To say the least I'm obsessed with the way I look.
It just runs my entire life.
People tell me I'm beautiful
and I just don't believe them.
I tell Molly all the time
girls would die to look like you.
When I look at people like J. Lo
or Carrie Underwood, they're perfection.
I don't like my nose, don't like my lips,
I don't like my smile.
I hate my teeth.
One time I tried to file them down with a nail file.
It was pretty painful.
There's really not one part of my body that I like.
In order to deal with what I don't like about my face
I just wear makeup all the time.
I usually take about four hours to get ready everyday.
I have a really specific routine that I do.
I do my foundation,
I contour a little bit,
I do my eyes, I do lipstick, lip liner,
bronzer, blush, highlight, eye shadow,
mascara, eyeliner, eyebrows.
I don't think my fiance's ever seen me without makeup.
If Molly does not think she looks great
she's not leaving the house, trust me.
Mike always says all I care about is what I look like.
We both get frustrated.
I get pretty crabby if I'm rushed doing my makeup.
I'm sitting here waiting on Molly.
She's already taken two hours to get ready.
If Molly's getting ready and I tell her
hurry up, we have to go, we're running late
she will absolute bite my head off.
Sometimes I just can't even go outside
because I really don't like the way I look
and I just can't bring myself to leave the house.
If I did go outside before I was completely ready
I would feel like people think I'm hideous.
I feel she's absolutely beautiful.
I don't understand the obsession.
The way I look has definitely taken over my life.
I really need Dr. Phil's help.
Okay now a lot of people might look at you
and say oh come on, get over yourself,
but I recognize that this isn't a way
for you to fish for compliments or whatever,
that this is a very serious debilitating thing for you
that's disrupting your life, right?
Absolutely.
So this is something that's in your head,
it's not something that's just kind of
you being superficial about wanting to look perfect.
Right, absolutely.
And I hope people realize that it runs much deeper
than just can't find the perfect dress.
Yeah.
This morning you went through all of these dresses.
Yes.
And she'll do that kind of thing at home, right?
Yeah.
And so you sit there.
(tapping)
Just waiting. Waiting.
And I really, there's nothing else I can do.
If I tell her you know we have to go,
hurry up, it's a fight.
And do you ever get satisfied
or do you just finally compromise
and say hell I gotta go?
Um, no I'm never satisfied.
Like you picked a dress this morning, right?
I did.
And the dress you picked was this one.
Yes.
That's not what you have on.
I changed my mind.
So you changed your mind after you picked this one.
Yes.
Take me through that moment when you've made a choice,
but you're not satisfied,
what conversation do you have in your head?
Well specifically today I felt like
it made my stomach look big
and like my shoulders looked really broad
and I just didn't feel very pretty in it.
Okay now let's assume that that's right.
I'm gonna go with you for a minute.
Let's assume that that makes your stomach look big
and your shoulders look broad.
Do you fear judgment?
Yes, I mean I definitely care what people think.
So you think people are gonna look at you and say what?
I definitely fear that they're gonna think that I'm ugly.
How many of you would agree that when you go out
you want to put your best foot forward,
you try to look your best when you go out raise your hand.
Okay look around, keep 'em up, keep 'em up.
Okay everybody does that
and how many of you feel like when you go out
day in, day out you do look your absolute best
every day that you go out raise your hand.
(audience laughing)
Okay, so everybody wants to look their best
and nobody feels like they do.