Hello my wonderful friend! Today's video is on six secrets women wish you knew.
What you are about to learn comes from my extensive research and my training as
a certified coach. Not to mention my insights as a woman.
The most surprising thing may be the very last one so make sure you pay very
close attention to that one. If this is your first time watching be sure to
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My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men and I help good
guys get the girl of your dreams so be sure to subscribe and ring that bell. Now
no lie, I had a comment the other day, actually I get comments like this about
once a week, but this particular comment said "What? A female coach? No thank you.
You do not ask the fish how to catch a fish, you ask the fishermen." And the truth
is, he would actually have been right if we had been talking about fish, which of
course we are not. The truth is, I feel really bad for the guys who leave me
these comments because the truth is, by having that mindset they're actually
missing out one of the best tools they could have, one of their very best assets.
Now I in no way intend to come across as saying there's not a place for male
coaches, because the truth is, there is and there are very good ones, that's not
my point. Here is what I wish I could explain to the guys who leave me these
comments though. They're thinking about it all wrong. Let's pretend for
just a second that you just found out that you got a new job and it is in a
foreign country. You leave tomorrow. Like tomorrow. And this foreign country speaks
a different language than you do and they have completely different cultures
and you have to leave tomorrow. Would you be freaking out a little bit? I mean I
certainly would be. Let's say though that you found out that they have actually
provided you with a guide. Someone who speaks the native language fluently and
will translate for you and help you be able to speak it fluently. This guide is
very familiar with the culture there because this guide is a native.
Would that be valuable to you? Would that be something you'd be interested in?
This is the value of a female coach. The truth is, when you become familiar with
the culture and familiar with the language in a foreign country you can
become very, very fluent and very comfortable and really enjoy your stay.
So does this kind of make sense? Is it easier to see why understanding
what women really want changes everything? Just like once you understand
the culture and the language in a foreign country it gets a lot more fun,
the same is true when you understand what it is women are thinking. I'm going
to be sharing with you six things that are incredibly powerful that most men
don't know but that are really, really important to women. So just by being here
and just by watching this video you are like ahead of the game my friend. So with
that let's get started. The first secret that women wish men knew is that your
personality really does matter, like a lot. Physical attraction is nice,
obviously, and it's definitely something you should bring to the table, but the
truth is, women really care about your personality. We live in a society that
puts so much emphasis on physical appearance when the truth is, your
personality is equally if not even more important. So if a woman meets a man who
is physically attractive but has zero personality and is not remotely
interesting, she's done. There's nothing to keep her there. She's not interested.
So this is why it's important to make sure you have a growth mindset and
you're always working on who you are as a person. That's what makes you
interesting and attractive and irresistible. But just know that your
personality totally matters. That is a deal breaker to women and she wants to
see that, she wants to get to know your personality, and so don't feel like you
have to hide that. Your personality is super cute and it really does matter.
Bottom line, she cares about who you are and not just about what you look like.
The second secret women wish you knew is that she doesn't want you to hide your
flaws. As humans we kind of feel like we have to come across as perfect, right? I
have certainly fallen into this trap. We all want to appear perfect because we
want people to like us. The true is, though we don't seek out partners who
we feel are better than us because that makes us feel like less, it makes us feel
inadequate. As a matter of fact, if a guy tries to present himself as perfect all
the time he actually will repel most women. The exception is toxic women will
actually want to show him off as a prize. "Oh look I got the perfect man." But real,
good women, no we just want you. And when you show your flaws oh my goodness that
means we can show ours too and that's like at a huge relief. If you're not
perfect we don't have to be perfect either. And the truth is, we're all humans,
right? We are all imperfect and that's part of what makes us perfect for each
other. So it's okay to let your guard down and let her see the real you,
because again, a good woman, all she wants is to see the real you. The third secret
women wish you knew is that we love it when you dress really nice. If you've
been watching my videos for a while this won't surprise you. Guys,
you look hot when you look hot, okay? It looks super, super nice. Just like you
appreciate it when a girl gets all dressed up and looks gorgeous for you
she really appreciates it when you get all dressed up nice for her, when your
clothes are well fitting and they flatter you and when you're very
well-groomed. This obviously shows how attractive you are, which is a plus, but
it also says something about who you are and the kind of respect you have for
yourself and that you will have for her. Have you ever gone to someone's
house or known someone who is just like sloppy and you walk in their front door
and the house is kind of like a mess and it kind of smells funny every time you
go and you just kind of feel uncomfortable there? Have you ever been
in that situation? The same is true of how we present ourselves. Sloppy
has never been attractive and it will never be attractive, it just won't. So it
shows that you have respect. Just like someone who takes care of their house
shows that they have respect and that they have class the same is true with
how you present yourself. So long story short, when you dress
actively and when you are well-groomed it shows her that yeah you're super hot
and also it tells her a little bit about who you are as a person. Now if you need
help knowing how to dress super hot, don't worry I got some videos for you on
that, be sure to at least check out this one,
but I do have others in the description below for you. Be sure to check them out,
they will help you tons. Now quick question before we keep going. I've never
done a video on things girls wish guys knew or secrets girls wish you knew. If
you would like me to do more on this be sure to comment "YES!" in the comments
below and I will be sure to do that for you. Alright, so our next thing that women
wish you knew is that there is nothing as hot as a guy who cares, a guy who is
kind and sensitive and sincere. That is super, super attractive. Again, if
you've been watching my videos for a while you know that one thing that is
really important to women is to feel safe. If you want to attract a woman and
if you want her to be your girlfriend you need to make sure she feels safe
with you. And this is like the key to making her feel safe, is to just be a
nice guy, to show her you are caring and you are
sensitive and that you are there for her. Now there is a really important thing
you need to know about this. This does not work if you are only nice and caring
and sensitive to her. It has to be real, it has to be authentic. You can't just
treat her right and everybody else eh you don't really care so much
about. That comes through to women, women notice those things. So you just have to
make sure that you are a kind person all the way around. Now I am going to mention
because I'm sure I will get a comment about this "Oh nice guys finish last."
