,
we like to call that insanity. You need to figure out, okay, if I'm not getting results what can I
change here? So you analyze and look at all the different things for example, with online dating,
you're looking at your pictures, you're looking at your bio, you're looking at your messages.
Am I not getting the results I want? What can I change? Start with one variable, do
your own experiments, start with pictures, change those out, do more swiping, change your bio.
After that, again, we're doing one test at a time as a variable, do your bio. And another test,
test out your messages. Could we be using new messages? I'm trying to give you the skill set on
how to learn this and how to get better at this. All the information is basically out there. Of
course, if you need more help, you can do coaching with me. I have a link down below, you can check
that out where you and I can work together or you'll be working with someone on my team
to help you with your online dating profile and with approaching and talking to women in person
and building attraction. Check out that link down below. But I digress. We're talking about how to
look at best practices to see if what you're doing is correct. I have a lot of other guys also who
go out and say, "Hey, I'm doing approaches but it's not working. I'm not able to get a woman's
number. I'm not able to get dates from talking to women in person." So I asked him, I said,
"How many times are you going out approaching per week?" And he said, "well, I'm not really
going out every week." I say "Okay, well, how much are you going out per month?" And he says,
"I don't know, I'm probably doing one or two a month." Face-palm. One to two times per month
is a very low number. That's nothing. Even if you're doing all the best practices
and have done a bunch of testing, even going out and talking to two to three women a month
is very low. I know that seems like a lot to you because that's such a bigger number compared
to zero and it's not easy to go out and talk to women so it seems like a big deal, but in reality,
it's not enough. You need to be putting in more effort and talking more women. But again, you
could be doing that. Maybe you're going out and you're talking to 20 women per month. Maybe it's
5 women per week. Well at that point, if you're not getting results, you got to think about what
you're doing. What are you saying? What are you wearing? How is your presentation of your
outer qualities? What are the kinds of things that you're saying to a woman? You need to be
looking again at the best practices and then from there testing. The formula is best practices,
plus testing, and putting yourself out there to do what you need to do. Some guys... they give up,
they give up too fast. They think they're doing enough, but they're doing the bare minimum. Be
honest with yourself. Ask yourself, what are you doing? What kind of work are you putting in?
Don't just try one or two things and then go "I'm not getting results. It's not working." That's
not how life works. Things need to be tested and tried again and again. And the good news for you
is there's dating coaches out there. There is data out there from the websites for online dating.
There's podcasts, there's these YouTube videos, there's so much, there's coaching, like I just
said. I have coaching that helps guys. There's so many opportunities for you to learn and to test.
And again, if you don't want to do this all on your own, and I know that this can be so annoying
to do on your own. I had to do this for several years on my own because I couldn't get a coach.
I want you to have the opportunity to get a coach like myself, like someone on the Tripp Advice team
who can do all this for you and take out any of the questions that you have. Go to Coached By
Tripp dot com. There's a link down below. And if you don't want to do that, that's fine too.
But at least try to figure out what it is that you're doing right or wrong, test, and use best
practices. If this helps, put a comment down below and I'll speak to you on the next video.