G’day, my name is Rod Sherwin from Tap4Health. When people first come across Emotional Freedom
Techniques, or EFT, it can seem a bit complex even though it has been simplified down from
a number of techniques over the years. First you’ve got to do this weird tapping on different
points, then you’ve got to come up with some words to say while you tap and you’ve
got to think of the words and think of your feelings while you tap and it can all get
a bit complex.
In this video I just want to help you, using tapping, to actually get rid of the stress
and the anxiety of what to say while you tap. It’s a frequently asked question this one
- What words do I say if I’m feeling depressed? What words do I say if I’m feeling angry?
Especially when you see so many good videos on the internet with people saying all these
amazing phrases and people then go, “Well I can’t do it because I can’t come up
with the right words.” As soon as you hear yourself saying something like that “coming
up with the right words” – who decides what words are right? How do you know they
are the right words? One of the things I love about EFT is that whatever you do is the right
thing. It’s very hard, and in fact I’ve never figured out how to do it wrong. As long
as you are tuned in and focused on the emotional issue that you want to work with you’re
doing it right. We’re going to do a couple of rounds of tapping now to get rid of the
fear of saying the wrong thing, or the frustration and the resistance because you have to figure
out the right thing to say.
So we’re going to start tapping on that karate chop point on the side of the hand
and I like to tap them both together. I’ll get you to repeat after me, “Even though
I think I have to say the perfect words because otherwise EFT won’t work and if I say one
little word wrong it will completely fail, I choose to acknowledge myself and my desire
to do a good job. Even though I’m afraid of saying the wrong thing - what if I make
things worse? - I choose to myself. Even though I think I have to come up with the most perfect
phrases so that EFT will work perfectly and I will solve all of my problems instantly
with a magic wand, I choose to be gentle and forgiving of myself, giving myself permission
to heal at a rate that is right for me.”
Come up to the top of the head and tapping there, “This fear of saying the wrong thing.”
Then come up to the eyebrows, “This fear of saying the wrong thing.
This fear of somehow doing EFT wrong. Thinking that I have to come up with the perfect words.
This fear of doing EFT wrong. All this remaining anxiety of doing EFT wrong. I feel like I
have to do everything perfectly. The way this shows up in other areas of my life. The fear
of saying the wrong thing when doing EFT. What if I say the wrong thing and it works
anyway? Am I allowed to do it wrong and have it work? I wonder what words I need to describe
how I’m feeling about this issue. Whatever the right words are for me are the ones that
describe how I’m feeling. I don’t have to figure it all out before I start tapping.
I can just start tapping and allow whatever words need to come out to come out. As I continue
to tap and my confidence grows I choose to feel even more freedom in the way I express
myself. All this remaining fear of saying the wrong thing, letting EFT do it’s work,
I can get myself out of the road and allow EFT to achieve the emotional freedom that
I desire.”
Now you might continue on and do a few other different aspects of having to say the right
thing, having to say it in the right order, and this’ll be a good practice of just saying
whatever it is for you specifically about this issue. You can see that I do it in a
very freeform way and it’s kind of the way that you learn anything; you learn the rules
to start with and then you can break all the rules. Enjoy experimenting with saying whatever
it is that you need to say to tune into the issue and let EFT do the healing for you.
I look forward to hearing from you with the comments on this page about how you were able
to express yourself, about how you got rid of this fear and what other issues you’ve
been able to clear now that you are able to express yourself saying whatever you want
to say while doing EFT.