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How to own it.
And I have a special guest, Ms. Lili Whiteass.
Channeling Your Alter Ego
LILI: I decided to get into drag because I loved women's fashion.
That was like, like definitely one --
I loved women's fashion and I loved performing.
MAYA: Right.
LILI: And the only two things that were performing
in gay nightlife were drag queens and go-go boys.
[sassy voice] And I was not no go-go boy.
So if you were to break it down,
someone who was like insecure or shy,
doesn't know how to deal with life,
because my whole thing is like,
I can like give you all these tips --
Well, drag is like putting on an armor.
MAYA: Right.
LILI: It's like, you know when you're going out
and facing crowd, and audiences, and performing and interacting
you know, you become somebody, you transform literally.
And you know it's a persona that is larger than life.
I was like saying that
this gown doesn't puddle, it makes a pond.
I'm like, people are like, "How tall are you?"
I'm like, "I'm on a Segway right now.
Moving through the party."
For me, like getting in touch with your feminine,
like letting go of everything that's masculine,
[sassy voice] and I know it's not that much. [Maya laughs]
But it's still like, you know, letting go of the masculine,
and getting in-touch with my feminine,
and just like owning all that is woman,
and being a woman, and like what is that?
MAYA: What is that?
LILI: So that is the big transformation,
and just like really like [snaps] is she sassy tonight?
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Why drag?
Well, I'm always serving the fashion runway.
She's always serving, designer.
This is great, like it's so amazing, like you get to,
and as a drag queen, you know you really choose everything.
MAYA: Yeah.
From what you're going to perform,
to what you're going to look like,
to what your name is going to be,
to what you're going to say, to the jokes, you know,
or whatever, you create the whole thing.
So it is this moving, creative vision of your own.
So how can that help someone who is shy
or insecure in dealing with the world?
LILI: Well I think any form of expression
I think can really help, and I think if you're shy,
like, my thing is like
I think, first you have to own your own looks,
I think, like owning your own self, you know what I mean?
Like being comfortable with your own self and like,
whatever is different about you, own that,
because that is,
I think it's amazing and beautiful to be unique.
It's awesome to be different.
MAYA: What if this person is like,
for example on a smaller scale,
not into entertainment, just living life?
Just living their life?
Owning who you are is always the main thing,
like owning your own unique sense of you,
and your own sense of style is like I think your own armor,
like going to school, like is your clothes are basically
what people see you by, like your makeup, your hair.
First you have to love yourself,
because how the hell are you going to love somebody else
if you can't love yourself?
If someone is shy, I say push themselves,
they need to try something that they've never done.
Even like trying something new on a menu,
like maybe, like you know I never tried couscous,
like I'm going to down and get me some couscous
in the cafeteria or wherever you are,
just I think it's trying something new,
because you always learn something.
So, and that builds confidence you know?
The other thing is like, if you feel good, you look good,
you emote that.
So going to the gym, eating right,
just how you feel and how you look like --
MAYA: That's why my channel is so all over the place
because it's, because for me being shameless
is not just like this, "Oh do these things
and you'll be shameless." It's about like a lifestyle.
That "it" thing is you,
you know really understanding who you are.
Beyonce was interviewed,
and they were talking about her Sasha Fierce,
and she said, "Well, I just use Sasha Fierce
to get me to a place to perform,
and now I don't need that anymore."
LILI: I'm like Lili Whiteass is crazy,
she's always up on stage doing the most.
And that's why I'm constantly am doing karate chop jump splits,
and like running jump splits,
and I have permanent burns on my inner knees,
and just like a pulled hamstring,
because I can't help it,
when I'm in that moment it is like the inner,
like the inner-diva, and that just rage and fire and energy
just comes out of you,
and it's like, "Attack!" [making energetic noises]
So you need your armor, which is your clothing.
LILI: Whatever it is, yeah, your armor,
your intelligence, that's always a good armor.
Do your homework. Do your homework.
And owning like everything, from like the look --
- Head to toe. - Head to toe,
like it's like completely --
- Inner and outer. - Inside out.
H to the T to the I to the O,
come on everybody you've got to own.
Remember to do you, be you,
stay true, be shameless.
And mine is --
What is yours?
Make or do something beautiful every day.
That's beautiful.
Comment below
and let me know some life motto tip you always flow with.
Y'all know what mine is.
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