- Hi, this is Marisa Peer.
I'm the founder and creator of RTT,
Rapid Transformational Therapy®,
a powerful profound therapy
that's taking the world by storm.
And I want to talk to you today about dreaming bigger.
And it is really, really, important.
We kind of know that we should have goals.
We know that we should have dreams.
Some people say, "But I need to have reasonable ones.
"I don't want to be disappointed.
"I'm just going to have a little goal, a little dream
"and then maybe I can get it and if I don't
"I won't be disappointed."
You know what, you will.
Here's why.
Your potential expands as you move towards it.
You cannot know, none of us can know what
our potential is because as we move
towards our potential it moves and it moves and it moves.
And that's a great thing to know.
"Oh, I don't know what my potential is
because as I get to it, it expands" yes it does.
And here's a wonderful thing.
When your mind expands to a new dimension
it never, ever, ever goes back it keeps going forwards.
I used to work with prisoners and they'd say things like,
"I just want to get out, and if I get out
"I'd just have a little tiny studio apartment
"and just a job stacking shelves, that's all I want."
But then a year later they go, "Well you know
"this apartment's too small.
"I need a separate bedroom,
"I want people to come and stay, I need two bedrooms.
"It doesn't challenge me to stack shelves,
"I need something more."
And we see it in the Olympic world
where Mark Spitz in the 80s won so many medals,
we was RoboCop, he was amazing.
He was a machine winning all those medals
and breaking records.
And now, you know what?
You can't get into the swimming team
swimming at the speed he swam at,
it's no longer good enough.
Because when he moved to that potential and broke records
people followed him.
When Roger Bannister ran a mile under four minutes
that same year 27 more people did it too.
Before that it wasn't even possible.
And athletes show us our potential.
People who do amazing things show us "wow,
"I'm a human, I could sing like that, soar like that,
jump like that, and even if I can't
"I'm going to celebrate another human being
"soaring towards a potential I didn't even know existed."
So why should you dream big?
Because your mind expands to new dimensions.
And I hear people say, "You know what,
"I've learned to manifest, it's amazing.
"I manifest parking spaces, how cool is that."
Well it's very cool.
I do that too in central London.
I will always find a parking space
because I tell my mind I'll find it.
But if I could do that why would I stop at a parking space?
Expand to bigger, better things.
You have a universal brain.
As you think, someone else is thinking your thoughts.
We see how birds fly and fish swim.
And they have a universal brain.
Birds fly as a big bird.
Fish swim as a big fish.
And one doesn't go, "I'll be the tail, you be the fin."
They just move together.
And there's a universal brain.
That means as you think about inventing something,
someone in the world is thinking about it too.
The day I began to think about writing a book,
I went to a dinner party and I sat next to an editor.
That wasn't a fluke.
Because when you expand your mind to new dimensions
all kinds of thing happen to meet your expectations
and they all stem from the belief,
I'm going to write a book, I'm going to write a play,
I'm going to do something, produce something.
So if you're going to have dreams and goals, make them big.
You know the expression, "Reach for the moon,
you'll probably have the stars",
reach higher, dream bigger.
Dream bigger and bigger and bigger, don't dream smaller.
If you have a gift for making things happen
then, "well I'm just going to visualize
"that meeting being canceled, I don't want to go.
"I'm dreading going, oh look, I thought that thought
"and they canceled it, yay."
How about thinking "well, if I can think that,
"if I have that much power why don't I visualize
"the meeting being amazing and phenomenal
"and productive and amazing."
You see many people stop with their dream.
'I want to find love', that's a nice dream.
'I'm going to find love'.
For how long, an hour, an afternoon, a night?
How about for the rest of your life?
How about finding the most amazing love?
I had a friend, we used to live in Notting Hill.
Notting Hill has a lot of rock stars.
And in her road was a rock star.
And she used to sing this song, "♪I want, I want that man"
it was a big hit at the time.
And she would go, "I want him, I want him,
"I want him in my bed, I want him."
And what happened is one day he got a bit drunk
and he rang the doorbell.
She opened the door and there he was.
And he was in her bed.
And they had wonderful time and she never saw him again
and I'm like, "but why did you stop at that?
"You manifested him, you dreamt of him and he turned up.
"You could've had him forever if you dreamt bigger.