I know we've all heard it. That is actually not true and in this video I explain why
and that if that has been true for you what you can do to fix it. There's a link
to that video in the description below, make sure you watch it, it will help you
tons. And the next thing women wish you knew is that she doesn't need you to fix
it. Classic scenario for you. Girl comes home from work, she's tired
and a little bit upset, it was a hard day and she starts telling him about it. And
instantly, because it's in his nature, he wants to like fix it, like he wants to go
out there he wants to make things happen and take care of her.
Where what she really wants is for him to just listen to her. Now please
understand it is in your nature as a man to want to get out there and fix it and
defend her and protect her. And the truth is, that is super hot and that is one
thing that really attracts women to men and one thing that makes women feel safe
with a man, but it only works in certain situations. Most of the time when she's
just telling you about something that is upsetting her or a hard time or
something like that all she wants, all she wants is to feel
validated. She wants to feel like you understand her and that you are
listening to her. That is a deal breaker for a woman. That makes her feel
connected to you and attracted to you and that's what makes her feel important
to you. So yes, there's absolutely a time and a place for you to get out there and
you to defend and that is super attractive to her, but most of the time
all she wants is for you to just listen and validate how she's feeling. The one
exception to this is if she is a toxic woman she wants you to fix it all day
long because she wants to be the center of your world. That's a whole different
story. Be sure to watch at least this video on toxic women, I will put links to
some others in the description below as well because that is a trait of a toxic
woman. If you're having problems with that that's a huge problem so check out
those videos for sure. So are you finding these things to be surprising? If you are
I want to hear about it in the comments. Let me know which one of these is the
biggest like surprise to you. And we are to the thing women wish guys knew that
bothers me the most. This is like my pet peeve you guys, so pay close attention to
this one. Women which guys knew that not all women play games. We've all heard it,
right? "Oh all women play games, oh all women play games." That is a
big fat lie. I actually heard someone say this the
other day and I got a little mad inside. And my first thought was "Well, I
don't and my friends don't and my mom doesn't and my sister doesn't. No, no, not
all girls play games. As a matter of fact, guys, you just deserve to know
this. Toxic women want men to think that all girls play games because toxic women
thrive on drama, they thrive on my games, they're all about feeding their egos. So
they want men to think that all girls play games because if you think that
well then you have to put up with them because that's all there is. The truth is,
there are so many amazing women on this planet who would never ever want to mess
with your mind, she just wouldn't. The truth is, from my perspective I don't
have time or interest to play with a guy. If I am interested in him, I'm
interested in him, and I wants to get to know him better and I want to flirt with
him and I want to have fun. I don't want to mess with him. If I care about a guy, I
care about a guy, so I want to treat him good. This is the case for so many women
so please don't feel like you have to settle for a woman who plays games. Why
in the world would you want to settle for a woman like that when you could
have a woman who just wants to treat you with the respect and kindness you
deserve? Bottom line, not all women play games. Sadly, only toxic women play games.
Now this is just a brief overview of some of the things that women want, but
how would you like to know all of my secrets? I've put together some free
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amazing friend and have an amazing day. [blooper beep]
If this is your first time- [messed up] [laughter] Never mind.
let's pret- [messed up] I cannot talk. [laughter] I'm broken today.
And our next thing women wish you knew...
What? I totally had it in my head and then it was gone.
And the next thing-
Wait what? [laughing funnily] [laughing funnily again intentionally]
Now this is just a brief overview... Uh, wait, what?
[laughter] That was very brief. [laughter]