- There are just some guys out there who are just not
actively looking for a serious relationship.
Sure, these guys might be thinking, you know,
I'm open to a relationship if I meet the right type of girl,
but until then, I'll just have my fun.
And then before they know it, they find the
new relationship and they slowly get roped in.
They meet the woman, they take her on a, you know,
couple nice dinners, and before you know it,
he's meeting her parents, then they go apple picking.
We all know, once you go apple picking, it's over.
But still in their heads, they're still thinking
you know, it's not a very serious relationship.
And then sadly as things start to develop,
you start to get very real feelings for her,
because you're a sexy confident lady who
wants a great relationship in her life.
And all the while, in the back of his head,
he's thinking, ahh, I'm not so sure if I want this.
And then as you start to have more real conversations
with him about the things that you want in a relationship,
he gets really (bleep) scared and he peaces out.
This is a very common situation that happens to women,
and quite frankly the same situation happens to men.
I hear it all the time for men.
This is a natural part of relationships and it's not
okay for it to happen, but it does happen.
So just realize that you're not alone.
Next, remember this.
Don't blame yourself if this happens.
It happens to people in dating.
It happens in certain times of your life.
And it's so frustrating and it's so easy to look
at yourself in the mirror and think that it was all
your fault, should have seen all the red flags.
And you're so stupid the entire time.
But you need to allow yourself to forgive him and
forgive yourself and just be able to move on.
It has nothing to do with you most of the time.
Most of the time it's because from the very beginning,
he just didn't want anything.
So now you're thinking to yourself,
that's all well and good.
You're not going to be too hard on yourself,
but you still want to understand why this happenes.
The main reason why this all happens, usually comes down
to one word, fear.
Men have a lot of fears when it comes to long term
relationships and here's a few different reasons why.
For starters there's a fear of change.
Now as they say change is hard at first,
messy in the middle, but gorgeous in the end.
And you know that when you get into a new relationship,
yes, change might be a little bit hard,
but you welcome that change because you're looking forward
to that beautiful relationship in the end.
But a lot of guys, have that fear of change.
They don't want to change their ways.
They don't want to change their lifestyle.
Maybe they like going out.
Maybe they like going on dates.
Maybe they like meeting a lot of women.
And they don't want to change, or they're afraid of
what this might mean to their life.
And if that happens, what are you going to do?
He wasn't able to see how beautiful the relationship
would be in the end, and that is completely his loss.
Next, there's the fear of commitment.
Now men have had a propensity to fear commitment for
all of human history, but this is especially getting worse
in the 21st century.
One of the biggest challenges that people are facing
in dating now, and this is probably a challenge you
might be facing as well, is that there are so many options.
You swipe left, you swipe right, you go online,
there's a new guy, then you go out, there's another person,
and when a guy goes out he meets another woman.
And before you know it, he's texting with eight women
and he can't decide who he wants to commit to.
And science shows that when humans are presented with
too many options, we find it very difficult to actually
make a decision.
So rather than commit to you, you sexy single lady,
and dive forward and move forward with you,
he decides to wait on the decision until it
ultimately just dies out.
And lastly there is a fear of intimacy.
He's been burned in the past.
And the last time he opened up his heart to a woman,
she completely broke it.
Or maybe he's just never been able to actually show
any type of emotional side to him, and he's afraid
that the more that he goes down this road with you,
he's gonna actually have to show some of those flaws
that exist.
Now these are all reasons why men do end up disappearing.
And some of these reasons are legitimate and are in need
of nurturing from you, and other times, these fears are
just complete bullshit and he's just being a baby.
And that's ultimately for you to decide,
but if you are at a time in your life when you
are emotionally mature, you are ready for a real
relationship, then you know what, you need to
leave your heart open to guys who are also open to those
real relationships.
Who aren't running and hiding.
Who are willing to invest themselves and invest their
emotional energy into you, and if you're finding
that that doesn't happen and a guy does disappear,
just remember that you're better off it ending now
then going down four five years from now and
realizing that he was never in it in the first place.
So let me ask you.
Has the man ever disappeared when things
start to get serious?
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Buh-bye.