"'We're going to meet, our hearts and souls
'and are going to collide, he's going to see I'm the most
'amazing woman in the whole world for him.
'We're going to be together for the rest of our lives,
'we're going to grow in love, he's my soulmate',
"You saw him, you connected with him at some level,
"he turned up on your doorstep and he left after one night
" because you didn't dream a big enough dream."
'I want more money, hang on a minute,
'I might have 10 dollars in my pocket.
'Is that, no, that's not my dream'.
Well make your dream specific, 'I want a million dollars.
'And by the way, what do you want it for?
'Well I'm going to create a product, I'm going to make something,
'I'm going to monetize, I'm going to do something
'and when I get that million dollars
'I'm going to help more people, employ people,
'give more people help' because the bigger
you make your dream, the more you will manifest it.
If you want to be an Olympic athlete that's a big dream.
Going to go to the Olympics, break a world record,
but you have to go out
and train and practice and do stuff.
But if you have a dream that's big you can go towards it.
When Whoopi Goldberg won an Oscar she said,
"For every little black kid in the projects
"dream big, don't ever let someone say you can't do that."
When someone said to Danny Devito,
"Danny you'll never be a movie star."
He went, "I will."
And someone said to Naomi Campbell,
"Black girls don't get on the cover of Vogue,
"that door's shut."
She went, "I'll kick it open."
And I love that about her because she said,
"No, you are not going to stop my dream."
I got very ill in the middle of my career
and my doctor said, "You know you can't
go to Costa Rica and give this talk."
I said, "No, that's my dream."
He said, "Well you can't fly why not go on a boat?"
"I don't care how long it takes,
"I am not giving up my dream.
"I'm going no matter what it takes.
"I'll go by boat, I don't care
"if it takes me a week I am going."
And he went, "You know what, I'm going to let you go,
"I'm going to sign you off because you're so determined."
But the determination to follow my dream
made me fight a very tough illness
and I bounced back from that
because I would not allow it to interfere with my dream
not even for a week.
A week after I had the surgery I was back on stage
and speaking with Richard Bandler, having a great time
because I had a dream and my mind
was like a missile it was always moving towards that dream.
And it was exciting, it was challenging.
So dream big dreams, you are just as likely
to make a big dream come true as a little one.
If you can make a little one come true,
'I wanted more money and I found $20 in the street.
'I wanted love and I found someone for a night.
'I wanted to be pregnant and I got pregnant
'but I didn't have a baby'.
See that's a classic example of a dream not being correct.
People say to me, "I just want to be pregnant."
And I'm like, "No you don't."
"I do."
"You don't."
They go, "I do."
I go, "No, no no,
"you want to conceive and carry and grow
"and deliver a perfect baby."
You can be pregnant 10 times without a baby.
That's not your dream, that's just the beginning.
So if you want a baby, don't go, 'I want to be pregnant',
go 'I want to conceive, carry to full-term,
'grow a perfect, thriving baby.
'I want to deliver an amazing, healthy baby,
'I want to have an amazing relationship with this child.
'And I want to grow an amazing new human being'.
Because your mind goes, "Oh I get that,
"I can see that dream.
"But I thought you just wanted to be pregnant."
No, you see, you've got to be very specific.
People say, "I keep, my dreams don't come true."
It shouldn't even be a dream.
You see when you go, "I dream of finding love,
I wish for love, I long for love, I hope for love."
Your mind goes, "Well keep dreaming,
keep hoping, keep wishing."
Well you go, "Nope I will go out and find it.
"I am not going to sit on the sofa watching TV.
"I am going out to find love.
"I'm going to believe I'm worth it
"and then I'm going to put myself in front
"of the kind of person I want to be with
"and then I'm going to find one."
You see I work with women who go, "I want love
"and I go to yoga every day."
Well there's no men in yoga.
Maybe there's one but there's 35 women.
If you want a guy you've got to go to the weights class
or the car wash or a poker school or a golf club.
If you are a guy and you want to find a woman
you should go to yoga because there's not many men there.
You should get out of the weights and go to yoga.
So you have to be proactive with your dream.
'I want to be a published author or speaker',
Well go to Toastmasters, learn to speak.
When I wanted to write a book I wrote an article
for my daughter's school magazine.
It was the first time I wrote anything.
