what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is
all about mental health so if you're like me and are constantly on this
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you subscribe and ring that notification about alright so yeah Kati Morton just
made a video yesterday about like hustle culture is unhealthy and yeah I want to
share some thoughts about that because there's there's a lot of conversation
around hustle and there's a lot of conversation around burnout and if any
of you have known me or followed me for more than five minutes you know that I'm
really into two things all right hustle and self-care okay like I'm a recovering
drug addict I struggle with a generalized anxiety disorder I've been
diagnosed with depression you know what I mean but I work my butt off okay so
some of that we're gonna be talking about in this video is I think the main
point I want to get across is we we often think that hustle and self-care
are mutually exclusive like it's either/or but that's not the case at all
alright so I want to take a few clips and comment on them from Casey not Casey
but Katie's video because as some of you know I've done some videos about burnout
and everything like that anyways let's start out with this one it's towards the
end of the video but I want to start out with this clip about Casey nice that and
I honestly think that we've kind of let things get a little out of whack when it
comes to this I mean this is no shame on any of your creators or anybody out
there but like I know even Casey Neistat has a tattoo that says work harder and
all of that pressure to like get up and get all this stuff done and make more
and do more so there's two there's two ways that you can look at Casey nice
tats tattoo Casey nice tats hustle right like you can look at it as work harder
drive yourself into the ground just you know screw everything else
friends family it's all about hustle and success right but that's not the way I
interpret it okay because I don't know about you but I can make so many excuses
for myself so many excuses you know what I mean
like for a long time I spent many years just sitting it's self-pity like you
know why don't I have this why aren't I where I want to be in my life you know
all these other things and I realize like I'm not I'm not putting in the work
you know what I mean like I was very entitled for a long time I thought that
this world just needed to hand things to me right like I feel I feel like that's
one of the reasons why you know you got boomers talking crap about Millennials
you know you're lazy and all this other stuff you know and part of it is because
like I can relate to that mindset I'm one of those Millennials I'm on the
older end of being a belay oh but it's because I wanted the rewards without
putting in the work so when I see somebody like Casey nice that or anybody
else who's talking about you know hustle what hard work it's a reminder to me
that if if there are certain things that I want I need to work for them you know
what I mean like I still spend a ton of time binge watching Netflix with my
girlfriend and spending time with her you know I spend a ton of time with my
son and I play video games with him and we cook new recipes every single weekend
right like aside from that I am working my butt off I have two jobs plus YouTube
plus my writing plus managing all my social media and you will not find one
person in my life that feels neglected okay so that hard work that Casey nice
that has tattooed on his arm and self-care is not it's it doesn't have to
be either/or but during this time because financially I wasn't rewarded I
felt this intense urge to work work work work work work work no matter what and
I'd feel guilty if I slop den even when my body really needed
it not just me laying there not wanting to do anything just I'm tired when I'd
wake up and it would be like 9 o'clock in the morning I'd be like shit
I'd feel super bad about it or if I took the weekend off from work I think I
could have got so much more done if I just didn't you know do nothing and hang
out with my friends on the weekend and I would look online and see other creators
or influencers talk about their schedules you know I'd wake up and
they've already posted a photo to Instagram or you know tweeted all
morning about things they're thinking about posted a video currently doing a
livestream for God's sake and I would allow myself to feel lesser then alright
so now we're back at the beginning of Katy's video and something else I want
to discuss throughout this video is like this is all internal this is 100%
internal like I I feel like it's unfair to keep knocking hustle culture and
people who want to work hard and you know all these other things when this is
an internal issue right so Katy moments absolutely right like we are constantly
comparing ourselves to others and whether you're hustling or not like that
is a bad place to be right like something I learned a long time ago is
that we can't compare our insides to another person's outsides you know but
like one of the reasons that I I don't like this conversation is like looking
at somebody and judging them and we create this narrative about people right
we're like oh you're working so hard you're doing all these things you must
not be spending time with your family or friends and we don't even know that you
