AND
AND FOR
AND FOR YOUR LOVE, PRAYERS AND SUPPORT.
SUPPORT.
SUPPORT. >> Reporter: A 4@LITTLE BOY
FACING 4@A LONG ROAD TO RECOVER
>>> MY MESSAG4@E TO ANY WOMAN W
FACING 4@A LONG ROAD TO RECOVER >>> MY MESSAG4@E TO ANY WOMAN W@
HAS BEEN IN THIS SITUATION IS
ONE HAT I'M SO SORRY, AND YOU 4@
SHOULD NEVER BE PUT IN A
SITUATION TO BEGIN WITH.
BUT I ALWAYS BELIEVE THAT IF
SHARING MY STORY HELPS ONE
WOMAN FEEL HEARD OR A LITTLE
MORE SAFE OR SHE 4@CAN SAY
SOMETHING AS WELL, THEN IT IS
ALWAYS WORTH IT.
>> THAT IS KELLY TENANT, A
FORMER SPORTS REPORTER IN AN 4@
EMOTIONAL NEWS CONFERENCE AS
SHE ANNOUNCES SHE 4@IS4@ SUING
SACRAMENTO KINGS' COACH FOR
SEXUAL ASSAULT.
SEXUAL ASSAULT. SHE ALLEGES IN LATE 2014 WHEN
SHE WAS 25, SHE HAD 4@A FRIENDL
RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM AND
AGREED TO GO TO 4@HIS HOTEL ROO
TO DROP OFF A BOOK.
ONCE INSIDE, HE HELD HER DOWN
ON THE BED 4@LAUGHING WHEN SHE
TOLD HIM TO STOP.
HIS LAWYER IS CALLING THAT
CLAIM FACELESS.
CLAIM FACELESS. IT 4@BRIDGES UP A CONVERSATION
ABOUT CONSENT IN RELATIONSHIPS
AND I'M SO GLAD 4@TO HAVE SUSAN
HERE TO TALK ABOUT THIS
IMPORTANT TOPIC.
IMPORTANT TOPIC. THANKS FOR BEING 4@HERE.
>> THANK YOU.
>> WE TALKED ABOUT THIS BEFORE,
NEEDING CLEAR AND 4@UNEQUIVOCAL
AFFIRMATION FROM ANY SEXUAL
PARTNER THAT WHAT YOU'RE ABOUT
TO 4@DO IS OKAY.
HOW DO WE DEFINE 4@SEXUAL
ASSAULT?
ASSAULT?
ASSAULT? IT IS ANY UNWANTED 4@SEXUAL
ACTIVITY THAT HAS HAPPENED
WITHOUT CONSENT.
WITHOUT CONSENT. SO THE CONSENT IS SO KEY IN
THIS CONVERSATION AND MAKING 4@
SURE THAT 4@EVERYONE KNOWS THAT
CONSENT IS THAT.
AS YOU SAID, THAT ENTHUSIASTIC
AFFIRMATION THAT 4@THIS IS OKAY
AND ASSURANCE THAT I HAVE THE
CAPACITY TO 4@MAKE THAT
AFFIRMATION AND THAT THAT
AFFIRMATION CAN BE REVOKED AT
ANYTIME WHEN IT IS NOT OKAY.
>> YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT WHETHER
SOMEONE MIGHT BE DRINKING OR
UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF DRUGS 4@
AND MAYBE NOT ABLE TO GIVE FULL
CONSENT.
CONSENT.
CONSENT. >> ABSOLUTELY.
>> ABSOLUTELY. OR SOMEONE HAS BEEN 4@DRUGGED A
IS NOT ABLE TO GIVE CONSENT.
>> SO APRIL IS SEXUAL 4@ASSAULT
AWARENESS MONTH.
AWARENESS MONTH. SHE DIDN'T COME FORWARD FOR
YEARS 4@UNTIL JUST RECENTLY AND
HOW COMMON IS THAT?