And they loved it and that led me to go to that dinner
which led me to sitting next to the publisher
which led me to getting a book deal.
But I didn't have the courage to write
till I wrote a very small article for a magazine.
But that was always my step, I didn't go,
"Oh, I've written an article,
"now I can sit back at home
with the potato chips and the TV."
That was my step to be bigger, bigger, bigger.
Dream big dreams but don't make them dreams,
make them goals.
Make them stretch, you demand more of you
and know you are worth it.
You can have a goal, write it out, create a mood board.
If you have a dream or a goal and you create a mood board
and you look at it every day, it wires it into your mind.
And finally, get a peer group.
Now when I was writing a book I decided I needed
to put on a talk to get publishers there.
And I told my peer group,
"next month I'm putting on this talk" because I said it,
I didn't think, "you know what, I'd do that in two months,
"I'd do it next year", I'd committed in front
of a group of people called peers, funnily enough,
ha-ha, I'm a Peer.
But I committed to putting on that talk,
I put on that talk, Google were there,
Harper Collins turned up, I got a massive book deal.
I almost canceled it but I kept going
because I had committed.
If I hadn't committed I wouldn't have done it.
When you commit to a group to doing something
your chances of doing it goes up by a whopping 80%.
Find your own peer group, commit.
I'm going to take action.
Taking small actions and big actions every day
in the direction of your goals
takes you toward your goals like a laser.
So think of your goal or your dream
and instead of dreaming take action.
Little actions, big actions, every single day.
When I wanted to be a known therapist
I would ring up a magazine or a newspaper
and ask them, "Hey, I just saw you had an article there
"on fire walking but would you like to write an article
"on proper hypnosis for athletes
"because that's what fire walking really is?"
And most of them said yes, some said "no,
"oh, who are you? No thank you."
But I kept going, that was my goal.
Every day make one phone call, send one email.
If you get a rejection come back.
I remember vividly that sound, thump,
when the manuscript hit the carpet in my hall
because they only send them back when they don't like them.
And I heard that sound a lot.
My manuscript came back and it came back and it came back.
And I remember J.K. Rowling saying every time it came back
she re-parceled it and sent it to someone else.
Didn't stop to think, didn't have time to cry,
just get that back in an envelope,
send it to another publisher, and I did the same.
She made publishing history but I got my books
published because I kept going.
My dream is to be published.
You might reject me but I'll find someone else who doesn't.
When a director said to Meryl Streep,
"Meryl, you are not beautiful enough to be an actress."
She said, "You know what, that's your opinion
"in a sea of opinions, I think I'll find another opinion."
Don't let anyone burst your bubble, diminish your dreams.
The most successful people got rejected.
John Lennon, Eminem, One Direction, The Beatles,
so many people.
Einstein was told he was educationally subnormal.
John Lennon was told he was on the road to nowhere.
Harry Potter got rejected by several publishers.
But that didn't matter.
Keep dreaming your dream but make it a goal.
Take steps, take action, believe in yourself, keep going
and dream bigger, better dreams.
Remember when your mind expands your dimension,
it cannot, will not, does not go back
and when you move to a new potential
it moves and it moves and it moves.
Beyonce was in a band once and here she is,
she's made it all on her own.
Robbie Williams got fired from Take That.
And here he is.
Piers Morgan got fired as the editor of a newspaper
and here he is.
Some of the most successful people got fired, got dumped,
got rejected but they held onto their goal.
You can too, thank you for listening.
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Your mind is a goal-seeking machine.
Goals give you direction, without them you drift.
With goals you have purpose, direction, meaning and intent.
You're like a missile going forwards.
And without goals you flounder.
So people who have goals always do better in monetary terms,
relationship terms and happiness terms.
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Dream massive, big dreams,
Like Eminem he was told no white guy can be a rapper.
He went, "I'll show you."
He was so angry at rejection that he came back.
He didn't win the contest to be a rapper.
But somebody was in the audience who saw him, took him,
and made him a phenomenal star.
And then he went to Ed Sheeran who was struggling
because he said, "I was the most unfortunate looking kid."
And he showed him, it didn't matter if you've got
red hair and glasses, you can make it.
Thank goodness he did, because what a gift
Ed Sheeran and Eminem are to us, to the world.
You could be a gift too, thanks for tuning in see you soon.