know what I mean like we don't know how much time they're spending with the
people in their lives like hell some of them might be neglecting the people in
their lives but we don't know that about them right but when it comes to
comparing ourselves to others like I am a huge believer that social media isn't
a problem we have a problem comparing ourselves to others on social media as
if I hadn't done enough and if I wanted to pay off my student loans huge goal of
mine you know and being an adult I don't know why I tie this to being an adult
but I do or maybe buy a house someday you know I
felt like if I wanted all those things I had to
work harder and harder and harder right here Kati Morton is talking about like
you know her debt and her bills and everything like that it's like yeah yeah
like by the way in case I haven't told you yet get out there and vote okay like
the the average the average household is not making nearly enough money to pay
off student loan debt to buy a house so do these things like I hear a lot of
people talking about like you need to put money away and savings but like most
people are living paycheck to paycheck and for me for me personally it's like
what can I control and what can't I control right like for example I've been
at my new job for about six months now what I could control is how I negotiated
how much they paid me what I couldn't control is their decision on how much to
pay me right and I have debt right like I do want to go back to college but I
have a student loan debt from back when I was a drug addict that I need to pay
back so it's this give-and-take right like you don't have to pay off your
student loan debt or like Kati Morton says like she wants to buy a house you
don't have to buy a house but if you do you got to work a little bit harder and
part of that is just because of the economy you know what I mean so
hopefully we get somebody you know new in office that can help you know some of
us make a little bit more like Andrew yang was talking about trying to do
universal basic income and all that but until those things happen we just need
to realize if we want those things we gotta put in a little bit extra work
doesn't suck but would it be nice to just work one job 9:00 to 5:00 and have
that be enough absolutely that would be amazing but we also have to pull
ourselves back in a reality and be like oh wait that's not the case we shouldn't
have to constantly choose between meaningful relationships oh and our work
schedule or taking the time to decompress when we need it so right
there it goes back I was talking about it's not an
either-or situation okay so just to give you a quick rundown about my life and
this is one of the reasons why I like talking about burnout is because I'm
trying to figure out what it how how I'm able to do so much without getting
burned out and I think it's because I find balance right so I have a full-time
job I have a second job which is part-time I put in about 20 hours a week
with it luckily for me that second job hours are flexible because I do it at
home on my own schedule it takes a lot of work though right I also have this
YouTube channel I have my second YouTube channel many days I'm uploading two
videos a day I'm also I've also been writing a lot on
medium.com you know all these other things but on
the other hand too I spend an enormous amount of time with my girlfriend and my
son next week I have a friend coming in town
my old roommate and he lives across the country he's gonna be in town I'm gonna
go spend time with them so it doesn't have to be this either/or scenario and
there's just something about getting outside and not thinking about work that
is so this sounds weird to say it this way but it's so inspiring and motivating
not to mention recharging and I didn't do any work that weekend and it came
back just feeling excited about the week yeah once you said take breaks take a
boys I know I can be a workaholic but like our self-care needs to be the top
priority you know I've talked a lot about how we need to get our sleep
straight and you know we need to get our physical health in shape like these are
two things that greatly improve our mental health right and this is why like
we have to make our self-care a top priority like instead of working all
night up like no I'm going to sleep you know what I mean like I need to be
refreshed so I can get more done tomorrow and have more time you know
what I'm saying because some of us like for example if like I know a lot of you
watching this aren't youtubers but at work if we are not at the top of our
game we don't get all the things done that we need to get done with
then carries over to the next day and we have even more stress so we need to
figure out a way to manage our time at work but also manage our personal time
like what I see from a lot of people because a lot of my friends aren't you
know juggling all the balls that I am is that they are not making time for
themselves just do their own thing but if I'm being honest if I'm being
honest like I live in Las Vegas I know a lot of people who go out and party and
everything like that I'm not telling anybody that they got to be sober like
me but I've seen a lot of people who who just go out party all night Friday night
or all night Saturday night and then the next day is completely gone right so
