hello Lindsay um let's go all out for this episode okay oh let's go all out I love it we usually go
out all out for most episodes I mean I think we do I think we do you know what because we're all in
we're all in on all in English oh my gosh I'm so confused Michelle what are you even saying
though I don't know guys it's it's fun today so I mean Lindsay the last time you went all out for a
party right like maybe oh my gosh you dressed up like a lot of food with friends let's see a
couple of like Friends Hall holiday parties that I've gone to I've gotten some nice stuff on like
wear a dress I really wear dresses but I did it in that case I'm not the person that goes
all out for Halloween what about you Michelle well we've talked about this because Dan Dan um loves
Halloween and I'm uh lukewarm on how I mean I like it but now that now that I have a kid it's like
kind of fun but like at the same time I'm just I don't know like this this year my son wanted us
all to be Paw Patrol so even Dan I think now we're just like tired like so we just ordered T-shirts
like a PAW Patrol character and we got little dog ears and that's more my speed uh yeah that's my
speed too I do not spend like some people spend hours and days putting together a costume spend
a ton of money on it it is not me that is not me I have a friend who goes all out for Halloween he
he is he is he's like really good even with like I don't know he should like how do I say this like
lights like electricity so he'll like incorporate lights and have things flickering on his costumes
yeah yeah on his person yes yes um and he's just like he's famous for going all out for Halloween
he's famous for going all out I love that I love that so what's the word that we've been using here
that might be brand new for our listeners maybe it is it's all out so we have a listener question
about all in and all out Lindsay could you read the question for us yes and this is a listener
who reviewed us an apple podcast and gave us five stars Michelle we love that we'd love to see your
reviews guys so go leave us a rating review ask your question right there like this listener did
so this listener says I love this podcast uh that's great I love that so she says I have
a question for you what's the difference between going all in and going going all out I've heard
all out in the gym and once heard Lindsay asking Michelle about her dating style and if she used
to ease into a relationship or if she would go all in at the beginning thanks this is from zahar uh
in apple podcasts very nice thank you so much this is fun I'm excited for this episode oh yeah yeah
we wanted to we always want to direct you to other episodes that you can listen to that could be fun
so we have episode 1671 can personality traits be changed so yes this is you know personality
traits and this is kind of the idea of like going all out and going all in right like we just talked
about what the uh with the costume so yeah yeah that's interesting right I love it any kind of a
chance to talk about personality types personality traits I love that topic and I think it's a great
connection skill for our listeners right exactly so so let's go into it so Lindsay what is all out
to go all out okay this is to put everything into something right to be excited about something like
your example with the guy with the lights I'm imagining your friend completely covered in
Christmas lights or something I could see it yeah lights I don't know crazy to go above and
beyond to go in with with they say Gusto right yes Gusto yes that's gonna be a good bonus for today
well so let's talk about you know because the listener mentioned the gym like talking about
going all out at the gym so what would that mean to go if I if I say oh go when I go to the gym I
go all out what does that mean this means you go really hard um and a good analogy for this
is actually an orange theory we have levels of running so on the tread they tell you when
to you have levels we have base Pace or we have Push Pace or we have all out so all out for me is
usually like an eight like eight miles an hour right so just like you're quite fat it's quite
fast for me so all that is the fastest speed we never do more than 30 seconds and we always get
a walk after that and so that's just what that essentially think about applying that speed and
pace and intensity to life that's what going all out is right right right right exactly wow and
that's so funny because I was gonna ask you do go all out at Orange Theory and I didn't know that
that's actually something that's used yeah so that just goes to show you this is really good for the
gym I mean yeah lifting the heavy weights doing a lot of you know just um I mean so you could say oh
I went all out at the gym yesterday and today I'm really sore oh that's so true right now for me yes
exactly but Michelle when you go to the gym or you know if you ever do go to the gym yeah no offense
when you go to the gym do you do you find it easy enough to push yourself but or do you need
someone to tell you like all out like go fast run right now personally I struggle with going yeah I
I like a little bit of direction yeah I think it's helpful yeah yeah yeah exactly so let's
go into some other examples so for for example that party was amazing the hosts went all out
and decorated the whole place like it was a fancy Ballroom yeah for sure or you really deserve this
