Hey Dan here on this video I wanna get into one
of the biggest issues that can affect ENFPs.
Whether it's your happiness, your relationship
your lifestyle overall, and of course, your
career in business and that is money issues How
you view money, how you think of wealth and
ultimately what effect that ends up having on
your life now as ENFP is one of the great things
about us is we have this need for Justice and
fairness
We want things to be just and so when we see this
big evil banker getting a 30 million dollar bonus
after they were bailed out by the government or
laundry money for the drug cartels and not
getting in trouble for it. Really it can annoy us
to say the least but here's one of the problems
with this We tend to overgeneralize not just us
ENFPs - all people. So we see a couple bad
examples and then we generalize that and this is
happened to me for quite a while and I know
happens to many ENFPs We can develop this belief that
money is bad. Money is evil and what effect is
that going to have on our lives and you can
imagine the effect that will have on your life.
If you believe that money is bad What are the
odds that you're going to have enough money and
be really wealthy right Probably not very high
It's the same reason you probably never met
someone who believes all members of the opposite
sex or evil and liars and terrible and also has a
really happy good relationship right it doesn't
happen So why do we have these biases towards
In towards well well, the first thing is the
media right I know I love to hate on the media
always but the media tends to highlight the evil
rich person It's, one of those stories that
everyone loves to read right reading about this
person who stolen money or who had some scam or
whatever and especially who never got in trouble
for it That's the first thing
second reason is where we often get it from
parents or friend or teachers or other people
around us It's because people like to justify
where they are at if someone doesn't Have as much
money as they would like to have They have two
choices They can admit that they made certain
choices. They took certain approaches in life
that led to having less money or they can make
money bad. They can make rich people bad and they
can justify where they're at by making the other
side wrong people do this all the time we look at
our results and our behavior and we have a choice
of accepting our own choices or putting that off
on external factors many times
Will choose to blame something else rather than
to accept the choices they have made and, of
course, there's a population bias by definition,
there will always be less wealthy people than non
wealthy people. That's just how it works. If
everyone was wealthy, it wouldn't be called
wealthy would be called normal and that means the
majority of people around you are likely not
wealthy and that also means that a lot of them
are probably going to have some kind of
justification around where they're at and perhaps
put blame on other people and
These sorts of beliefs around money as bad money
is evil, which is why a lot of people you talk to
who have really negative beliefs around money got
that from their parents. Now I could digress here
into some really long m rant because you do have
these cases where you have a really wealthy
family and their daughter hates money because
Daddy has lots of money and therefore she's a
hippy who hates money with the trust fund right
and you have a lot of people who grew up really
poor who want as much money as possible and
things like that so it does become quite
complicated in terms of where your views on money
come from But That's not what's important right
now, which really important is to identify and
get clear about
Do you really think about wealth and about money
and what views do you have so you may even wanna
pause the video and think about that for a few
seconds or a few minutes How do you actually feel
about money and wealth and people who are
successful now and I know this doesn't apply to
everyone if you feel like You're in a state where
you do not have as much money or resources as you
would truthfully like to have if you're really
honest with yourself you have three options. The
first is the B&B and this is not exactly what I
would recommend. This is being broke and bitter
If you want more money than you have. But you
continue to believe that money is bad and rich
people are bad
Then not only You're gonna be broke but you're
going to be bitter and that is not a person
anyone wants to be around and You'll probably
create a cycle that just makes things worse and
worse for you The second option is to be broke
but happy as f*** because you accept being broke
and you decide That's the choice you want to make
listen. We all decide the type of life we want to
have whether we want to be a traveling hippy or
an entrepreneur who bounces around the world or
whether we want to go work on Wall Street and
make as much money as we can to make up Whatever
hole we have inside of ourselves That's,
ultimately a choice we all have and it's not for
any of us to judge. Although I'm totally judging
here, clearly on that ultimately, people are
wired differently and it's not really up for us
to judge. Although clearly I have a little
judgment in this because That's the choices
people make where you can get in a lot of trouble
is if your simultaneously playing the comparison
game so you're looking at what You've accumulated
in terms of resources and you compare yourself to
someone who is a Wall Street whoever who's
working a hundred hours a week and his dedicated
themselves their entire life purpose is to make
as much money as
And your purpose like you like to travel and play
music and connect with people and have
interesting stories But in the back of your mind,
maybe because of your parents or how you grew up
or whatever you're still comparing yourself to
those other people and yes. I'm totally Psycho
analyzing myself with this completely so you're
playing this comparison game where you're
comparing yourself to people who are completely
dedicated they're killing their bodies with
stress they're working way too hard. They
probably have pretty crappy relationships based
on the amount of hours they work and yet you're
comparing your income to theirs that Doesn't make
a lot of sense right. That's where you End up
with the bitterness to the key for the second
option here is to accept what you want out of
life is to say, Hey Here's. What I really want
here's. What I'm going to be happy with and make
sure that That's accurate for you. Don't lie to
yourself here and then stop playing the
comparison game stop being bitter towards other
people. Stop whatever Just do your own thing run
your own race and the third option might be to
change your views around money Maybe watching
this video, You've realized that you picked up
some beliefs around money from
Someone in your childhood that really isn't
someone you should be picking up beliefs around
money for maybe realize that money. In many
cases, there are some scam, artists and some
out there. But in many cases money is an
indicator of work of contribution of what we're
doing this isn't always true, of course But if
you are an entrepreneur, you are someone working
for yourself Money is a measurement of how much
you're doing how much they're contributing to
other people because people generally pay you for
what you do and what you give them. So if You're
not getting a lot of money you're probably not
contributing nearly as much as you could so maybe
part of that belief resonates with you and you
think you know what I'm gonna try this on and try
it out
Couple tips for you that can help change beliefs
around money and is especially helpful if perhaps
you're in a moment of scarcity I've been there.