WE KIND OF CRITICIZE PEOPLE FOR
DOING THAT, RIGHT?
>> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT. UNFORTUNATELY.
UNFORTUNATELY. INCORRECTLY AND WRONGLY WE
CRITICIZE FOLKS.
CRITICIZE FOLKS. YES, IT CAN BE VERY COMM4@ON.
QUOTE, THERE 4@IS NO PROFILE HO
A RESPOND DER WILL SU4@RVIVE EA
TIME4@, OFTEN TIME SURVIVORS AR
AFRAID 4@OF NOT BEING BELIEVED
AFRAID OF RETALIATION, AFRAID
OF SOMEONE BLAMING THEM 4@FO4@R
WHAT HAPPENED TO THEM AND YOU
KNOW IF THERE IS ONE MESSAGE
THAT IS PROBABLY 4@THE MOST
MESSAGE -- IMPORTANT MESSAGE TO
SHARE AND THAT IS, RAPE, SEXUAL
ASSAULT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.
IF YOU ARE THE SURVIVOR, IT IS
NOT YOUR FAULT.
THERE IS NOTHING THAT YOU 4@SAI
IT IS NOT WHERE YOU WERE.
IT IS NOT WHAT YOU WERE
WEARING.
WEARING.
WEARING. IT IS NONE OF THOSE THINGS.
IT IS SOMEONE'S CHOICE TO TAKE
ADVANTAGE OF YOU AS 4@A SURVIVO
AND COMMIT RAPE.
>> SO4@ HOW DO WE SUPPORT THOSE
WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED THIS,
BECAUSE I AM SURE IT IS 4@
UNCHARTS WATERS FOR 4@THEIR
FRIENDS AND FAMILIES AT TIMES
AS WELL, CORRECT?
>> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. BELIEVE THE PERSON WHEN THEY
ARE SHARING THAT WITH YO4@U,
BECAUSE OBVIOUSLY, IT IS NOT AN
EASY THING TO SHARE.
IF THEY ARE FEARFUL, IF THEY
ARE AFRAID OF BEING BLAMED.
IF THEY ARE AFRAID THAT THEIR
ABUSER, THEIR RAPIST, THE
PERSON WHO WAS SEXUALLY
ASSAULTING 4@OF THEM IS GOING T
STILL BE IN THE PICTURE, THAT
MAY QUIET SOMEONE AND 4@SILENCE
SOMEONE, SO IT IS REALLY -- IT
TAKES A LOT FOR SOMEONE TO 4@
SHARE THAT THAT WAS SOMETHING
THAT HAPPENED.
THAT HAPPENED. AGAIN, TO THEM.
WITHOUT ANY FAULT OR BLAME ON
THEMSELVES.
THEMSELVES. >> YOU TOLD ME PEOPLE CAN BE
TRAUMATIZED AND PARALYZED BY
WHAT HAPPENED.
WHAT HAPPENED. >> IT IS A TRAUMATIC EVENT.
IT IS A CRIME.
IT IS SOMETHING THAT CAUSES THE
TRAUMATIC 4@RESPONSE AND THERE
A PHYSIOLOGICAL RESPONSE TO
TRAUMA THAT CAN SOMETIMES 4@
SUPRESS THAT EXPERIENCE AND
THEN NOT UNTIL LATER UNTIL
SOMETHING ELSE MAYBE TRIGGERS
IT, UNTIL 4@PERHAPS THERE ARE
OTHER STORIES THAT THAT PERSON
HEARS OR THEY SAY 4@IT WITH
SOMEONE AND ARE THEN DECIDE,
WELL, I AM GOING TO SHARE 4@THI
BEYOND MY FRIEND.
>> ABLE TO TALK ABOUT IT.
>> EXACTLY.
>> EXACTLY. AND MAYBE YOU CAN CHANGE
SOMEBODY ELSE'S LIFE.
>> AND IF YOU KNOW ANYONE IN A
CRISIS OR UNSAFE 4@RELATIONSHIP
SAFE