vacation let's go all out a shopping spree time on the beach whatever you want so it's when someone
just fully immerses themselves in an experience right maybe they get the fanciest menu right the
best thing whatever they want they go fully into it yeah right right right I mean Lindsay how do
you decide like because you can't go all out on everything right how do you decide what it is
you're gonna go all out on that's a great question I think I I have to know myself well I know my my
values really well right and so oh I guess if I'm celebrating something and I feel like I need to
like reward myself or reward someone else I will go all out be like hey let's go all out tonight
we just did XYZ we just achieved this let's go all out let's order the bottle of wine right
the expensive bottle of wine um but when it's something that I know like it doesn't matter
that much to me I might try to save money or not really get the fanciest things what about you well
yeah I think budget is a huge thing you know like if you you know I think that's a big way
that people decide right like okay well you know I just got a Bonus or I just got you know yeah or
whatever let's go all out or just if they I mean or some people go all out probably too frequently
like right that's why we've had so much credit card debt in this country story I have to be smart
about what to go out for but it's not only about spending money it's not just about consumption
yeah right so it's about a lot of things so it's just how much you want to do it how much you're
excited about something how much energy you have to put something it put into something
um so yeah that's a good point that's an important Point Michelle we are pointing a
lot to consumption of food or Goods materials but it could also be let's say your friend
invites you hey uh there's a half marathon in in Denver in next summer do you want to do it
with me and I could say no let's just go all out and do the full Marathon right let's go all out
okay we might regret that yeah yeah yes exactly exactly that's a good point Lindsay so another
so let's go to all in all right so um this is all this is also the idea of putting everything
into it the dictionary said I'm gonna quote um completely committed to or very much in favor of
something now this sounds almost the same uh very similar oh very similar I think about poker right
like and I think this kind of helps me understand the difference like if you say I'm going all in
on poker what does that mean so that really means that you are you're you're betting all
of your money yeah what is the key difference here Michelle because yeah don't worry we'll get okay
I know right it's it's so funny because it seems like oh they're totally different and
then when you actually get into it it's like wait a second they're more similar than we
realized yeah so it's kind of funny but yeah when you say all in and poker it's like you're
you you are so confident or maybe you are trying to get people to think you're that confident and
you say I'm betting all my chips I'm going all in I'm going to win with this amazing hand um
and that's like putting all your money in betting all of it Lindsay have you ever played poker no
I'm terrified I think I would be terrible at poker I'd lose all my money I'm not a gambling woman so
um so yeah but guys in case you're interested go on listen to episode 1675 which was do you
have a poker face when it comes to learning English while we're on the topic of Poker
yes so all right let's get to it I mean so the idea of being all in is what Michelle says yeah
is that you're truly I mean not to just say this but in something so you are putting your all in
you are devoted you are all consumed right so if I say I'm all in on this marriage we will fix
whatever problems we have it wouldn't be the same as I you couldn't say I'm I'm I'm going all out
on this marriage like that doesn't that doesn't mean the same thing um yeah so I'm all in it's
like I've committed myself I'm putting everything I have into this totally totally you say you could
even just say it so like to accept something like I got the job yes I'll take it I'm all in like I'm
accepting it and you're and at that point you're saying I'm putting down my other options like I'm
I'm no longer interviewing I'm not thinking about my other options I'm all in I'm signing a contract
let's do it right right right exactly so I think of all out as far as the difference is I think
of all out as being more a little bit over the top maybe a little excessive or extravagant so
like okay maybe dealing with um maybe dealing with spending money or just being really into something
um so like also just like as a as a side note you don't say I'm I'm All Out right you'd say
like I'm going all out um I'm all in right that's a good point yeah you want to say I'm all out that
would be more like you don't have something I just doesn't work yeah so along the same lines I agree
with you Michelle I think the key difference it's subtle again we've been doing a lot of subtleties
on all those English lately uh with Aubry we did one a few weeks ago that was quite subtle as well
but I think all out to go all out again you said go all out is a lot of it is about consumption
like what are you consuming all right I'm gonna get that ice cream sundae not just the mini Kitty
cup right I'm going to go all out I'm going to do that and as opposed to all in it's like you
are involved in something you're involved in a marriage you're involved in a poker game you're
