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So narcissists, they have this kind of like love-hate relationship with you,
but sometimes they really just seem to hate you,
I mean, I don't know, I kind of had that feeling when
I was dealing with some of them in my personal life,
it's like, they kind of want you around,
but then sometimes it's like,
you just get this feeling like they kind of have
this underlying rage and hate against you and
you just can't figure it out, right?
At one in time, they like dying to have you in their lives,
Why, why is it there?
Why do they just seem to hate you?
They can't stand it, that green-eyed monster,
it blinds them, that they're so jealous of you.
So, that’s one of the reasons,
I mean, I remember with one of the narcissists that I had to deal with,
I mean, if anything good would happen to me and
be like,
oh, umm… so…
good for you. I mean, they could barely get the words out just to be like,
happy for the other person.
I mean, it was just like, “I’m happy for you”
They're just so so jealous of your success.
So, that's one of the reasons
that they can absolutely hate you.
Number two is they are extremely
they're okay with people liking you.
They just don't want them to, like you
better than they like them,
especially if you're at, like, a couple or maybe a business partner situation.
Or something like that. It's like they can like you
but if it gets to a point
where they seem to like you better than them,
then it's not okay because you know,
they get nervous because remember they're very,
very insecure and they don't have any sense of self.
So they get nervous that they're going to be,
you know, locked out of the situation that they're not going to be part of it anymore
or something like that.
So they get very very jealous when people like you
better than them,
so that's number two. Number three.
or anyone
It can be… not even you.
if anyone is getting attention
other than other than themselves,
like, if they see that,
somebody else is getting some kind of
Accolade Ward, or you know,
somebody’s work is being awarded something,
or being noticed for something good that they did.
You know, how come they're being noticed?
Why are they being rewarded?
or getting some kind of any kind of attention for being good at something or whatever?
They don't like to see that at all.
or even if somebody is succeeding,
you know, somebody got into law school.
Somebody did well.
somebody is excelling at something.
They're doing amazing things.
They don't like to see that
they’re very, very jealous of other people doing well.
They don't, they don't like it
when other people are successful
or when people are getting attention in any way other than themselves,
which is why, by the way
they don't necessarily like holidays.
They don't like birthdays, you know,
because they don't like when
other people are getting attention,
other than themselves
and I did a whole video on this, by the way
called why narcissts ruin holidays,
which you could definitely check out, but that's why they're horrible during holidays.
and that's why.
So if anything is going on
where you're not paying attention to them,
they start to get gloomy and babyish
and they start acting up,
So that's that's number four.
They hate when you're not paying attention to them.
they don't like when you start to feel confident in yourself,
or, you know, more confident than you used to feel,
or something like that. I mean, when you start to feel better about yourself,
than you might have in the past,
they start to feel jealous of that, or they start to feel threatened by that in some way.
So that's the next one.
They also hate it
like if a person has the confidence
that they want to have
or a life that they want to have,
they'll hate you for that as well.
I mean, they feel very, very jealous of people who have anything that they want
so life that they want to have
or the feelings that they want to have, the confidence that they want to have.
They get threatened or jealous by that for sure.
They're just super jealous or threatened in general of pretty much anything
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all right, so number seven is
Which could be pretty much anything at all.
I mean, even if you aren't even betraying them,
I mean they can just kind of decide that
you betrayed them
because you had a conversation
with somebody at a party
or you said pass the salt at a dinner party to a random person, or whatever.
they can just kind of decide that.
anything is a betrayal, but,
you know, with narcissts,
they see things in black and white
and for sure.
They see you as either for them or against them.
If you are against them
you are definitely Public Enemy Number One
So you have to either be
for them or against them
and anything could potentially be a betrayal
and they really hate it if you betray them.
So, that's number seven, and number eight.
Number eight, may surprise you
because they hate themselves
and so, in some weird subconscious way, they kind of hate you because you love them
and especially if you're in a romantic situation with them,
they almost kind of disrespect you or hate you,
if you love them. So that's number eight.
Those are the eight reasons that narcissist hate you
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