- Are you in a healthy and happy relationship?
Are you not quite sure and need to know what signs
a healthy and happy relationship has?
Well, that I'm gonna tell you that today.
Hello, ladies.
My name is Ieva,
and I am one of Greta's High Value Women coaches.
And in this video, I'm going to be sharing seven things
that a healthy and happy relationship consists of.
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Without further ado,
let's jump into the number one thing
that a healthy and happy relationship needs
and that is affection and love.
I believe every relationship needs affection and love.
And I also believe
that you define for your specific relationship
what that actually does mean.
Is a form of affection
through acts of service more important
or maybe physical touch or words of affection
or is it a bundle of everything?
There are many different ways that men and women
show caring for each other,
but affection and love is definitely a part
of a healthy and happy relationship.
The second thing is good company.
Getting along as a couple is extremely important.
You should find each other really interesting
and get along well,
especially if you want to spend the majority of your life
with that person.
It is very important to, therefore,
have similar values and morals
and prioritize similar things in life.
The reason for this
is because it makes a lot of things much, much easier
down the line.
And, of course, you will feel more understood
if you guys have very similar priorities.
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Number three is roles.
Make sure the roles in your relationship are clear,
especially if you live together.
The standard that you are going to set
for your relationship is the standard
that you are going to have.
Make sure that he sees himself as the actual provider
and make sure that he actually wants to be in that role
and that he actually likes that role.
Not every man will be okay with being the provider, okay?
Because some men just see the world differently, right?
But if you want to have a high-value relationship,
you want to be high value
and you want him to be the provider
in most cases, right, for sure,
then he wants to want that too.
He wants to be, he should want to be the provider.
There are men out there that will break up with women
if they don't go 50/50.
There are men out there that will just not budge
when it comes to that.
There are different types of people in the world.
So make sure that you have the feeling
that he wants to be the provider for you.
And that he is very comfortable in that role
because you do not want to be arguing
about something like that.
Because if he does not want that, okay, if he's insecure
or feels that if he financially is used for his money
or whatever the case might be,
if he feels that way, then it's not gonna budge.
It's not gonna change.
Some men are simply like that.
This is especially important
if you're going to be living together
or if you're going to get married, et cetera.
If you also start being the one
that's going to be cleaning or cooking,
that is how it's going to be from there on.
And it will be very hard to change that later on, okay.
Because that's the standard that you're going to set, okay.
And so make sure that the roles for each other are clear.
Number four is understanding and trust.
A relationship is not and never will be held
by just one person.
It always involves two people who both want to make it work.
It is never, and I underline never,
just one person's job to make a relationship work.
There has to be understanding in a relationship
and trust has to be built over time.
These two things don't just happen out of the blue;
they are built on.
When it comes down to the understanding part
of the relationship,
it's very important that you keep your head
on your shoulders
and not let yourself be guilted into thinking
that you yourself and only you are the problem
when things do not go as planned.
Understanding and having an understanding
and being open to understanding is very important,
but you should not be understanding
when it comes down to being treated badly, okay,
or not being treated with respect.
Hearing your partner out, letting them speak
also has a lot with showing understanding
because you try to show that you are listening.
And you're trying to understand where they're coming from.
Also, obviously, being able to trust your partner
is a huge element to a healthy and happy relationship.
There is, after all, no relationship without trust.
The fifth thing is time.
A good and solid relationship is built over time.
With the passing of time, you get to know each other better.
In order to build trust, like I mentioned before,
time simply does need to pass.
You need to overcome obstacles as partners
in a relationship to make it stronger and more trustworthy.
There is also no such thing as a perfect relationship.
And that really is simply taboo.
There are phases in a relationship that are wonderful,
but there are phases in a relationship that are difficult,
and the difficult phases will pass.
And hopefully the positive phases
will overcome the negative ones.
But difficulties in a relationship
is simply a part of having a relationship,
but overcoming them as partners is what counts, okay.
And just like you have problems in your job,
in friendships, in family, in whatever it might be,
in life situations,
don't expect to not have any in a relationship
because that's unrealistic,
especially if you want to spend the rest of your life
with a certain person or have children
or do whatever couples do, okay.
New obstacles, new situations will bring problems,
but it's about how you deal with them as a couple
that makes the relationship, okay.
That's very important.
Number six is respect.
Respect is a key element
in having a healthy and happy relationship.
You have to be able to set boundaries for whatever reason,
especially if a guy says something very inappropriate
or rude to you.
Always remember that respect and love go fully hand in hand.
Respect your guy,
but remember that you need to be respected as well.
So respect is a two-way street.
It just can't go one way.
If he, however, is simply bantering or making jokes with you
or laughing about something silly that you may be did
and it's really no big deal and it's quite harmless,
then you can join in with that
and just laugh at him back or banter back.
However, when it does get inappropriate
or he is simply rude to you or disrespectful,
then you simply have to set a boundary
to show that this behavior is not acceptable.
And it's a must to set a boundary when your line is crossed.
Remember to always respect yourself as a woman
and setting boundaries in a relationship
shows that you respect yourself as a woman.
Number seven is good communication.
A lot of the time I hear people mention
that communication is key.
Yes, it is for sure the key
or a key to a very healthy relationship,
but what is actually good communication?
That is actually not really talked about.
So let's talk about it.
Good communication, I think, comes from being able to voice
what you don't find appropriate
and what you would appreciate instead.
Good communication is never about pointing fingers
at the other person or blaming the other person.
More so, it's actually talking about what it is
or what is important to you
and what you would like to happen instead.
So if, for example, he does something that you do not like
or you do not appreciate,
you should not yell at him or say that he always does this
and it's always wrong.
Or he is always to blame.
That's not communication;
that is pointing fingers and blaming.
And that has nothing to do with good communication at all.
Communication would be to say something like,
"I'd appreciate if you didn't do that again,
but instead you would help me out with this
and this and this."
So that is actually good communication.
If you're pointing a finger at someone or blaming someone,
that's not going to bring you anything.
If it does bring you something,
it's just something gonna push him away.
That's the only thing that it's gonna do.
And it's gonna turn into a bigger fight.
So don't make him the problem, even if you feel like he is.
Explain, not even explain,
but just say what you would need instead
or what you would appreciate he did instead, okay.
Because if you blame him, it would only get worse.
So don't point fingers.
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