you're taking these you know X amount of hours one night wasting an entire day
like it's it's no wonder why you feel like you don't have any self-care time
my suggestion is plan out different things I'd say hey here's what I want to
do this weekend here's some self-care time and on top of that like listen if
you suck at making self-care time like schedule it I use my calendar app on my
phone so much it would blow your brain up I get reminders just to make sure I'm
getting tasks done - also like here's this here's that like today I just got
my little reminder that I have a therapy appointment today you know what I mean
like I've been meditating I've been going to the gym I've been eating right
I do therapy you know all journal what I need to all these other things we can do
these things and work hard because I don't know about you but sometimes I
need to recognize or be reminded that I'm not a robot I know shocking but
we're going to have to shift how we think and talk about our work praising
rest and relaxation as well as effort and hard work yes yes yes praise
relaxation okay praise it like if any of you follow me on Instagram I used to you
know post like you know quotes or like I'll play around with it like I would
post quotes or like tell you about new videos or you know whatever it is and
lately I've just been posting my regular life and like I haven't explained why
tell you now I'll let you in on this little secret um but one of the reasons
I I post about my normal life and you know hang out with my son or my cats or
whatever is because I want you guys to see how much work I get done and how
much time I actually spend just chillin you know what I mean there's this this
balance that we have to find so what we also have to do is when we find that
self-care time when we find you know those breaks like I think something that
a lot of us miss is doing something doing something of value right like I
don't think many people feel refreshed after they you know waste a bunch of
time like Tristan and I have been binge watching shameless you know and it's not
the show that I feel makes it valuable like it's it's it's a good show right
but it's spending time with Tristan talking like we talked about this show
we talked about the characters we take breaks in between episodes and things
like that it's not you know that's stereotypical like just two people like
zoned out on the couch you know what I mean I don't feel like you know playing
video games is this mindless waste of time because I'll play them with my son
or I'll be listening to a book while I'm playing them you see what I mean so when
we're finding that rest when we're finding that free time when we're doing
some self-care we need to find something that brings us value whether it's you
know doing some like arts and or crafts as silly as that might sound right you
know doing puzzles cooking doing something right rather than these
mindless activities because one of the last things I want to talk about is like
one of the ways I started getting more stuff done was I realized how many hours
I was just wasting on mindless I to ''tis I I would be really curious to
find people who feel burnt out or feel like they're overworked and just look at
a breakdown of their day you know what I mean
because when I audited my time I realize how much time I was wasting doing things
that brought me nothing of value and when I talk about value I I don't mean
like the monetary things right like hey Timor and talks about in her video like
a lot of people are trying to monetize you know like everything right like well
I'm talking about value I mean like like value for our sole value for ourself
like that's what we need to figure out for that free time so my recommendation
to you is fine like write down a list write down a list of things that bring
you value that bring you joy right or things that you want to experiment or
try you know what I'm saying like those things will bring you value
and then that that will replenish you to get back to work you know what I mean
because like I said like I said in a beautiful world all of us me you and
everybody else could go to our nine-to-five have plenty of money to pay
off student loan debts to buy a new car to buy a house and you know do all these
things right but unfortunately that's not the world we live in and we have a
choice we have a choice like one of the reasons I take issue with people
knocking hustle cart culture is nobody's pointing a gun in your head
nobody is pointing a gun at your head you don't have to hustle for me my fear
here's my fear and I might be totally wrong my fear is that all these anti
hustle videos are giving people an excuse to be lazy and be entitled okay
that's just my opinion because that that's how I can be so maybe that's a
projection but that's how I can be I need people who motivate and inspire me
because they're putting in such hard work and I think Casey nice that's a
great example that dude is constantly spending time with his family while
simultaneously working his butt off you know what I mean but let me know your
thoughts down in the description below I'll also
have linked up in the FL card and in the in screen about time management because
I something help me a lot with burnout alright anyways that's all I got for
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