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- Darius Foroux said his first bit of advice
to be successful was this,
"Study what makes you unsuccessful,
unhappy, broke, fat and stupid, (laughs)
and then eliminate those things out of your life." (laughs)
So let's get started.
I'm Terri Savelle Foy, your cheerleader of dreams,
and I wanna share with you some of the habits
you probably didn't know are limiting your potential.
Now, this list is taken straight from my book,
"5 Things Successful People Do Before 8 A.M.,"
and this was a chapter I wrote
called 10 Things Unsuccessful People Do
That The Successful Don't.
And for time's sake, I couldn't get through all 10 of them,
but I want you to have the list
so you can refer to it like a checklist from time to time
to just steer clear of these negative habits.
So it's quick and easy to get this free chapter.
All you have to do is click the link in the description
and you got it.
And hey, use it, refer to it often
to make sure you're not deliberately doing certain things
that are keeping you from your dreams.
Okay, so let's not waste any more time.
Number one, unsuccessful people complain.
Did you know that people can identify exactly
how successful or unsuccessful you are
the moment you open your mouth?
I know, I don't like it either.
But the truth is, the only thing complaining does
is convince other people that you are not in control.
See, complaining is a subconscious way of expressing
that you are powerless to change your circumstances.
See, when you complain about your debt,
you are voicing hopelessness to be financially free.
When you complain about your body,
you're admitting that it's impossible to be in shape.
Joyce Meyer said, "Don't complain about something
you don't have a vision to change."
Ain't that powerful?
So let me just say, complaining is draining.
It zaps you of your energy, it makes you feel hopeless,
it lowers your self-esteem,
and it honestly brings the entire atmosphere
around you down.
So Philippians 2:14 says,
"Do all things without grumbling
and faultfinding and complaining."
So that's a pretty clear command.
Number two, unsuccessful people are always late.
I was at a restaurant the other day with a group of ladies,
and one of them arrived about 15 minutes late
and she just laughed it off
as no indicator of being unsuccessful,
and she said, "I'm late to everything."
She said, "It's a story of my life."
Well, to be honest, it's not funny.
When you understand what lateness communicates,
listen to this,
chronic lateness communicates a subtle yet strong message.
And I'm gonna sound really tough right now,
so brace yourself, 'cause I promise I'm really sweet,
but it reveals
that you're inconsiderate of other people's schedules,
you're a procrastinator,
you're not an effective time manager,
you're unreliable and you're not in control.
I feel bad even saying those descriptions,
but study after study shows this to be the message
that you are giving about your lateness, not intentionally.
I'm not saying you're intentionally doing that.
Now, I don't want to be too harsh,
so please don't get me wrong.
I'm not saying that you should never be late,
and if you are, you're a loser, (chuckles) no.
But when it comes, a roadblock to success,
is when people can anticipate your lateness
with good accuracy, why?
Because you are literally late to everything, got it?
Okay, let's keep going.
Number three, unsuccessful people blame others.
Now, unsuccessful people always point the finger
at someone else for why they are where they are in life.
They will give you every reason in the book
as to why they can't succeed.
The late Jim Rohn describes how his mentor,
this very wealthy man, Earl Shoaff, asked him one day,
he said, "Why haven't you done well in life?
You're a young man, 26, living in America,
you have opportunities all around you,
what is stopping you?"
And he said, Jim said he pulled out his list of excuses,
figuratively speaking, which I have a list,
but he said, he blamed taxes, the government, his boss,
the economy, the president.
He blamed everybody.
Mr. Shoaff, matter-of-factly, said,
"How come you ain't on the list?"
Well, he followed that question up with a strong directive,
he said, "If you want the future to change,
you've gotta change."
Well, Jim Rohn said he tore up his list
and he made a new one that said me. (laughs)
Well, five years later, he was a millionaire.
I have read so many books
that say the first skill for success is this,
take 100% responsibility for your life.
In fact, Galatians 6:5 says,
"For we are each responsible for our own conduct."
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Okay, number four.
Hope you're not mad at me 'cause I'm being so tough today,
but number four is unsuccessful people surround themselves
with other unsuccessful people.
Nearly everybody knows that their closest friends
can affect their life.
But what most people don't realize
is how profound this influence is on your level of success.
They affect everything, your self-confidence,
your beliefs, your spending habits, your eating habits,
your religious and political views,
your discipline or lack of it, and so much more.
Think about this,
how do you act when you're around your inner circle?
Do your wildest impulses takeover?
Do you tend to drink too much alcohol, eat more junk food,
talk bad about other people, complain,
spend money like crazy?
If so, then these friends
are not supporting your new mindset for success.
Proverbs 13:21 says, "Walk with wise people and become wise.
Associate with fools and get in trouble."
Okay, number five, unsuccessful people watch a lot of TV.
Now, unsuccessful people waste valuable time
watching other people live their dreams,
rather than take even an hour to go somewhere
and read a book and invest in their own dream.
And it's easy to do.
Research shows on average that the typical American
watches over five hours of TV every single day.
What does that mean?
Well, if we break those numbers down even more,
that's 1700 hours of TV each year.
That's 1,700 hours of sitting on your bottom
watching other people fall in love, start businesses,
travel the world, have families and live their dreams.
Let me just say,
life is meant to be lived, not watched, got it?
Okay, number six is they procrastinate.
Jimmy Lyons said, "Tomorrow is the only day of the year
that appeals to a lazy man."
Well, we've outlined six bad habits that delay your success,
but the biggest guarantee
for a life of missed opportunities is procrastination.
Procrastinators, they sabotage their own success,
they live by the I'll do it tomorrow mentality,
I'll start the diet tomorrow,
I'll return that phone call tomorrow,
I'll get the old change tomorrow,
I'll finish the report tomorrow,
I'm gonna start waking up a little bit earlier tomorrow,
I'll start saving money tomorrow,
or working out, or reading more,
or spending time with God tomorrow.
Well, W. Clement Stone, he built an insurance empire
worth hundreds of millions of dollars,
he used to hand out these little lapel pins
for all of his employees that read this, do it now.
Plus he would literally make them recite this
at the start of the day and at the end of the day,
do it now, do it now, do it now, because he was convinced
that this chant would reprogram their thinking
and stop delays in their tracks, and he was right.
So here's the thing, when you get inspired to do something,
to change a habit, to establish a new routine,
to make a change somewhere in your life,
make the change within 24 hours
or chances are you never will.
So I wish I keep on going but I want you to this full list
of the 10 things unsuccessful people do
that the successful don't
so you are more prepared to live the life of your dreams.
So all you have to do is click the link in the description
and you can have this free chapter right now.
And hey, don't be overwhelmed
by tackling so many life changes all at once.
Susan Powter said, "The habits that took you years to build,
they don't take a day to change."
So this list is designed to provide awareness
to things that could be the anchor pulling you down
when God is ready to lift you higher.
And when you take control of your habits,
you'll take control of your life.
So don't forget, I am cheering you on to live your dreams.
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