Anonymous from Australia. "Hello Tripp. Anonymous here. 34 years old from Australia. Thanks for
the great content. Once I got the balls to put it into practice, it helped me a lot.
I'm currently seeing a woman. We've known each other for a few years, but only recently started
dating and sleeping together. I'm also newly on a few dating apps talking to other women,
but haven't gone on any dates yet. My question is, I would like to date and sleep with other women
until things become more serious with one of them. But I don't want to do anything unethical or hurt
any of the women. At what point is it not okay to be dating and sleeping with other women?
Obviously, if we have the relationship talk, that is one thing. But is there a certain point where
it is not okay? A certain amount of dates in? Once we have slept together a certain amount of times?
I haven't had much dating experience. But because of your content and my own personal growth,
I find myself in a position now where I have the opportunity to get more dates, but find myself
unsure of how to proceed in this situation. I have feelings for the current girl I'm seeing but don't
want to put all my eggs in one basket and at the same time I don't want to hurt anyone or
make a mess of things. I appreciate any advice you can give. Anonymous." Great question. I've
talked about this on the podcast, but always happy to talk about this again.
Everyone's gonna have their own opinion on this. This is an opinion question. I'll give my opinion.
At what point is it not okay to be dating and sleeping with other women? I say you
can do that up to the point where you're pretty close to getting into a committed, exclusive,
monogamous relationship. All those are quite synonymous of each other. When you're in one of
those... obviously, if you get to that point where you guys have a talk, like who are you seeing? Are
you seeing anybody else? Are you sleeping with anybody else? At that point, obviously, it goes
without saying, that's when you shouldn't. When you feel like it's coming really close to that...
and you'll know, this probably doesn't happen till 3 to 4 to 5, we'll just say 3 to 6 months
of consistently seeing each other. Anywhere in that realm where you're like, "Alright,
I'm seeing this woman... we're seeing each other once or twice a week... we've been doing it now
for 3+ months..." Still, is it unethical? No it's not. It might... her feelings might be hurt.
But it's not... I don't think it's unethical. Cheating is unethical.
But just because someone hurt, or is feeling hurt, I don't believe that is unethical.
For example, if you go up to a woman and you approach her on the street to say hello
and she rejects you... you're gonna feel hurt, right? You might, let's say in this example you
do. Was that unethical of her to reject you? No. I don't want you to be confused by what's unethical
and people feeling hurt. It's not always the same thing. You might be dating a woman for, let's say,
two months and you see her every week and you guys are sleeping together and you have all these great
times together and she finds out or you tell her that you're dating other women, yeah, she might
be hurt. I don't think that's unethical. But this is up to you to see what you want. I mean,
at the end of the day, I understand that women are dating and sleeping with lots of guys as well.
And in this case, is every woman going to be hurt? Maybe not. How do you know who's going to be hurt
and who's not going to be? Maybe that woman is also sleeping around and dating other
people? But you don't know. So are we going to just take the chances because
we're not sure if the woman's gonna be hurt or not? Because we don't know.
You don't need to be tiptoeing around this process. I think you can be dating other women,
sleeping with other women for several months that you are also dating and sleeping with other women
and they don't need to know. I don't believe in lying to them. And if they ask you that question,
I don't think you have to lie. They might not like it. They might say "That hurts and I don't want
to see you anymore. I thought it was only us." But that's on them and there's nothing unethical
there because you're not lying and you did not promise anything. There is no promise unless
there's a conversation. But to err on the side of caution and we don't want to hurt people... again,
you're with someone for 4 or 5 months and
you haven't had the talk yet... I don't know if you're gonna want to be, if you're looking
for relationship, you're gonna want to be swiping or meeting women in the 4 or 5 month
mark. But if you do meet someone and you do sleep with them but you haven't had the exclusive talk,
I don't believe that's unethical. That's my opinion. You can do what you want with
it. It sounds like you don't want to put all your eggs in one basket so you don't have to.
In my opinion, you do not have to. Anonymous from Australia, please by all means go out there,
meet women, have fun. You're not dedicating yourself to anyone. I think that's fine.