involved in a job something about you being taking actions and being in a circle kind of
does that mean right yeah I agree and so well I have some examples here where we're going to
fill in the blank and we'll even give a second and then the listeners can guess and we'll talk
about like what you think makes sense right to to help us get into the differences a little bit
more with some real examples let's try and fill in the blank a little exercise a little game for
today so I'll do the first one so okay she really went blank with the baking there were brownies
and cookies and cupcakes what do you think Lindy wait let's pause guys what do you think okay okay
uh so can I can I throw in my idea sure what I think okay I think she really went all out because
I also think it's a chunk too again as we said to go all out to go all out so that's the hint
that's the clue right right and also this fact that you know then I listed brownies and cookies
and cupcakes right yeah I could say she went all in but it just I don't know it just doesn't sound
as well it went all out I feel like all out you know emphasizes like this extravagance this except
extravagant excessiveness consumption exactly exactly yeah okay um you want to do the next
one oh wait or should I do them because then you have to guess okay go for it yeah okay I'm blank
when it comes to my kids okay listeners go ahead and take a guess and I will throw out my guess
now I think it is I'm all in yes okay this points to being part of like a circle it's your family
you're physically not just physically involved mentally emotionally fully just in just totally
in it you're committed you're committed you're invested all these things right yeah it wouldn't
make sense I'm all out when it comes to myself you might say I mean but let's say you're talking
about Christmas shopping or something and you say I go all out when it comes to my kids that would
mean I get the toys I get the stocking stuffers exception on that right so exactly that idea of
obsessiveness yes perfect perfect example right uh let's do a couple more okay they are really
blank on this they won't give up okay for this one I would say they are really all in on this is
that right yeah that's what I was thinking they won't give up like they're con you know they're
they're invested they're they're deep into it they're part of something like you said a part
of something that's the key and and maybe not like physically but emotionally here they're invested
as you said Michelle right right right right one more all right here we go he went blank at the
talent show his guitar playing was amazing and he played songs he wrote himself he practiced so much
um this one's tough because I could see how our listeners might think maybe I'm wrong I don't
know I would say he went all out at the talent show is that what you were thinking well that's
what I was thinking I think especially when you have like these lists but however you could say he
you could say you went all in but I I just this is one of those where I think it sounds more natural
to say all out like we talked about it's not just consumption I mean I think the fact that I listed
you it was a guitar playing songs you know but yeah I I think it would have sounded better to
say like oh like my my friend is practicing for the talent show he's really all in you know yeah I
see what you mean yeah yeah so also the fact that it's go right we use went so that was the clue for
me right so go all out so all right Michelle in uh let's uh uh go ahead and try a quick role play in
just a minute here okay Michelle quick role play here we go are you ready I am your realtor yeah so
here we go so are you ready to start looking yes I'm all in okay awesome so let's list some of the
things you're looking for in a new home give me the whole list really go all out okay here we go
oh that's always a fun moment when you're whoever's helping you find something it's
like tell me everything you want tell me all your dreams but then you have to say this is
not possible right okay so just real quick to show our listeners you said yes I'm all in that
means you are totally committed to this project right exactly exactly and then you said give me
the whole list like basically you know all the things you would want so really go all out give
me everything all the even if it sounds excessive right again excessiveness consumption kind of the
idea of you want all these things that's right yeah but again Michelle there is overlap so
which you know what should our listeners Come Away with today I think you know the the main
idea we have is like this idea of like kind of being a part of something is often all in like
you're all in on a marriage or but you usually say all out with the word go like I wouldn't
say I'm all out I might say I go I I might say I go all in on my relationships you might say
that you would never say I am all out no you know exactly so today we've given you guys some broad
rules exactly so this is nuanced so I mean I would recommend for our listeners guys just
listen to this try to hear native speakers use these two phrases and then you'll start to get
it a bit more right exactly this is fun I really like this question and guys give it a try you'll
definitely hear this these are both really common yeah this is a really good one Michelle
thanks for hanging out on the mic with me today I'll talk to you soon all right bye Lindsay bye
thank you