hello it's winter it's cold and there's
a snowstorm happening right now so I'm
going to be wearing this like summery
shirt just so that we can like we can
have a conversation and not think about
the outside unless you like winter I
like winter it's cool but like come on
snowstorm I gotta have time for this I
had a video suggestion from tumblr
somebody said that their therapist what
was it somebody said that their
therapist tells them every time they
tell them that they're trans they say
but you're a girl yo so that's why in
this video I'm going to be talking about
good therapy versus bad therapy there's
two umbrellas that we're going to talk
about right now first is the first I
guess on this site whatever first is the
umbrella of non-gender therapy and the
other one is gender therapy so first one
non gender therapy you can find a
therapist that is not well versed in
trans issues that will still be able to
help you and that's great they'll be
able to understand that this is
something that happens to people and
that's great and you need those people
who are supportive in your life even if
they're not gendered therapists you can
still have them help you through this
transition and write you letters and so
on um they don't have to be specific
gender whatever gender therapist there
are bad bad therapists out there and I'm
still talking about like non gender
therapy right now and what I mean by bad
therapists I mean you're trans you're
going there you're telling them you're
trans and they're like oh no you're just
a girl are they trying to do like
reparative therapy which I have seen
let's not even go there what I don't
understand is these people have to read
if they're psychiatrists they're in the
medical field usually people don't go to
psychiatrist but that could be your only
therapy that you have right now
psychiatrists have to read the DSM you
have to read it because you're in
medical school you have to [ __ ] read
it the DSM 4 has gender identity
disorder in it the dsm-5 came out in
2012 with a revision and it's now called
gender dysphoria you
you are in the medical field you get a
little pamphlet saying these are all the
changes that have happened and you have
to read it so you know transsexualism or
whatever like gender dysphoria is in
there if you have a therapist who goes a
therapist that goes on and tells you
you're just a girl it's just the phase
you're too young that could never happen
to you you you get the hell out of that
office I can't even imagine imagine but
I can because it's happened to me and
I'm getting like really like whom about
this because it was like oh let me just
get into my story I had a family doctor
that I like started having when I was
like 16 and he was like I wasn't like
really like a fan of him I went to his
office once and I told him can I please
have a letter for the gender clinic in
the Montreal General Hospital because
that's what you need before you need
like a like a referral or something you
know what he says and I'm just saying
he's a doctor he's not even therapist
I'm just like doctor right now
nobody says to me why would you ever
want to change your fine looking like a
girl dis [ __ ] is a doctor and he
says that to me oh my god I flipped out
I just asked him for the referral he
gave it to me I [ __ ] walked out of
that office I was so angry what kind of
support is that it's ridiculous it's not
healthy for mental health of trans
people to hear something like that you
know you're trans you're looking for
help somebody who's in a position of
power who's supposed to help you says
hey you're not really trans that's not
even a thing I'm just like not cool with
that at all at all it's not cool so
right now let's go to the like gender
therapy bubble again there's some good
parts or some bad parts good gender
therapy oh my god I've been fortunate to
have free gender therapy because I went
through like that gender clinic that I
was like trying to get the referral for
I didn't get in thank God so I was in
transit
lol but I got like a free in turn there
apisto
so I did not enjoy that therapy at the
time but now that I think about it in
hindsight I figured out a lot of things
about myself
and now I have therapy again I wouldn't
say that it's gender therapy but it is
part of like the sexual identity center
so it's kind of gender II I mean if I
talk about my gender I guess I could but
figuring out who you are in therapy and
like expressing it it's so important and
having a good gender therapist is key
now if you don't have access to a gender
therapist in your area like I said you
can have a therapist that's not gender
related just try to find like get in
contact with the offices or like try to
see if like other people around your
area who are trans have had this
specific therapist to find out if
they're good or not because if they're
not you run the other way like honestly
it's not worth it and that's the same
with bad gender thinner peen the
reparative therapy that I was talking
about before it's happened I I don't
know all the information about this this
this this guy um but I do know that some
people that I know know this doctor
Zwicker know I don't know Toronto is in
Toronto or something it's like the trans
clinic those trans kids that go through
there some of good experiences some get
reparative therapy I don't know if it's
the same now I know it was like that
like 10 years ago if I'm wrong dear God
please like correct me I'll like put an
annotation on this section and write
that I'm wrong but come on man
what is this gender therapist is
supposed to help you a gender therapist
like trans there's also like LGBTQ
centers that have gender therapist um
which can be great unless they don't
know anything about trans and they're
just there to counsel you know gays and
bisexual and pansexual and lesbian and
all of that fun stuff
but the tea is like not even there um
you should get away from there as well I
am 100% understand that I am 1000% in a
point of privilege to be talking to you
about this a lot of people can't even
afford therapy there are some places
that
in the States I can afford therapy
that's great but I know that a lot of
people can't afford therapy if your
parent is willing to pay for therapy try
to do the research to get yourself a
good therapist the topic just makes me
so angry because therapists are supposed
to help you they I think I'll read the
DSM they all need to know the
corrections in the DSM if you don't know
what the DSM is just Google is like the
Diagnostics that does some statistical
manual
it's like diagnosed like depression and
like gender dysphoria and all of that
like fun stuff anyways that's all I just
say I don't wanna talk about this topic
anymore I'm so sorry to the person right
now who's listening to this and watching
this and who resin this story resonates
with them like whatever if you're
watching this video and it's happened to
you that a therapist or a doctor
somebody in the medical field told it
hurts it hurts it hurts even after five
years of transitioning it still hurt
because I know how many other people are
affected by it I just I hate society I
hate the way it's constructed we need to
change the thing anyways it's all have
to say I really hope this was helpful to
somebody I'm just kind of like ranting
about therapists so it's not really a
good but yeah that's all I have to say
have a great week