do any of you remember that time on friends when Phoebe realized that the
ending of Old Yeller was much different than she really thought well that's
exactly what we're gonna be talking about in this video and how it affects
children what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we
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old TV shows and in fact that gives me the perfect segue to introduce our very
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fbb on friends and how she was shielded as a child now I know throughout the
Friends series this happened multiple times but for some reason this is an
episode that really sticks out in my head so all of you who have not seen
this episode of Friends basically Phoebe Watson
everybody's watching Old Yeller and she talks about line what she you know what
happens at the end why is everybody so sad something happy happens right
they're like oh no Phoebe if that's what you think is gonna happen you better
close your eyes now right and she's like wait what and then boom she sees it
spoiler they got to put Old Yeller down so what happens is Phoebe realizes that
her her family was cutting off these shows or these movies when the back
endings would happen so Phoebe goes out gets all these different movies and she
decides to watch them in their entirety and see what actually happens and this
is something that I think is just really interesting because I'm a parent I'm a
father I have a ten-year-old son as I mentioned got that mini-fridge of this
room but this is something that a lot of us parents have to have to look at way
like we I think we don't look as much at the big picture and we just kind of try
to handle things like in those small versions right oh I want to shield my
child from this I want to show my child from that but as they grow older they're
going to encounter you know hardships so something that's really interesting is
the story of the Buddha right so those of you who don't know the background on
the Buddha he was actually a prince okay and his father shielded him from
all of the awful things okay this guy never saw any kind of poverty and it
kind of sickness anything like that but he knew he knew there was other
stuff going on outside of the palace walls so he went out there and that's
when he was introduced to human suffering right he's like wait wait a
second why am I being shielded from this because suffering is part of the human
experience and when we look at Phoebe and how you know her family was kind of
shielding it for that they were they were shielding her from something that
is pretty much inevitable right no matter what happens and maybe you know
maybe it's not death for a long time like some people are fortunate and they
don't have to deal with death until they're much older and they you know
they've been through some experiences and everything like that but think about
it there's so many things that happen in life that cause suffering and especially
when you're a child growing up like friends right you're gonna lose friends
you may get in arguments with your friends like my son's 10 years old and
sometimes we got a top few stuff that he dealing with in school but also like
think about when you're a teenager and you start getting into relationships and
your first heart aches but the other thing is - and I know friends is set
back like in the 90s right but today we live in this world of social media so
it's even harder to kind of mask what's going on in the world and present to our
child that everything is all unicorn and rainbows everywhere right because
they'll come across different things such as news my son is only ten and he
watches he watches pretty family-friendly
youtubers but some certain topics come up just kind of out of nowhere and he
talked to me and I talked to him about him in in an age-appropriate way right
like for example I'm the drug addict an alcoholic in recovery and since my son
has been I don't know five or six years old I've been open and honest with him
about it but in a very child appropriate way all right
I also worked at an addiction treatment center for three years and he he thought
I worked at like a hospital which I kind of did because we had impatient with
doctors and nurses everything like that but I had those discussions with him
okay but I truly believe we as parents or even as a society we are not doing
the younger generation any favors by shielding them from the realities that
is life the argument that I would put out there is that it actually makes
children more resilient but there's a balance that comes to it
so they need to be able to you know take in that information but then we talk to
him about it but then as you all know any adult who's been on the internet for
more than five minutes knows there is some awful awful things on the internet
so in my personal parenting opinion I'm not going to say you know like just let
your kids run wild let them walk let them go to the deep dark web of the
internet and find these awful things no I do think there should be restrictions
and everything like that but things that are happening in life you know they have
to be presented with that and I truly believe I truly believe one
of the best ways to have early interventions for young people is to
have the lives of community open from as younger than age as
possible right just having a child being able to open up to us about their
feelings their thoughts their emotions and everything like that
like what's fascinating too about this episode of friends with Phoebe is it was
movies right it was primarily movies I remember my son but he was younger and
hopefully he never sees this video because I'd be a little embarrassing for
him now that he's older well but when he was younger and he still is but he was
really really empathetic right like empathetic to like this extreme like
this was like a six and seven year old empath right and what I mean by that is
when we would watch movies when we would watch movies and a character in that
movie experience sadness if that character experienced loss or grief my
son would literally start crying and sometimes we would just be driving home
and he would just start crying what's wrong he's like I was thinking about the
character in that movie right but we were able to have a conversation about
it we were able to have a conversation
about how this is a fictional movie and there's one of the best ways to learn
about these things because yes these things can happen in real life but what
I would try to do with him is pull the positives from that right like not not
make-believe that bad things never happened in this life but point out
which characters showed strength and courage resilience
support to other people in their lives right if if a child went through
something talk to him about how their parents stepped in and we're there for
the child and how they had that support you see what I mean but my suggestion to
all of you if you are a parent with a child like mine used to be which was
extremely empathetic is teach them what I'm like kind of like what I do on this
channel is how can you take these feelings and turn it into something
positive in your real life right so my son and I would figure out ways for him
to do kind things for other people and to be there for other people um just a
year or two ago he saw that movie wonder that came out and he felt really bad for
that kid and we had a call sation about it so the solution to that
was being there for other kids who might be getting bullied or picked on because
they're different right so now my son you know he tries to befriend those kids
and have conversations and that's what I think we should do rather than trying to
shield them especially when it comes to like movies and TV shows that are like
you know age-appropriate is try to teach them what lessons that they can pull
from them that they can apply in their actual life all right but let me know
your thoughts on this topic down in the comment section below when you were a
child did your parents shield you from certain things how did that affect you
as you got older or are you a parent now what are your thoughts and opinions on
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