I've been to the point where when I would go to a
coffee shop or a 711 and buy like a coffee when I
put my debit card on the machine I would be
worried about whether it would be approved for
like the $3 coffee and for years I carried that
nervousness with me like no matter how much money
was in my Bank account even today when the thing
clicks in his approved when I'm buying something
on card I'm always like okay That's How Much it
stuck with me okay so if you are in a refer spot
like that one approach that was shared with me
which is an awesome way to change your wiring in
this unconscious feeling of being broke and not
having enough this feeling of scarcity scarcity
is one of the worst feelings we can have It
completely destroys our ability to Dream bigger
to be creative and I think also makes us treat
other people horribly is carry around $500 or
$500. You cannot come up with $500 now no matter
what would make sense given the scenario
a hundred dollars the most money you can Come up
with to carry it around with you always but not
spend it so no matter what when you are out like
just get an extra hundred dollars right, save
some money for a little bit. Maybe you adjust
this to your own country depending on what
a hundred dollars U would be the point of this is
that if you always have a hundred dollars with
you you don't ever have to spend it But You're
always now making a choice so when you go into a
store It's not I Can't have that it I choose not
to buy it You're always making a choice and I
tell you if you carry around a decent sum of
money and you choose to not spend
But you now have the feeling like you could if
you wanted to you are not broke you're just
choosing to keep that money It will rewire your
Association with money so quickly It will have a
massively positive impact. The second thing I
recommend doing in terms of changing some money
biases is change your sources of information
start reading autobiographies of successful
entrepreneurs. One that I could not recommend
enough is shoe dog by Phil Night Here's, a guy
who built his entire company from the ground up
he's very wealthy and did so Giving value did so
following a passion of his and honestly just a
great book books like that books by Richard
Branson. I tend to really love as well find
people who have earned a lot of money but do so
by contributing value and trying to make the
world a better place. Elon Musk again might be
another example as well find people who are
wealthy but God that way trying to do good things
and trying to make things better for the world
and You'll probably find that yeah all of these
people probably have the odd skeleton here There
we all make the odd bad choices. I think Richard
Branson smuggled in records at one point and did
some time in jail We all make the odd bad
choices. But You'll probably find that if you
actually look for the good instead of taking this
evil media bias like let's tear down anyone who's
been successful let's show how bad money is if
you look for the good you'll probably find that a
lot of wealthy people have contributed a ton they
have done their best to make the world a better
place Even though It's usually tied they're not
going out trying to be philanthropists
necessarily at least not initially. You do have
people like Bill Gates but they're going out
there trying to build a business and trying to
make something better like the running
The airline experience, but in the process they
make the world a better place. They create jobs
They contribute to other people lives and get
wealthy So I would highly recommend maybe I'll
list some of my favorite books in the description
below with some links there as well So if you do
wanna, check out those books but really just look
for more positive sources of information.
Generally media is not a great place to be
spending your time anyhow and this is especially
true if you find yourself feeling scarcity
Ain't Worried feeling like you don't have enough
That's. What the media thrives off of so I would
really recommend putting down the buzz feed The I
would really recommend putting down the buzz
feed. Then Fox News The Huffington Post
in Exchange for some audio books Some real books
Maybe things like that My massively change your
views on the world and lead to a much happier,
more prosperous life Now if You're brave enough
in the comments below share what's one or two of
your beliefs around money that you got growing up
and ideally where you live as well. What country
you're from because that might be a really cool
way for us to see the beliefs of Peace and how we
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