now respect is absolutely critical for long-term success of a romantic
relationship I mean Studies have shown that a lack of respect is one of the
main predictors of a breakup so what is the definition of respect basically it's a deep
admiration for someone based on their abilities qualities or achievements and when you're truly
respected you're gonna feel appreciated seen and safe in the relationship and when you're
disrespected you're gonna constantly feel angry and resentful so regardless of how
good you might think the relationship is love is not a reason to tolerate disrespect so here
are eight signs he doesn't respect you and if he has any of these sides it's time to
say that magical four-letter word which is next and move on to the next keep watching
foreign number one is that he ignores your boundaries look healthy relationships are all
about establishing and respecting one another's boundaries and boundaries can be physical they
can be emotional they can be sexual they can be Financial it can be even time related respecting
your time there's a lot of interesting research that finds that when people violate our boundaries
it can actually lead to a lot of anxiety and a lot of Fallout in both our personal and professional
relationships and look he's not going to come right out and say I don't respect or value your
boundaries but he will definitely push you on them okay he might joke around say come on don't be
approved like let's hook up let's try to do this maybe if that's pushing a sexual boundary things
said like that jokingly they're really not jokes so if you don't ever feel like you can say no to
things or really create a healthy separation then it's time to learn more about boundaries
and start setting them and realizing that you have power in the relationship number two is
he lies if he lies about one thing he's gotta lie about other things now these could be like
outright in your face lies or these could be even stories that are embellished or where he wasn't
just being completely honest if he's willing to share this type of stuff he's comfortable with
total dishonesty and thinks it's normal if your relationship is based on an undercurrent of Lies
then your relationship will end it just really shows that your partner doesn't care about the
impact their actions have on your life and that they're only thinking about themselves I mean
even small white lies can be really harmful and that's why we recommend as part of Love strategies
living and dying by this idea of being sincerely candid with everyone in your life sincere Candor
is essentially committing to always telling the truth and always be open with someone just do it
in a sincere and compassionate way it's something we recommend in romantic relationships and even
in professional relationships so long as you have the right culture for sincere Candor I mean even
here love strategies we have a growing team right now we're at a team of 12 and we're growing every
single week and one of our our value systems is sincere Candor basically that means we are
a no [ __ ] culture all right so if you have something to say say it don't lie be open with
people even if it's a white lie even if someone's saying something you're like oh that's so nice oh
yay now because once you start telling these little white lies and giving people positive
reinforcement for things that they shouldn't get positive reinforcement for suddenly you get an
entire culture in a relationship or a company of just people bullshitting each other and creating
this like kind of fake facade and not actually getting to the truth so I'm a strong believer
in always telling the truth always be open with people just do it in a kind and compassionate
way it is possible number three is he cheats on you I don't think it requires a video to say if
he cheats on you then he doesn't love you and it is the ultimate form of disrespect number four is
that he uses your insecurities against you I mean he shouldn't be weaponizing your feelings like in
a relationship you really should feel safe enough to open up share those deep thoughts
and experiences and really lean on your partner for comfort and support and if your guy takes
the things that you share and kind of throws them back at you in your face whether it's to
hurt you or to win an argument it is a major red flag number five is that he verbally abuses you
during an argument only to take note of how your guy really acts when you're in a fight screaming
shouting name-calling mocking getting in your face all of these are a sign of disrespect
whereas listening and trying to really understand your perspective your point of view and kind of
taking ownership of his actions these are signs of respect number six is he constantly interrupts
you when you're talking this is the [ __ ] worse isn't it is he the type of guy who talks over you
interrupts your stories speaks on your behalf because what you're saying is not interesting
enough for everyone so he needs to speak for you finishes your sentences and unlike the cute way
that couples kind of do it like finishes your sentences because it's like yeah okay like let
me do the talk in here he doesn't listen or he you know all of this stuff is a deep sign of
disrespect all of this shows what he really thinks about you he thinks that he's Superior and that is
a deep sign of disrespect number seven is that he is totally controlling do you lack total privacy
and Independence in the relationship do you have to explain everywhere you're going and everyone
who will be there and you have to check your phone all the time or maybe even opens your email or
reads your Journal although do people keep a lot of journals these days I don't know whatever if
he's doing any of those things unacceptable total signs of disrespect and now number eight and this
could be a sneaky one sometimes where he makes a big decision without you a relationship really is
a team and when it comes to the big things in a relationship these things really need to be
discussed like where to live what type of car to buy if you want to have a pet or not if you
want to have children obviously all these types of things these are very very big decisions and
if you find that he's going rogue on some of these big decisions for example let's say he comes home
with a puppy for you and never talk to you about getting pop that is a really cute nice thing to
do and sometimes that's okay it might work out in that scenario but if he does this without
actually ever talking to you that can actually be a sign of disrespect no matter how cute the puppy
really is so in all these situations whether it's a cute puppy or anything else discussed
in this video it's so important for you to assert yourself and create those boundaries and if he is
not willing to be more respectful to you then you know what we're not going to stick around for him